Dont know it's been posted. but ...
"eat, pray, ride the carousel"
"eat, pray, ride the carousel"
Quote: (01-28-2015 02:11 PM)OregonToSoCal Wrote:
@BlurredSevens, based on your posts in this and the I just had sex thread do you recommend directly inviting over EVERY Tinder match you get or is there a screening process you use for determining which ones are down to come directly over? I will admit my main fear/concern is by inviting everyone over I may scare the cat and they bail due to ASD whereas I could have easily bagged them by using Tuth's first date bang recipe. On the other hand, I know I've lost some who were DTF by literally talking them out of banging me. I have an extensive alcohol collection and joke about being a wannabe mixologist which I use as bait on my first dates. I would love to save the $20-30 in drinks at a bar and start directly at my place.
Quote: (01-27-2015 09:08 PM)kosko Wrote:
Quote: (01-27-2015 06:52 PM)Virtus Wrote:
Dont know it's been posted. but ...
"eat, pray, ride the carousel"
Tinder is selling men the rope to hang themselves by. Just keep in mind that app isn't meant for us men. But the payment options for "+" will be expected for men to pay for of course.
Quote: (01-28-2015 05:49 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:
Quote: (01-28-2015 02:11 PM)OregonToSoCal Wrote:
@BlurredSevens, based on your posts in this and the I just had sex thread do you recommend directly inviting over EVERY Tinder match you get or is there a screening process you use for determining which ones are down to come directly over? I will admit my main fear/concern is by inviting everyone over I may scare the cat and they bail due to ASD whereas I could have easily bagged them by using Tuth's first date bang recipe. On the other hand, I know I've lost some who were DTF by literally talking them out of banging me. I have an extensive alcohol collection and joke about being a wannabe mixologist which I use as bait on my first dates. I would love to save the $20-30 in drinks at a bar and start directly at my place.
That's a really good but tough question to answer. There are so many variables that it's hard to make a blanket one-size-fits-all recommendation.
Personally I have no interest in meeting a girl that's not down to come over and make dinner with me, or to drink on the balcony and play card games for a couple hours. That's a cool as hell first date!
Even when it's not sexual, her refusal to do something legitimately cool like make dinner with me is a sign that she's either not seriously interested in me, or is just using me for attention. If she can't stand being alone with me for at least an hour, then she is straight up lame and boring.
I'm not interested in those girls.
Couple key points.
1. I apply the direct invite to every girl, the fact that they're on tinder is irrelevant.
2. All girls want to get fucked so if you scare the cat, it's not ASD, it's bad game or you didn't make her feel comfortable via "getting to know you" chat while texting. Has to be real though, you can't fake it. Got to put your personality out there.
If you are having success with Tuth's recipe, then absolutely 100% continue to use it to your advantage and to get a lot of dating experience. Keep the direct invite technique in the back of your mind, and when the time is right you'll instinctively know to use it.
One more thing:
Oftentimes it's cool to be honest and real with girls. Sounds like you have an affinity for mixology, and that you're on a budget. That's legit in my book because it means you're responsible and that you have hobbies. Automatically that puts you in the top 25% of single men.
Tell the girls: "I'd love to meet up with you, but I'm on a budget because I'm saving up for [summer trip/puppy adoption fund/spanish classes/etc.] and I think it would be silly to spend $18 on a margarita just to see if I like you. I'm a bit of a mixologist, so let's do drinks at my place at 7 and [play board games/sit outside/listen to the new XYZ album/etc.]
That is pretty much how I do it now. I tell girls I like to cook (which is true; I cook almost every night) and that she's welcome to come help me make dinner, and that I'm not really much of a loud expensive bar person anyway. Or I tell her I just grabbed a new bottle of whatever cool whiskey or wine I discovered, and that she's welcome to come hang out with me and try it.
Remember: you're inviting these girls into your world! They should be lucky they get to hang out with a guy that has his shit together. If sex happens, then it's a natural byproduct of the interaction. If it doesn't, then hey no big deal, and at least y'all didn't waste $30 on shitty beers at the bar!
Quote: (05-19-2016 12:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:
If I talk to 100 19 year old girls, at least one of them is getting fucked!
Quote:WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Am I reacting to her? No pussy, all problems
Or
Is she reacting to me? All pussy, no problems
Quote: (01-28-2015 06:03 PM)bigbait Wrote:
Ummm.... to state the obvious in many parts of the world a lot of girls have a "i will not go directly to the house of a man i have never met in real life because he might kill me" rule.
Quote: (01-28-2015 06:03 PM)bigbait Wrote:
In my experience this is usually something that no amount of comfort building over text or the phone will fix.
If the girl is not dtf then amazing bait is the only thing that does not scare the cat.
Quote: (01-28-2015 06:28 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:
Quote: (01-28-2015 06:21 PM)Travesty444 Wrote:
^ BlurredSevens if I am not mistaken is in NYC.
I wish I were in NYC!
I'm in a second-tier city in the mountain west.
I have not been to SoCal but I'd wager the girls there are similar to where I'm operating from.
Quote: (05-19-2016 12:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:
If I talk to 100 19 year old girls, at least one of them is getting fucked!
Quote:WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Am I reacting to her? No pussy, all problems
Or
Is she reacting to me? All pussy, no problems
Quote: (01-28-2015 06:24 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:
Quote: (01-28-2015 06:03 PM)bigbait Wrote:
Ummm.... to state the obvious in many parts of the world a lot of girls have a "i will not go directly to the house of a man i have never met in real life because he might kill me" rule.
You sound like the girls that are too uptight to hang out with me.
Quote: (01-28-2015 06:24 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:
Quote: (01-28-2015 06:03 PM)bigbait Wrote:
In my experience this is usually something that no amount of comfort building over text or the phone will fix.
If the girl is not dtf then amazing bait is the only thing that does not scare the cat.
You know what's *really* good bait?
Danger.
Excitement.
Emotional attraction.
Fuck your record collection; she wants to FEEL something.
Be the guy that makes her FEEL something and you will not believe what those nice girls will do.
Quote: (05-19-2016 12:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:
If I talk to 100 19 year old girls, at least one of them is getting fucked!
Quote:WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Am I reacting to her? No pussy, all problems
Or
Is she reacting to me? All pussy, no problems