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12-11-2012, 03:37 PM
You have use this successfully with girls who were not already attracted to you?
I don't see this working, at least not in North America or Western Europe. Beta orbiters are consistently giving attractive girls the "boyfriend experience" by taking them on dates, buying the gifts and showering them with gifts and compliments. None of that will help you build attraction.
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12-11-2012, 04:14 PM
Sphere - I understand. I absolutely HATE hurting someone's feelings. Especially when all they want to do is be with you. But DO NOT WORRY about those girls. They will be fine in a matter of DAYS. Emotions are like the weather with them. In 1 month she'll be telling her friends about some other guy she met and she's all up his ass.
Send the girl a text "I'm sorry this isn't working out for me. I don't think we're right for each other." Whatever she writes back just say "Good luck with everything" and let that be the end.
Honestly though if you were playing it as straight as you say you do, from the beginning you would tell them you don't want anything serious and if they're cool with that, then you can keep seeing each other.
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12-11-2012, 04:35 PM
I don't think you guys are getting that you can take a girl through the whole dating ritual in one night and bang a girl that wouldn't normally consider fucking on the first date.
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12-11-2012, 06:01 PM
So Fisto, is what you are saying something like "girls don't really get very romantically involved. You can't even hurt them much - they'll grieve for a few days, or a week max. There is no such variable as romance at all. Girls don't feel that, to any real or deep extent"
I've known ex girlfriends to wake up crying every day for six months. And go to sleep that way too. And to pine for me for YEARS. And years. And years. And I've felt my share of deep grief myself. Sometimes people pair bond and one of the mates dies. Are you saying women can't feel pair bonding or grief?
Dude, uh... How do I put this to you tactfully.
I can't.
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12-11-2012, 06:21 PM
Quote: (12-11-2012 06:14 PM)kenny_powers Wrote:
Quote: (12-11-2012 04:35 PM)Fisto Wrote:
I don't think you guys are getting that you can take a girl through the whole dating ritual in one night and bang a girl that wouldn't normally consider fucking on the first date.
Fisto is right. Read this post:
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-8681.h...ght=recipe
It has worked for me, I've had to expand it it to 2-3 even a 4th date last week. But this is what you should be doing EVERY SINGLE FIRST DATE
I have 5 times had a girl sleep with me on the first date, only to never leave. One day melted into the next, until the next thing you know she's quit her job and moved in full time. Strong passionate romance was initiated on the first date, and sometimes the girl lived with me for years.
And when I left, sometimes there were all the signs from her speech and actions and her friends and family of a very deep and lasting grief.
And I've also had strong bonds formed where sex happened on the 3rd, or even 5th date.
The point is, romance is undervalued and even denied here.
Why?
And for those who think that romance can't happen in the west, you are right. It can't happen. To YOU. The variable isn't the girls, it's you. Take that same you to another country, and you'll have the same experience.
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12-11-2012, 06:37 PM
Xsplat,
What I'm saying is that she'll get over it very quickly. I know you like to market yourself as this deep romantic and great man, good for you. I've read your stuff and it's always pleading for other's to come over to your brand of seduction. Like you're savoring a piece of chocolate and fine wine. But how do I put this tactfully?
I don't believe you get laid at all.
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12-11-2012, 06:42 PM
Quote: (12-11-2012 06:37 PM)Fisto Wrote:
Xsplat,
What I'm saying is that she'll get over it very quickly. I know you like to market yourself as this deep romantic and great man, good for you. I've read your stuff and it's always pleading for other's to come over to your brand of seduction. Like you're savoring a piece of chocolate and fine wine. But how do I put this tactfully?
I don't believe you get laid at all.
I'm not concerned what you believe about my life, I'm concerned what are your beliefs about women.
You are implying that they don't feel romance, or if they do, it's of a very shallow and fleeting kind.
Right?
I understand that men have different interests and needs and styles. I'm not seeking converts. What I am doing is trying to erase the type of willful ignorance that you espouse.
Some guys aren't into romance. That's cool. But you claim that romance is not even an option at all, for all men who live in the west, at least, and possibly for all men anywhere. Because it's not in the nature of women to feel romantic.
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12-11-2012, 06:45 PM
Xplat, don't be concerned with my beliefs. And quit trying to derail every thread you post on.
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12-11-2012, 06:59 PM
Quote: (12-11-2012 06:45 PM)Fisto Wrote:
Xplat, don't be concerned with my beliefs. And quit trying to derail every thread you post on.
From the OP:
"The subject of using Romance as an attractor was raised and it deserves it's own thread."
