Putting on my flame suit for this one!
Los Angeles is hands down one of the best cities I have ever lived in. It has absolutely everything I need and more. Surprisingly, it has even better amenities and more activities than London (with much love to my old tribe there).
I really don't understand the complaint that it is fake and shallow. When I go out and meet people they're very friendly to me. Sure, they may not have much interest in getting to know me, but I don't have much interest in getting to know them either beyond the superficial. I just prefer to have people being pleasant to my face in my day to day interactions.
From another thread, here's my own opinion on this fakeness and shallow claim for LA:
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People on this site rag about Los Angeles and how terrible and fake it is. In my experience, people here have been astoundingly friendly. I'm married, but women have been very receptive to me. When I was here last, my experience was roughly the same. I never understood the fakeness claim and I think people who make this claim are projecting something. People are always friendly to me even though I may not see them again.
To each their own. Fly out and spend a week or two and see what it is like.
Personally, weather is probably the most important aspect of a city and Miami has it in spades.
Friendly =/= genuine. It's true that people are friendly in LA, but those friendly people often tend to be flaky and insincere. It can be very difficult to forge deeper connections with people, even if they're superficially pleasant. They might be laid back and nice to your face, but that doesn't mean that they actually like you and, in my experience, a lot of those "nice" people won't hesitate to shit on you behind your back. To that end, I totally get where the perception of fakeness comes from regarding LA because I've experienced it as well.
I hear this argument all the time and it confuses me greatly. The opposite of Los Angeles culture would be New England's where you immediately know where everyone stands with you because they're all assholes to your face until they decide to know you deeply.
I don't know about you, but i'm not needy nor do I need to spend my time around others to validate myself and who I am. I prefer a friendly , "Hey bud, how's the day going?" "Good! How about you?" "Excellent! Keep on enjoying the weather!" and just leave it at that. I have enough of my own problems to deal with and have no desire to want to dig deeper into someone else's life.
I don't have a desire to know people beyond the superficial nor do I expect them to like me and vice versa. The only person that really knows me deeply is my wife and I expect to keep it that way.
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a lot of those "nice" people won't hesitate to shit on you behind your back.
Don't most people do this? I've talked shit about my friends behind their backs and i've heard shit they say about me behind my back. It's not that big a deal if you're secure in who you are and where you fall in the world.
Really, if you find Los Angeles shallow and fake then you should take a deep look in the mirror and check to see if it is you that is the one that's acting insecure and needy for the validation of an entourage. Learn to enjoy friendly personal encounters without having the need to make them your best friend forever!
Los Angeles isn't shallow or fake, but then again there are a ton of insecure people all around looking for some validation. I've experienced this in every city that i've lived in and it's no different here. At least you won't have to worry about people scowling at you in the streets like I had happen in New England.
On a side note, I joined a retro car club. Met this really cool guy, talked, and sure enough he's the CEO of a mid sized business in town. Week later I got a job working for him. Pretty freaking awesome!
This town has been awesome and I doubt i'll ever leave unless there's an opportunity to make massive money elsewhere. The weather, people, and opportunities that have presented themselves to me have been so bountiful that it makes sitting in traffic not a big deal at all.
For those of you still going to bars and clubs, why do you bother? Even when I was single, these places were always filled with sad and miserable people. I got more success at day time activities. No one talks to anyone in a bar or club anymore, you've got girls with sky high bitch shields either looking for a Chad Thundercock or a clown, the cost to drink at the bar is exorbitant, and the venues' where ever you are, are always too loud to run any real game without shouting in a girl's ear.
All of those negative make night game a losing proposition unless i'm going out with a group of people I already know.