so i fucked this blonde german girl in berlin. she was absolutely beautiful. i wrote about it on my blog. http://rivsdiary.wordpress.com/2012/12/31/in-riv-news/
but the point isn't bragging, even though i am very proud, the point is learning. results without process is just luck. learning and sharing. so, the question is not "how did i get laid", but *why* did i get laid. meaning, why did this hot girl pick me over other guys. i've been thinking about it, and thanks to roosh's thinking and research, i am also generating my own theories. well, nothing incredibly new but here it is:
the theory of "opposites attract".
let me explain. i am peruvian-japanese american. i am trying to think of who i look like, what actor or whatever. i like to say keanu reeves, but that's just a joke. i mean, in a way i do, because he is also mixed race, but he is also about 10x better looking than me. let's just say that people think i am from the phillipines or japan or mexico or peru or even a couple of times i have gotten italian. i have "asian hair", longish, straight, black, but not asian skin tone, and my eyes aren't fully asian, just a touch. anyway, my point is, i am "ethnic". not black, not brown, not yellow, but a mix.
and i am finally learning to play it up.
see, in america, i am a second class male. being peruvian means being second rate, from a poor country. nothing cool about it, no cache. i mean, a few SWPL hippie white girls will like it, but it's rare. the hot girls are into either the all american white man, or the huge black dudes with swagger. i am not a catch. you know what i mean. and this is not an excuse for why i don't want to be in america. well, i think all of us on this forum know the issues with american chicks, so i will move on.
asian girls do like me, but i am not really into asian girls, so next topic. as for latin america, interestingly, when i go to peru, or meet girls from peru or colombia or south america in general, they are simply not impressed. again, peru means nothing to them. it is low on the cache scale. and even in spain, peru is blah. it's okay, but no big deal. so i speak spanish? big deal. they speak it better. in paris, somewhat better. i could see it in the eyes of some french girls. hmm. where are you from?, they would ask.
but in berlin? i am fascinating. i am a hit. in berlin, girls are basically fascinated that i am peruvian, that i have japanese blood, that i am from new york, that i am a photographer, that i now live in spain, i am just a fascinating man, especially in comparison to those boring, engineering type german dudes, so dull and unspontaneous. i heard it a lot in my eight days here. obviously, not all girls like me, but a lot do. i have met a bunch of girls in person and also online via OKC, and let's just say that the interest has been much higher here than in france, spain, or america.
in berlin, i am different, mysterious. girls are curious. it's the free market in action. specialize or die.
as a somewhat of a side note, being so appreciated in berlin made me remember why i hate visiting peru. in lima, i am a traitor. peruvians are jealous that i am american, they tease me for my american accent, blah blah. i don't fit in. i am better and worse than them. and in america, same thing. america is my home, but it's not. i am second rate. and again, no excuses. america loves success above all. tons of ethnic men are fucking big shots who get tons of pussy. no excuses. i'm just talking about finding ways to be most appreciated, of putting myself in the best situation possible, the situation where i am most likely to succeed. and that's why i can see how black dudes do great in scandinavia. makes sense. less competition.
in america, many hispanics are wetbacks, bar backs, blah blah, and so i get thrown in by association. here in berlin, i am an exotic, fascinating, passionate man. exotic because of my mixed race. passionate because i am latin. and strong and successful because i am american and i make good money and speak perfect english and i am a creative professional. great combination.
so this girl. this german girl i fucked. she was stunning. a solid 9. seriously. 23, tall, thin, great tits, very pretty face, blonde hair, blue eyes. if this girl had been born in america, and raised in LA or whatever, and indoctrinated into american culture, forget about it, she would have never looked at me, never considered me. she would be "way out of my league", which i put in quotes because there are no limits in life, as we know.
and of course we can't forget that in germany too she's stunning. just imagine how many german guys want to fuck this girl. they all do. life is about competition.
so why did she pick me?