You seem to be claiming that romance is not a real attractor, as women don't much feel it.
On topic?
Or would you rather talk about if I get laid or not?
Nice tactic, by the way. When I bring in the data of my personal experience with romance, just invalidate all of it. That should keep your ego protecting beliefs solidly fixed for another day. It's not that women don't love YOU, it's that they are incapable of love!
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12-11-2012, 07:17 PM
xplat,
Reread the op. He's referring to a previous thread, you'll notice it says "So now the question becomes..." And no, I don't really care about your sexual activity. It seems like most of these gentlemen are in the US or Western Europe anyway so your advice isn't really applicable it it? After all I believe you yourself said you don't get laid over here.
Moving on:
There is a difference in quality (majority of instantly "dtf" girls in a club is 1-10 vs the 8 you meet for drinks) when you are trying to pick up girls for a one night stand in a club venue type atmosphere vs going out on a date and trying to get a single night lay.
I'm referring to the date scenario to single night lay scenario but in both cases, you are trying to put them through the courting ritual, some stuff can be skipped (with DTF girls) and other things have to be repeated but I don't believe that the hotter the girl the more difficult.
I think it would rather involve a girl who's gone through her "slutty" phase and has been on multiple SNL's that would be harder to fuck on the 1st date. She's been there and wants something more meaningful and wants to make up for past slutty actions(hamster think) It's another reason to get them younger IMO.
They STILL have the same hormones that can overide her inner resistance by having a good time and feeling a "connection" WITH attraction. Even if it's a two or three dates till you bang it's the same mindset as KP pointed out. I think you should be going for the bang on the first date every single time unless you actually like the girl and want to draw it out.
Read Tuth's first date recipe and tweak it to fit your style.
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12-11-2012, 07:32 PM
Quote: (12-11-2012 07:17 PM)Fisto Wrote:
xplat,
After all I believe you yourself said you don't get laid over here.
Why do you believe that? Did you ever see any actual words that I wrote anywhere to that effect? Or is that just another belief that is convenient to you?
Quote: (12-11-2012 07:17 PM)Fisto Wrote:
There is a difference in quality (majority of instantly "dtf" girls in a club is 1-10 vs the 8 you meet for drinks) when you are trying to pick up girls for a one night stand in a club venue type atmosphere vs going out on a date and trying to get a single night lay.
I'm referring to the date scenario to single night lay scenario but in both cases, you are trying to put them through the courting ritual, some stuff can be skipped (with DTF girls) and other things have to be repeated but I don't believe that the hotter the girl the more difficult.
I think it would rather involve a girl who's gone through her "slutty" phase and has been on multiple SNL's that would be harder to fuck on the 1st date. She's been there and wants something more meaningful and wants to make up for past slutty actions(hamster think) It's another reason to get them younger IMO.
They STILL have the same hormones that can overide her inner resistance by having a good time and feeling a "connection" WITH attraction. Even if it's a two or three dates till you bang it's the same mindset as KP pointed out. I think you should be going for the bang on the first date every single time unless you actually like the girl and want to draw it out.
Read Tuth's first date recipe and tweak it to fit your style.
We agree that going for sex as soon as possible is the way to go.
Did you want to talk more about if girls have romantic triggers, and if they are capable of deep and lasting grief?
What's your take on the alpha widow syndrome? Ever caused any yourself?
I'm sure that there are many on this forum who've caused quite a few.
Fisto says:
"What I'm saying is that she'll get over it very quickly. "
"But DO NOT WORRY about those girls. They will be fine in a matter of DAYS. Emotions are like the weather with them. In 1 month she'll be telling her friends about some other guy she met and she's all up his ass."
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12-11-2012, 08:10 PM
Quote: (12-11-2012 07:54 PM)Fisto Wrote:
xsplat,
I know you really want to talk but I really don't have any interest in speaking to you.
Ya, I know. You even go so far as to claim that I derail thread topics, and thus want me to not speak at all. And go so far as to claim that the experiences I relate are fictional. And go so far as to claim that I said that I didn't get laid in the west.
I have a theory of why you have so much antagonism. I'm saying something that is deeply threatening to you. So much so that you feel the need to invalidate not only the logic of my interpretation of my experiences, but invalidate me altogether.
I'm talking to you as I find that the view that romance is not and can not be a useful attraction trigger and that women don't feel it to be a poisonous and pernicious attitude that harms other men.
And you are talking at me to get me to stop pointing out the inconsistencies in your view. By any means possible.
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12-11-2012, 08:13 PM
Dude you're derailing it right now.
Jesus man, I just think you're a hack and I don't think I can learn anything from you.