[kerouac]

http://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/co...im/c72ztms

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The extent to which cheating is forgivable is somewhat dependent on context. Unfortunately for you, a lot of variables in this situation are going to make this tough to get past. I'll give you a male's perspective on this situation.

We males are a proud bunch and pretty territorial. Very few things crush a man's pride like being cheated on. Sometimes we can get past it, that depends on the context.

1 - You cheated on him with a friend of his. If it were a stranger, he may have been able to handle it, but this is a close friend. He has to look this person in the eye knowing he fucked his wife. Their friendship is probably ruined because he probably won't be able to handle that. Pride won't allow it. So not only did you fuck up his relationship with you, you sabotaged his relationship with his friend (I know his friend is not blameless, but that's irrelevant). Also, any male friendships in the future will be probably involve some paranoia on his part.

2 - Threesome. The ultimate fantasy for many males. Your husband probably fantasized about having a threesome with you, but instead you had one with his friend. Double shot to his pride. Not only did his friend fuck his wife, he had a threesome with her. Crushing.

3 - Not only did you cheat on him, you did it while he was away at work. While he was providing for you and your future together. So he was off trying to make a better life for you two and you engaged in a threesome with his close friend as a reward. More pride destroyed.

4 - Things were seemingly good in your relationship. Maybe he could have understood if you were in a rough spot, but by your account, things were pretty happy. How is he supposed to trust you if you can't stay faithful during the happy times?

Do you see how this is much bigger than just cheating? You cheated with his best friend, in a threesome (which you have never done with your husband), while he was working, and during the happy times. The context matters, and you did way more than just cheat, given the circumstances. And alcohol is a pointless excuse. He won't buy that.
Frankly, I just don't see how his pride can permit him to forgive you. Staying with you would make him seem like the ultimate cuckold. If you get rejected, don't feel sorry for yourself, feel sorry for him. He's going to be the one with the bigger adjustment/relationship issues after this.

Too much realness for the girl? She deleted her original post after this response

[Cincinnatus]

Great breakdown of the effect a female cheating has on her male partner. It happened to me during my beta days and it was a tough blow.

I took two important lessons from the experience, though - never get attached to a woman, and never trust a woman.

[germanico]

(11-19-2012 06:11 PM)kerouac Wrote:  

Too much realness for the girl? She deleted her original post after this response

From her non-deleted posts:

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I would do whatever it takes to keep my husband and if its counseling I will gladly go. We actually have like a close to perfect marriage so I don't even know how this happened.
We didn't use a condom. I drove to CVS and did get Plan B right after I left their place though.

Oh, she doesnt knows how that happened. I guess she must have slipped and fell on a cock. It wasnt her fault AT ALL.

[Parlay44]

(11-19-2012 06:50 PM)germanico Wrote:  

(11-19-2012 06:11 PM)kerouac Wrote:  

Too much realness for the girl? She deleted her original post after this response

From her non-deleted posts:

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I would do whatever it takes to keep my husband and if its counseling I will gladly go. We actually have like a close to perfect marriage so I don't even know how this happened.
We didn't use a condom. I drove to CVS and did get Plan B right after I left their place though.

Oh, she doesnt knows how that happened. I guess she must have slipped and fell on a cock. It wasnt her fault AT ALL.

She got gamed by a player who knew how to reframe the situation to minimize the slut-shaming and destroy any feelings of guilt on her part.

As for her running to get Plan B ...that's her trying to cover her ass. Pregnancy is the only evidence of guilt.

How did she get caught anyway?

[iop890]

Fuck, Reddit is depressing.

[germanico]

(11-19-2012 07:05 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

How did she get caught anyway?

From what I could understand from the thread, she didnt.

She fucked a friend of his husband and her wife, while the hubby was out of town working, and she felt like "the worse wife ever", so she turned to reddit for a dose of "it wasnt your fault", and, surprisingly for Reddit, she got told..

[slubu]

This would seriously crush me. for that man.

