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12-27-2012, 02:24 PM
Do you think there could be a possible following for such a thing? Or does a prominant red-pill break up blog exist?
I went through a horrible breakup- absolute shit.
Got very depressed and went through a testosterone building man journey to get to the point where I am today.
Do you think telling my story and offering advice to others (mostly young men) about how to deal with such breakups would be usefull to the manosphere community?
There is a lot on game and relationship management; but I don't feel like there is a lot for rebuilding onesself after a devasting loss/hit to the ego.
Would appreciate the input.
-Chubby
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12-27-2012, 03:50 PM
How to get your girlfriend back? Breaks are great opportunities to get yourself back! A lot of people rediscover their hobbies, interests and self after doing away with a stifling relationship that consumed all their time and emotional resources. A lot of guys I know become more successful, lose weight, build muscle and develop new skills, all prompted by breakups. They usually start things to to occupy their minds and then realize what they were missing due to the "miss" in their life sucking up their time.
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12-27-2012, 04:54 PM
I have scoured the interwebs for a solid red pill break up blog or a oneitus cure for alphas and betas alike; but I have failed to find one.
In a nutshell, I started dating a girl whom I believed to be the "love of my life" or "the only one for me". You guys know how that goes.
Letting myself turn into a beta piece of shit I got my heart broken. I put on weight. I lost friends. She ended up with another guy I knew pretty well. I'd see it in public. My image was shit. etc.etc. etc. Depression and resentment ensued.
4 years later I own my own business, have fucked over 100 girls in the interrim between then and now, worked part time as an athletic model, will graduate with honors, have a very solid group of friends with great connections, have lived abroad, traveled extensively, and acquired a general love for life and people.
I feel that if I were to have discovered a blog or a mapped out recovery guide like the one I am contemplating constructing; I believe my results would have been expedited.
As mentioned before; females get coddled and nursed back almost instantly. Us men, have nothing; no one.
I want to provide these young men (possibly older divorcees as well) a safety net as well as a light at the end of the tunnel.
During the break up stage you do not necesarily need to stomach the "red pill" right away; but moreso discover oneself and become the man you should have been all along. Which, may or may not be, what the red pill is (in essence).
This is no MRA or MGTOW bullshit who hate on women or bitch about how unfair marriage is. It will be noted, but not harped on.
I just hate seeing great men fall and never get back up.
What do you guys think?
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12-27-2012, 06:43 PM
Cruisen_Chubby: Your story is exactly why I wrote the book. I don't know if it's a break up or oneitis "cure" but it illustrates both of those scenarios and shows a guy getting out of it. I wrote it to place red pill information directly into the mainstream by using a fiction piece that shows a nice guy getting beat down (if you read the preview you see he takes it to the extreme). Even though it's called The Red Pill, I don't use those terms in the story or very much PUA lingo, the focus is really on self improvement and living for yourself. It's not very long and there's a good twist at the end. The story actually wound up with a lot of unintended symbolism that's pretty fitting.
You don't need an actual Kindle to get any Amazon books, you can download a Kindle Viewer for free onto any computer, Ipad, smartphone etc. Just google Kindle Viewer and whatever you're using and download that, then synch the viewer to your Amazon account, shouldn't take more than a few minutes. I've been getting a ton of Amazon books on my computer since I got the Viewer, they look great and read well.
Definitely let me know if you get it, I'd like to hear your thoughts. Your post was exactly why I wrote it, to help save the guys coming up behind us a lot of time and frustration by giving them a short story to read instead of trying to tell them what you know or sending them to different websites where they may or may not understand it. This way they can read the book and get into the manosphere on their own.
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12-27-2012, 07:34 PM
Because relationships and attraction actually have a biochemical basis, breakups cause pain on a biochemical basis as well:
in other words you suffer from withdrawal ......similar to a drug addict or alcoholic trying to kick a habit .....
so remember that most of what you are going through is simply a phase of the withdrawal. It hurts, but it is part of the process .....after 4-6 months, you should be near completely cured.
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12-27-2012, 07:36 PM
""15. There are only ever 2 options: When you begin to date someone, there is only ever 2 options. You will either 1. get married (not likely) or 2. break up (very likely). Just remember this when entering a relationship, can you honestly see yourself living with her for the rest of your life? I didn't think so.?"
Really, there is only ever 1 option. Even if you get married the odds of divorce are high. And even if you dont actually divorce, the relationship will change..... ....
So essentially, ALL romantic/sexual relationships come to an end..... - even though you may still be in each other's live's......they end. Accept this at the outset and enjoy all the goos moments to the max.
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12-27-2012, 08:32 PM
Yeah, your story is like the perfect illustration. The basis of my idea was just about getting it out there so we can increase our numbers. I see what you're saying, stuff like that list you posted is excellent.
The book was like 120 pages on my computer but ithe Kindle shortens it to around a 100 pages I think....
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12-27-2012, 08:43 PM
I lived with a bitch who moved out on me...I listened to Michael Bolton for about 2 weeks, until I decided to start working out hard again...
6 months later I got into the best shape of my life and started getting laid like a rockstar...
Sometimes getting dumped is that best thing that could ever happen to u...