How Was Your 2012?
12-18-2012, 07:56 PM
Here's a rant:
In 2011 I did not really set goals for this year.
But exactly one year ago, I was finishing my first year at the University, working as a waiter to save money, and trying to plan a big trip somewhere. I was also doing Starting Strength and getting semi-decent results.
Pussy-wise, nothing great was on my map: a few new prospects with some of the waiters, social circle, and a fuck-buddy. Last year was the first I was reading Roosh and the Forum and allowing the advices to change my behavior, so it really was the dawn of a new person.
As a waiter, I was disciplined and managed to save a couple thousand dollars and in April I set on a backpacking trip alone, which lasted for about 3,5 months, from Lisbon to Budapest. I tried always going off the beaten path, always trying smaller cities and places I knew few people would have been to.
As a result, I met many locals, and had a wonderful time. The trip was amazing in a very deep way, and it really altered the way I see the world, behave, dress, enjoy my friends and family, what I think about food, architecture, money... The most important thing, I now see, is that I was always outside of my comfort zone. I once traveled from south of France til Germany for 3 days, sleeping like 5 hours total and on the floor, with bums in a station, no shower, eating just plain bread and coffee, hitching on the road, just for the hell of it. Another time, in Zagreb, my card stopped working and I couldnt pay for shit as I had no local currency. I decided I wouldn't buy anything until my card worked again. As a result, I did not eat for 3 days, just drank water. When it actually worked, I cooked myself a feast, and eating it I felt real appreciation for something as banal as eating.
In 2012 I applied my recent game discoveries and kept learning stuff from the RVF and from the streets. This allowed me to get my very first european flag from a very sweet girl who I'm still in touch with, as well as others. Back to my home in Brazil, I feel like my range of possibilites has grown immensely. I've always been good with girls, but I've always needed time to talk to them. I'm great at talking and charming my way as an interesting guy, so it would be hard as hell for me to get girls in clubs or busy bars, where my window was only of a few seconds. Now, I feel like it is getting easier and easier.
With the help of the forum, of books and a lot of approaching and meeting new people, my vision of social circle is quite different. I've always been kind of a loner with 2 or 3 very good, realiable friends. Now I have a big social circle where I'm requested all the time and where I have people who really value me, and who I really value and trust.
As to lifting, I quit the gym for now and been doing Convict Conditioning for about 6 weeks now. I'm seeing very good results. I feel very strong, agile and limber. My body is looking more ripped each day. My shoulders are getting outlined and my lats are growing fast.
So, here's a few lessons I took from 2012 and which I hope can help you little:
- There's nothing more important in this life than to know yourself. Once you do that, you will emmanate a happiness unprecedented. I guarantee you, it can contagiate others.
- You have to push yourself, it is the only way you'll see how far you can go. Take chances, do stuff you afraid to do, go out with people you barely know, stay out until the very end of each night.
- Do good things. Be gentle to your friends and to strangers, help other people. The joy out of that is amazing.
- Everything in life has a time. Be patient.
- Work out HARD. It is so rewarding to see your body changing and people noticing, girls giving you compliments. Being physically strong makes you feel like a true MAN.
- If you want to gain weight, you have to eat more than you think is even possible. I've always thought of myself as a hard-gainer. I still think I am one, but I've been eating ungodly amounts of healthy food this year, and I've gained 10kg of muscle. I could have gained it years ago, but I never quite understood that you really had to stuff your face with food to see gains.
- Each one of us has a path we shall travel on: our lives. Your path is only yours to follow. It is not transfereable, and no one can go with you. Yes, sometimes you meet someone and the roads cross or even become parallel for some time, but soon you will be apart. It's not something that should make us angry, but rather happy that you got to know that person and to have lived a great time with them.
- Always, always, do your best. Every time you talk, every interaction, just a mere smile or handshake and you can change someone's day for better. Why not? Every single detail counts.
- Enjoy the simple stuff and ask yourself if you really enjoy the moments of happiness you are presented with. Sometimes, amongst the chaos of everything that surronds us, we forget that there is so much pleasure out of something as simple and the smell of a beautiful girl when she hugs you, or out of hearing great music.
Lastly, let me just add: us, red-pillers, see the world in an almost x-ray fashion. We are able to analise each human interaction in a peculiar way than the mass of people all around us. We have got to enjoy this as an opportunity to differentiate ourselves. This means, for example, that we can do a few sacrifices most people aren't willing to do. We can work harder than most people; we can strategically bend our desires to other people's, and gain from them a equally strategic affection. As alpha as you are, realize that doing what other people want is a great way to get what YOU want.
- End of rant.