BECAUSE I AM DIFFERENT AND BETTER.
this girl complained about german men being boring, working too hard at boring technical jobs. and with so many tall, blonde girls in germany, she didn't feel particularly special. but who *is* special? me. i am special. again, she saw me as exotic and cool and exciting. yeah, EXCITING. a 23 year old girl wants EXCITEMENT AND FUN. and that's what she saw in me. an artist from new york who was also cool, cocky, with a bit of swagger but also "real" and genuine and generous and funny.
so yeah. this is the kind of thinking i am doing. it's not a coincidence that four of the five girls i have hooked up with in europe have been blonde. i am now targeting blondes specifically, even though i actually prefer brunettes. the theory of contrast. the theory that opposites attract.
so what is the lesson? what is the big takeway?
the lesson is this: put yourself in a situation where you are different and exciting, special and exotic. maybe you don't like the word "exotic", i kinda don't, it makes me feel like i am a trophy or something, but i think it's a great word to describe the situaiton that i should seek out. why do blond men kill it in latin america. because being blonde is exotic in latin america. why do black men kill it in sweden. same reason.
so i am looking for the places where i am exotic. germany seems to be a great place. btw, i hear and read a lot of negativity about german girls, especially from german men, but they may not be the best people to talk to. i would recommend that white, fair skinned german men go to peru, or rather not peru haha, the talent is not so great -- but the food is delicious! -- rather, go to colombia, venezuela, brazil, you know the drill. roosh has written about this tons. german men will get tons of love in latin america. latinas absolutely love tall, white men, who cares if they are "boring", they are not boring in south america. in south america, they are exotic. and latinas i am sure know very well that good *and* the bad of latin men. lots of charm, lots of bullshit. i am sure most latinas would be happy to meet a tall white men with an actual job, haha.
as for me, i get love in germany.
see how it works?
so if you are an "ethnic" man, i would recommend you try the whiter countries of europe. germany, poland, etc. oh yeah, also, i am looking for places where they speak good english. i am good looking enough, but no knock out, my face and body are not my greatest strength, it's my brain, my thoughts, my jokes, my theories, my words, what i say, how i communicate verbally. words are my greatest weapon. i had this problem in paris. i got great vibes from girls that were into "exotic artists", but then we just couldn't talk or flirt. a lot of girls in paris don't speak very good english, i was surprised to find out, and they just didn't get me jokes or my banter.
in contrast, most german girls speak excellent english. the girl i banged, for a second i forgot that english was not her first language. her english was excellent. oh yeah, that reminds me, i like smart girls. girls with brains. sassy girls that can make me laugh, that i can tease and find that they are teasing me back almost as good. the german girl i fucked, she made me laugh. i swear she did. i would tease her, neg her, push pull her, and she would hit me back. with some good shit too. how she was taller than me with heels, how i was a "gay hairdresser" -- inside joke -- she got some great jabs in. she was cool, she was funny. it was a verbal sparring match. which of course girls love. the conquest. the tension plotline, as lovedrop would say.
if you are more of a hulk, or more good looking, maybe you don't need to talk. maybe body language is enough. lord knows that the really muscular and handsome dudes get hit on by girls at bars all the time. if that's you, then you probably don't need to talk as much. but then again, if that's you, maybe you don't need to read this post at all.
however, if you find that girls fall for you via more in depth conversation, jokes, teasing, verbal sparring, and that you are witty and funny, and that talking really brings out your "winning personality" haha, then look for countries where they speak great english. that's what i am doing.
final point, i have been working on my photography for many years now, and it is finally paying off, in the sense of being able to impress girls with my work. this other kind of specialization is also really important. what are you good at? what are your ambitions? what tribe do you belong to? it's roissy's 3rd commandment, after all. i didn't just bang this german blonde because of game, or because i was exotic, i fucked her because i am a talented, accomplished photographer with game and with exotic looks.
those are my thoughts right now, my takeaways from berlin. i am leaving tomorrow, and already thinking about my next trip and where i'm going to go. i am thinking maybe prague or amsterdam. the few dutch girls i talked to seemed pretty open to talking to me.
so anyway, i am happy i came to berlin -- really, really happy -- it was an excellent decision. thanks to everyone for all their help, insight, advice, and research. life is beautiful. it's a new year. lets all go out there and become better men, capitalize on our strengths, develop our masculinity, and fuck lots and lots of sexy girls all over the world.
the world is our oyster. there are no limits.
let's fucking do this.
ps. this thread is a follow up to these two threads:
Going to Berlin in December
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-17553.html
I am in Berlin right now
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-18922.html
thanks again to everyone who helped me decide to come to berlin. and special thanks to roosh for creating this forum and for being a fucking visionary.
