Quote: (10-29-2012 04:36 AM)AlbertoDelMuerto Wrote:
I did read The Fashion Bible briefly!
As for longer sets, I am doing those as well, just yesterday I approached a blonde at the subway station and talked for 7-8 minutes, but when I went for the close she came up with many excuses,she was kinda shy and nervous.
Why did she have to come up with "many excuses?" Why didn't just one suffice? Did you try to talk her into it after the first excuse, and if so, is it possible that she was more nervous than shy because your 7-8 minutes of talking creeped her out?
A lot of guys coming into this thread have been very patient with you, and I'm going to be a little more blunt here. I don't want to discourage the honest effort you're putting out here or make you feel more socially awkward, but there seems to be a real disconnect between you and the reality around you, judging by how you describe your approaches and the way you're interacting on the feedback people are giving you.
Maybe it's just the way I'm reading your posts or your writing style...
If not, I really think you'd make a lot better progress if you slowed down on the approaches and focused more on your social skills. I know a lot of others here say just get those approaches out of the way, but with this particular case it seems there's a real strong possibility that a lack of social intelligence is making you come across as a bit of a creep to women, and that's hard to overcome without tackling the problem head on.
Maybe it's a cultural gap - didn't you say you were raised in Mexico? have you been speaking English your whole life?
If I were you, I'd seriously reconsider your aversion to social circles - that'd be a great place to start. You seem to have a real elitist mentality when it comes to other people; are you highly intelligent? Like it or not, women are people too, so you'll have to get past that if you want success with them.
Start just going out to make friends and spend some time at mixed-sex parties without the sole motivation being to bang the women there. If what I'm sensing here is right, you'll need to spend some real time developing that instinctual social intelligence.
Can you get laid without getting this issue out of the way? Probably, but it won't bring happiness. There's a lot more to getting laid than getting a number and getting her in bed - in the morning she'll still be there and so will you.
Sorry if what I'm saying offends - just calling it like I see it. I do admire your tenacity, so don't give up. I'm just suggesting you come at using game to improve your life from a different angle.
Edit: Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.
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