Quote: (03-25-2015 04:12 AM)Pass Wrote:
This may sound counter intuitive, but when I used to travel to Tokyo for work, I often hooked up with white girls (American, Canadian, Australian, Kiwis, English, Danes, Germans, Swedes, Russians). They're interested in Asian culture which usually includes Asian men. As an Asian American you'll stand out from the Japanese guys who tend to be less aggressive and don't have the English skills as you do. It might be worth it to think outside the box.
I'm a 40 year old Asian-American, 5'9" 175, well-traveled, decent but not great social skills and more cute than handsome. More buff than average but also a little body fat. Above-average style but again nothing special. I'm actually a sweet earnest dude so I get friend zoned a ton here, a lot of first dates from online that don't translate to second/escalation. Decently wealthy but not by bay area standards. My spanish is advanced beginner. The only special skill I have is I can salsa dance really well (not professional but routinely can build attraction via salsa) Also have a full, interesting life that I enjoy living, have my own contracting business + play music enough to actually pay rent now.
Just based on my recent travels, Colombia, Lima and Mexico city were a notable step-up from the Bay Area where i live....I spent a total of 11.5 wks in those cities (3 wks each in Cali, Medellin, Bogota, 1 in Lima, 1.5 in CDMX) last year and a half and ended up with 6 lays in the 5-7 range, and several additional make outs with women ranging from 25-35. Here I don't get those numbers in a year. Met most of my lays online, and some my other dates from salsa.
I actually have only lurked on this site because my game skills are essentially zero, I mostly dance and hope for the best, and say funny/random stuff to keep their interest when possible/try to have a genuine connection when talking at a cafe/bar. I loved dating in Bogota especially. It was tremendous fun being creative with the limited language and making hotties crack up with the ridiculous stuff we'd come up with. Honestly though there was a palpable difference even walking around cities like Cali/Bogota/Medellin in terms of interest was getting. I feel with intermediate spanish and staying in one place longer it could be even better. In bogota in particular i had dates with stylish, educated women in their late 20s-early 30s, even a gorgeous sweet 22 year old who I ran out of time to plan a salsa date for. What worked best for me was vibing with worldly/imaginative conversations with English-speakers on date 1 then escalating with salsa on date 2.
Being Asian or 40 or in tech really didn't seem like negatives which was so refreshing, some were actively curious. Think about that--3 negatives turned into non-issues. Even better I made several legit friends, men and women, who I will surely see when I return later this year, and I am legit intrigued by so much about that place...seriously thinking about splitting time between here and there. Tbh I'm not at a place where it's important to rack up a ton of lays or anything, but how nice it is to have access to hot women who you actually connect with intellectually and emotionally. Changes the whole landscape of how you picture your life.