[Millz]

Females could cheat on guys all day and they wouldnt know about it but if its a gf who really gives a fuck your wife now.. Honestly

[Bacchus]

Finding insight on Reddit is like seeing a fine girl at a Walmart.

[WesternCancer]

(11-19-2012 09:05 PM)slubu Wrote:  

This would seriously crush me. for that man.

Yeah man, my stomach turned with dread just hearing about the story. Just imagine the woman who pleged her undying love to you taking cocks in every hole from 2 guys like a porn whore. Imagine her trying to rationalize that she did nothing wrong. Thats just an irreparable wrong.

[TheMan]

Quote:

The extent to which cheating is forgivable is somewhat dependent on context. Unfortunately for you, a lot of variables in this situation are going to make this tough to get past. I'll give you a male's perspective on this situation.

We males are a proud bunch and pretty territorial. Very few things crush a man's pride like being cheated on. Sometimes we can get past it, that depends on the context.

1 - You cheated on him with a friend of his. If it were a stranger, he may have been able to handle it, but this is a close friend. He has to look this person in the eye knowing he fucked his wife. Their friendship is probably ruined because he probably won't be able to handle that. Pride won't allow it. So not only did you fuck up his relationship with you, you sabotaged his relationship with his friend (I know his friend is not blameless, but that's irrelevant). Also, any male friendships in the future will be probably involve some paranoia on his part.

2 - Threesome. The ultimate fantasy for many males. Your husband probably fantasized about having a threesome with you, but instead you had one with his friend. Double shot to his pride. Not only did his friend fuck his wife, he had a threesome with her. Crushing.

3 - Not only did you cheat on him, you did it while he was away at work. While he was providing for you and your future together. So he was off trying to make a better life for you two and you engaged in a threesome with his close friend as a reward. More pride destroyed.

4 - Things were seemingly good in your relationship. Maybe he could have understood if you were in a rough spot, but by your account, things were pretty happy. How is he supposed to trust you if you can't stay faithful during the happy times?

Do you see how this is much bigger than just cheating? You cheated with his best friend, in a threesome (which you have never done with your husband), while he was working, and during the happy times. The context matters, and you did way more than just cheat, given the circumstances. And alcohol is a pointless excuse. He won't buy that.
Frankly, I just don't see how his pride can permit him to forgive you. Staying with you would make him seem like the ultimate cuckold. If you get rejected, don't feel sorry for yourself, feel sorry for him. He's going to be the one with the bigger adjustment/relationship issues after this.

:O ...who are you and what did you do with the real reddit!?

[slubu]

Does anyone have the link or text of the original post?

[Samseau]

(11-20-2012 11:16 AM)slubu Wrote:  

Does anyone have the link or text of the original post?

Ask and ye shall receive

http://i.imgur.com/EiKB1.jpg?1


"Never have I ever" - I'll have to add that one to my anti-LMR repertoire.

[slubu]

Thanks Samseau. This is probably the most angry I've been in months...just reading this story. Unbelievable.

[Dr. Howard]

I read the original post first and felt like bruce banner turning into the hulk. The reply was awesome. I also thought through what my response would be pre and post game/red pill days.

Pre pill - I would have flipped out on the girl and somehow blamed myself, that is if I found out at all because I'd be oblivious to her and the dude acting really weird, would have called the guy an asshole and probably beat him hard.

Post pill - I would go silent and cold on the girl and camly present her with divorce papers favourable to me. The 'friend' dude I would confront in private, tell him never to look me in the eye again and that he needs to evacuate himself from any social gathering we ever find ourselves together at over the next 5 years, otherwise I will have to violently destroy him in that setting to maintain my own honour. Then I would take a month's vacation, return, put all that anger into barbells and set a new Squat and Deadlift PR.

I think people go apeshit when their mind or perception of what is 'possible' or 'impossible' is broken, if you read, experience and realize that women can, have and will throw their entire family under the bus for the most trivial of personal gains or experience your reaction may be much more cool and calculated because you're never surprised or shocked. (it is for me at least)

That is, if I ever found out at all. People are so cowardly these days that I bet all 3 will try to lie and hide it as long as possible.