I recently had an old GF contact me after not having contact with her for five years.

I haven't decided whether or not I'm going to respond, but I think it's funny, because the last time I had heard from her, at the time, she had moved away and was getting married, if that's her life now, she's either so bored with hubby that she's reaching out to an old BF, or she didn't get married/divorced and wants to see where I am in life -- not anywhere near Marriageland, she's over 30, I'm not.

Girls show a lot of hubris when they do this, one, there's always a self-serving motive/interest for popping back into your life, and two, they don't stop and think, "Damn, I wonder how much pussy this dude has had since me?"

I noticed the time stamp on the e-mail, and while she was sending me this "lost love-ish" e-mail, I was pounding a chick that I had just met doggystyle in the bathroom of a laundrymat -- if you remember my Late Night Game thread, yes I've started trolling laundrymats, I have a full W/D in my house.

Years ago, I was the boyfriend type, but I always cheated on my GFs because they couldn't satisfy all of my sexual urges -- there have plenty of nights when I'd be in bed with my chick, and she was too tired for sex or had something going on with her body, so I'd get out of the bed and go fuck another chick, and come back the next morning with donuts.

Today, I don't even bother being any chick's BF, because I don't have to be to get my balls drained. Since chicks have decided they have the right to throw their pussies around like Joe Montana, I have the right to be Jerry Rice.

Players adapt.

Quote: (02-16-2014 01:05 PM)jariel Wrote:  

Since chicks have decided they have the right to throw their pussies around like Joe Montana, I have the right to be Jerry Rice

HAHAHAHAHA!!! too funny

I have this happening non stop. I have 4 that's hounding me right now... It's quite annoying really. One of them is in Canada. I'm actually thinking about it though because i need to get out of the states for good..haha

But welcoming them back is something I rarely do. Because there's nothing she can offer.

Quote: (02-16-2014 01:05 PM)jariel Wrote:  

Since chicks have decided they have the right to throw their pussies around like Joe Montana, I have the right to be Jerry Rice.

I've had lots of ex-girlfriends try to pop back into my life over the years. I'm sure there's usually some self-serving purpose behind it, it's whatever. I'm usually quite cordial and let them know that I'm doing well with women and making my way up in the world. Then I cut the conversation short.

One of my girlfriends from years ago still calls or texts me on occasion. She was gorgeous and mostly tolerable, but the longer we dated, the more I became convinced that she was absolutely barking mad. Our relationship ended soon after I figured out that she had been prescribed Paxil.

Recycling pussy can be a good thing but men should only recycle the right pussy. Matter of fact, I'll be recycling some on Tuesday evening.

Inevitably if you put it down initially, you can expect to have 'comeback' pussy

Chicks are in and out of relationships, flings, engagements etc, and once that little fairy tale is crushed they come-a-looking for the Alpha who was smashing the pussy before they settled down

Depending if I've had my fill and gotten everything I could ($, pussy, experiences) out of the previous interaction, I MAY bring them back on-board for awhile.

It can be a validating experience, but it's best to ALWAYS view it as a fleeting pleasure.

It always make me chuckle to see a bitch visibly upset at me for changing my number when she finally "catches up to me" in public. Sometimes they jonez for years, leaving and coming back.

Nothing funnier than getting that "Remember me?" text

I've had this happen a few times.

The first was an ex who I had dated for three years. As soon as I got the email, I said to myself "She's either getting married or wants to marry me." Turns out it was the former. It didn't bother me a ton, but I knew she was telling me because she wanted me to know what I was missing out on. It makes sense, because I dumped her even after we had talked off-hand about having kids, etc. I have no hard feeling about it.

The second is this other girl who, after hanging out for a couple months, texted me one night that she loved me. Her and I are still going back and forth right now. She's borderline nuts, so I may cut that off rather than risk her trying some crazy shit on me.

Also had my last serious gf try to stay in contact me after she dumped me (beta days). I asked her once not to do it again. She did it again, and I went dark (changed number, blocked on all mediums, etc.). The main reason behind this, besides the fact that I wasn't the same man who she left, was that who the F was she to be talking to me?

I feel it's the ones that you put the hook in deepest who come back. By that, I mean, don't give a f'k, show them a good time, and don't get attached to. I have a feeling it goes with women giving away themselves, and feeling like they didn't get enough from you. The other reason is that they aren't necessarily going through a dry spell, but that they crave an alpha over some beta who caters to all of their needs. When they're ready to start again with a real man, they come back to you.

Quote: (02-16-2014 01:05 PM)jariel Wrote:  

Since chicks have decided they have the right to throw their pussies around like Joe Montana, I have the right to be Jerry Rice.

That line is outstanding.

