Great r/OKCupid post. I want to find the man responsible and give him a medal:
"So for those who didn't read my last thread, last friday I slept with a guy that I met for casual sex. Despite knowing he was going to get some anyway, he was incredibly sweet and romantic and implied that he wanted me to be his girlfriend. We texted the next morning and made plans for Sunday night, then I didn't hear from him again at all and I sent a bunch of clingy crazy-girl texts.
On Thursday I sent a tentative tendril of contact out, saying "my B" about the texts and asking if he wanted to get a drink.
He said we could meet up again, but to skip the drinks and just go to my place to fuck. I was like "All right, if that's the direction you want to take it." His specified that I had to suck his dick. TMI but I like doing that so I was down.
Then last night he sent me:
Would you mind playing some Anne frank role playing? Can we pretend that my dick is an air hole in a gas chamber?
I'm just... I'm so taken aback. (I'm ancestrally jewish, btw, though not religiously) He seemed really intensely genuine in person. Looking at our initial messages, he did seem rather coarse and just wanted to meet up and bone. How did I not see this coming? He gave me absolutely no indication of being an asshole. If you'd said he would send me this, I would have laughed.
I assumed his silence was because of my texts, but what if he's just an asshole? How many of my other one-night-stands, dates, etc, were assholes pretending to be nice? I know this sounds sheltered but I've never in my life had someone artificially be so sweet to me, at least not that I knew of.
I feel like my judgment (which I thought was good, before) is awful and I don't know if I want to meet anyone else off OKCupid. What if they're all secret assholes? Fuck. How can I tell? Is there a test or something?
I'm trying to be very non-dramatic about this, since I've been getting downvoted lately. :"