but the point isn't bragging, even though i am very proud, the point is learning. results without process is just luck. learning and sharing. so, the question is not "how did i get laid", but *why* did i get laid. meaning, why did this hot girl pick me over other guys. i've been thinking about it, and thanks to roosh's thinking and research, i am also generating my own theories. well, nothing incredibly new but here it is:
the theory of "opposites attract".
let me explain. i am peruvian-japanese american. i am trying to think of who i look like, what actor or whatever. i like to say keanu reeves, but that's just a joke. i mean, in a way i do, because he is also mixed race, but he is also about 10x better looking than me. let's just say that people think i am from the phillipines or japan or mexico or peru or even a couple of times i have gotten italian. i have "asian hair", longish, straight, black, but not asian skin tone, and my eyes aren't fully asian, just a touch. anyway, my point is, i am "ethnic". not black, not brown, not yellow, but a mix.
and i am finally learning to play it up.
see, in america, i am a second class male. being peruvian means being second rate, from a poor country. nothing cool about it, no cache. i mean, a few SWPL hippie white girls will like it, but it's rare. the hot girls are into either the all american white man, or the huge black dudes with swagger. i am not a catch. you know what i mean. and this is not an excuse for why i don't want to be in america. well, i think all of us on this forum know the issues with american chicks, so i will move on.
asian girls do like me, but i am not really into asian girls, so next topic. as for latin america, interestingly, when i go to peru, or meet girls from peru or colombia or south america in general, they are simply not impressed. again, peru means nothing to them. it is low on the cache scale. and even in spain, peru is blah. it's okay, but no big deal. so i speak spanish? big deal. they speak it better. in paris, somewhat better. i could see it in the eyes of some french girls. hmm. where are you from?, they would ask.
but in berlin? i am fascinating. i am a hit. in berlin, girls are basically fascinated that i am peruvian, that i have japanese blood, that i am from new york, that i am a photographer, that i now live in spain, i am just a fascinating man, especially in comparison to those boring, engineering type german dudes, so dull and unspontaneous. i heard it a lot in my eight days here. obviously, not all girls like me, but a lot do. i have met a bunch of girls in person and also online via OKC, and let's just say that the interest has been much higher here than in france, spain, or america.
in berlin, i am different, mysterious. girls are curious. it's the free market in action. specialize or die.
as a somewhat of a side note, being so appreciated in berlin made me remember why i hate visiting peru. in lima, i am a traitor. peruvians are jealous that i am american, they tease me for my american accent, blah blah. i don't fit in. i am better and worse than them. and in america, same thing. america is my home, but it's not. i am second rate. and again, no excuses. america loves success above all. tons of ethnic men are fucking big shots who get tons of pussy. no excuses. i'm just talking about finding ways to be most appreciated, of putting myself in the best situation possible, the situation where i am most likely to succeed. and that's why i can see how black dudes do great in scandinavia. makes sense. less competition.
in america, many hispanics are wetbacks, bar backs, blah blah, and so i get thrown in by association. here in berlin, i am an exotic, fascinating, passionate man. exotic because of my mixed race. passionate because i am latin. and strong and successful because i am american and i make good money and speak perfect english and i am a creative professional. great combination.
so this girl. this german girl i fucked. she was stunning. a solid 9. seriously. 23, tall, thin, great tits, very pretty face, blonde hair, blue eyes. if this girl had been born in america, and raised in LA or whatever, and indoctrinated into american culture, forget about it, she would have never looked at me, never considered me. she would be "way out of my league", which i put in quotes because there are no limits in life, as we know.
and of course we can't forget that in germany too she's stunning. just imagine how many german guys want to fuck this girl. they all do. life is about competition.
so why did she pick me?