I've had several chicks from my past pop back in unexpectedly. Sometimes they're the type who disappear when they get into a relationship, other times it's something where I moved away or they did and they find me on Facebook or email me out of the blue or whatever. It's almost always the ones I actually remember, fortunately, not the fuck-and-run types whose last name I might have never even known and first name I forgot long ago.

Quote: (02-16-2014 01:05 PM)jariel Wrote:  

Since chicks have decided they have the right to throw their pussies around like Joe Montana, I have the right to be Jerry Rice.

Players adapt.

Most girls that I have been in relationships with, were all good enough for me to want to bang them again.
Now that I think of it, it actually brings memories and makes me wonder how would it feel now, after all the others...

Quote: (02-16-2014 01:05 PM)jariel Wrote:  

I recently had an old GF contact me after not having contact with her for five years.

I haven't decided whether or not I'm going to respond, but I think it's funny, because the last time I had heard from her, at the time, she had moved away and was getting married, if that's her life now, she's either so bored with hubby that she's reaching out to an old BF, or she didn't get married/divorced and wants to see where I am in life -- not anywhere near Marriageland, she's over 30, I'm not.

Girls show a lot of hubris when they do this, one, there's always a self-serving motive/interest for popping back into your life, and two, they don't stop and think, "Damn, I wonder how much pussy this dude has had since me?"

I came to this realization when yesterday I got cold texted by a girl I haven't talked to in three years.

This girl was a solid 8.5 and I had a crush on her through middle and high school. She started dating this other girl for a while, and I was in an LTR from Junior year in high school with a pudgy, ignorant chick around that time.

Early my sophomore year in college she hit me up out of no where and we made out. I broke up with my gf, then spent the next three months getting completely jerked the fuck around by this chick.

She knew I was completely hers, so she would have me drive two hours to see her, withhold sex for weeks, ghost on me at random, stand me up on dates, generally fuck with my emotions and then finally she disappeared to go date her gf again.

It quickly became apparent when she texted me yesterday that she had gotten fat, broken up with her girl (because she couldn't stand hiding the fact that she's been banging dudes behind her back), and lost a lot of the male attention she used to have.

Lonely in an apartment in New Orleans, she figured she'd go down the list of old fuck buddies. Once she got to me, she just assumed I'd be as easy to manipulate as I was then.

It never once crossed her mind that I've fucked lots of girls since her, am right now fucking lots of girls, or lost patience with her bullshit. In fact, she failed to consider that we didn't leave each other on the best terms.

I didn't respond, just let her know I read the text. Getting mad is a waste of time, and hooking back up is a bigger waste of time. And I can't be mad at her. I don't get mad at my dog when he barks at other dogs late at night. It's in his nature to bark, it's in her nature to go for the low-hanging fruit.

The funny thing is, no matter what I did or said, she would never see me as anything but low-hanging fruit. Despite the fact that she's a whale now.

So it's best to let it all be.

I think as long as you don't fool yourself into thinking a girl from your past could return and become anything serious, you're fine. Ideally, you're spinning enough plates already that if an old flame reaches out and you decide to respond to them, you won't really care if your reply is "good" or not. If you find you're putting in any kind of effort in your response, you're probably more invested in the outcome than you should be and that should be a sign to just leave it alone. Just my two-cents.

Once you've banged a girl, it's usually easier to bang them again than it is to go out and seduce a new girl. Since even the best players have dry spells/harem collapse, I think it's prudent to use girls from your past as slumpbusters/ego boosts to help facilitate future bangs with new girls. Nothing in the world breeds success like success. Girls seem to be able to smell pussy on a guy and want them more because of it. As long as you haven't gone completely nuclear on a girl when things were ended, she'll usually feel comfortable coming back to you at some point. Hell, even sometimes going nuclear won't keep them away.

Ex girlfriends reach out to me occasionally. One of my former hookups is now a FB friend and routinely asks me about how to get ahead in her career. We both work in real estate, so it's fine to chat about these things on occasion. I keep the messages in my emails cool and logical. I don't cave when she starts throwing in the happy face Emojis.

For my part, I'd screen ex-girlfriends hitting me up even harder than the hardest of online game serial daters. The chances that they're just looking for validation feels/to stuff you into orbiterville for their own purposes are extremely high.

New girls might get second chances if they flake or need some comfort built. Old ones? You're in or you're out - nobody has time for nostalgia games.

Usually I'd say it was self serving if she left you, not you leaving her. The only time I'd say it wasn't self-serving is if you ended the relationship and she was a decent girl, but not the right type for you. I did this once on a sweet girlfriend who couldn't work out with me in the end due to her parents being crazy. She still hits me up from time to time. Makes me feel melancholy, because she isn't a bad girl, just from a messed up family.