End of the half and its Cads 4, Dads 3, with several neutral comments.
Some additional comments - a few of you made too much of my word "legacy" and I probably shouldn't have used the word twice, so my bad. I used it more as a catch all of the fatherhood experience (the act of creating a human being, the joy of teaching a young man how to grow in the world, true love, etc). There is definitely more to it than simply passing on my genes for further generations.
I think bacon makes some excellent points. Some men crave the possibility of raising lots of rug rats and being the coach of little league and getting elected to the school board, etc (my best friend from childhood has 4 kids and loves that shit...but he also looks 10 years older than me!) but for a lot of guys (myself included) there is no underlying to desire to "complete yourself" by having kids. Let me provide a cynical, though all too common scenario on the typical process - mom & dad constantly tired, worried, no free time for about 20 years, with the occasional proud moment when Bobby makes the team or Suzie gets in the honor society. And after ALL that sacrifice, the kids go to college out of state, get a job even further away, and you see them twice a year until you are sick or dead. Wow, that was worth it!
To answer Big Nilla's questions,
1. What types/nationalities of girls are you into that aren't American? My physical preferences are dark haired girls with great skin so I usually go first for the southern euro vibe (Greek, Italian, Croatian) and also Asian and Hispanics. For some reason Asians seem to dig me much more than any other ethnic group so I probably hit that group more than others.
2. Where would you consider living outside the USA? Great question, I haven't thought it through with any depth. At this point, I would only exclude Africa.
Some additional comments - a few of you made too much of my word "legacy" and I probably shouldn't have used the word twice, so my bad. I used it more as a catch all of the fatherhood experience (the act of creating a human being, the joy of teaching a young man how to grow in the world, true love, etc). There is definitely more to it than simply passing on my genes for further generations.
I think bacon makes some excellent points. Some men crave the possibility of raising lots of rug rats and being the coach of little league and getting elected to the school board, etc (my best friend from childhood has 4 kids and loves that shit...but he also looks 10 years older than me!) but for a lot of guys (myself included) there is no underlying to desire to "complete yourself" by having kids. Let me provide a cynical, though all too common scenario on the typical process - mom & dad constantly tired, worried, no free time for about 20 years, with the occasional proud moment when Bobby makes the team or Suzie gets in the honor society. And after ALL that sacrifice, the kids go to college out of state, get a job even further away, and you see them twice a year until you are sick or dead. Wow, that was worth it!
To answer Big Nilla's questions,
1. What types/nationalities of girls are you into that aren't American? My physical preferences are dark haired girls with great skin so I usually go first for the southern euro vibe (Greek, Italian, Croatian) and also Asian and Hispanics. For some reason Asians seem to dig me much more than any other ethnic group so I probably hit that group more than others.
2. Where would you consider living outside the USA? Great question, I haven't thought it through with any depth. At this point, I would only exclude Africa.