BECAUSE I AM DIFFERENT AND BETTER.
this girl complained about german men being boring, working too hard at boring technical jobs. and with so many tall, blonde girls in germany, she didn't feel particularly special. but who *is* special? me. i am special. again, she saw me as exotic and cool and exciting. yeah, EXCITING. a 23 year old girl wants EXCITEMENT AND FUN. and that's what she saw in me. an artist from new york who was also cool, cocky, with a bit of swagger but also "real" and genuine and generous and funny.
so yeah. this is the kind of thinking i am doing. it's not a coincidence that four of the five girls i have hooked up with in europe have been blonde. i am now targeting blondes specifically, even though i actually prefer brunettes. the theory of contrast. the theory that opposites attract.
so what is the lesson? what is the big takeway?
the lesson is this: put yourself in a situation where you are different and exciting, special and exotic. maybe you don't like the word "exotic", i kinda don't, it makes me feel like i am a trophy or something, but i think it's a great word to describe the situaiton that i should seek out. why do blond men kill it in latin america. because being blonde is exotic in latin america. why do black men kill it in sweden. same reason.
so i am looking for the places where i am exotic. germany seems to be a great place. btw, i hear and read a lot of negativity about german girls, especially from german men, but they may not be the best people to talk to. i would recommend that white, fair skinned german men go to peru, or rather not peru haha, the talent is not so great -- but the food is delicious! -- rather, go to colombia, venezuela, brazil, you know the drill. roosh has written about this tons. german men will get tons of love in latin america. latinas absolutely love tall, white men, who cares if they are "boring", they are not boring in south america. in south america, they are exotic. and latinas i am sure know very well that good *and* the bad of latin men. lots of charm, lots of bullshit. i am sure most latinas would be happy to meet a tall white men with an actual job, haha.
as for me, i get love in germany.
see how it works?
so if you are an "ethnic" man, i would recommend you try the whiter countries of europe. germany, poland, etc. oh yeah, also, i am looking for places where they speak good english. i am good looking enough, but no knock out, my face and body are not my greatest strength, it's my brain, my thoughts, my jokes, my theories, my words, what i say, how i communicate verbally. words are my greatest weapon. i had this problem in paris. i got great vibes from girls that were into "exotic artists", but then we just couldn't talk or flirt. a lot of girls in paris don't speak very good english, i was surprised to find out, and they just didn't get me jokes or my banter.
in contrast, most german girls speak excellent english. the girl i banged, for a second i forgot that english was not her first language. her english was excellent. oh yeah, that reminds me, i like smart girls. girls with brains. sassy girls that can make me laugh, that i can tease and find that they are teasing me back almost as good. the german girl i fucked, she made me laugh. i swear she did. i would tease her, neg her, push pull her, and she would hit me back. with some good shit too. how she was taller than me with heels, how i was a "gay hairdresser" -- inside joke -- she got some great jabs in. she was cool, she was funny. it was a verbal sparring match. which of course girls love. the conquest. the tension plotline, as lovedrop would say.
if you are more of a hulk, or more good looking, maybe you don't need to talk. maybe body language is enough. lord knows that the really muscular and handsome dudes get hit on by girls at bars all the time. if that's you, then you probably don't need to talk as much. but then again, if that's you, maybe you don't need to read this post at all.
however, if you find that girls fall for you via more in depth conversation, jokes, teasing, verbal sparring, and that you are witty and funny, and that talking really brings out your "winning personality" haha, then look for countries where they speak great english. that's what i am doing.
final point, i have been working on my photography for many years now, and it is finally paying off, in the sense of being able to impress girls with my work. this other kind of specialization is also really important. what are you good at? what are your ambitions? what tribe do you belong to? it's roissy's 3rd commandment, after all. i didn't just bang this german blonde because of game, or because i was exotic, i fucked her because i am a talented, accomplished photographer with game and with exotic looks.
those are my thoughts right now, my takeaways from berlin. i am leaving tomorrow, and already thinking about my next trip and where i'm going to go. i am thinking maybe prague or amsterdam. the few dutch girls i talked to seemed pretty open to talking to me.
so anyway, i am happy i came to berlin -- really, really happy -- it was an excellent decision. thanks to everyone for all their help, insight, advice, and research. life is beautiful. it's a new year. lets all go out there and become better men, capitalize on our strengths, develop our masculinity, and fuck lots and lots of sexy girls all over the world.
the world is our oyster. there are no limits.
let's fucking do this.
ps. this thread is a follow up to these two threads:
Going to Berlin in December
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-17553.html
I am in Berlin right now
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-18922.html
thanks again to everyone who helped me decide to come to berlin. and special thanks to roosh for creating this forum and for being a fucking visionary.