[speakeasy]

I'm a few months from turning 36. If 30 is scaring you, then wait till 40 is looming around the corner. One of my best friends just turned 36 last week and we were having one of those "we're getting old" discussions. I'm starting to hate the topic. At a certain point, I think we just have to quit sweating it. All this worrying about our age is a product of our Western youth-focused culture. In some cultures age brings status as it's associated with more wisdom and collected wealth. 30 is just a construct. Years themselves are even constructs. There's nothing peculiar about having orbited the sun 30 times. Does it matter if it was 28 times or 32 times? Not really. But people make a big deal because there's a zero at the end of the number.

Whatever the case, there's nothing we can do about the progression of time so we might as well just accept it gracefully. If we're living our lives right, we should always be seeing ourselves as a better, more complete person than we were 5 years ago. Of course in some ways I wish I could go back to my early 20s, but then I'd go back to being as dumb as a typical person is at that age(Athlone non-withstanding). Last weekend I came across an old cdrom of some stuff I wrote back in the mid to late 90s. I was just cringing. Hell, I even cringe at some of the stuff I wrote on this forum when I first joined. That's a good sign of course. It means I've grown up and improved myself. Yes, my joints ache more now, I get winded a bit easier and I do get tendonitis in my knees from frequent cycling, but I'm as active as I was in my 20s and I don't see that stopping anytime soon. I still have a fairly young-looking face with no wrinkles and I still have my hairline even if my hair is greying a bit. We should just enjoy the moment for what it is. We're worrying about being in our 30s, but when we're 75, that's going to sound young. So just live your life imaging how you will look back at the present time when you are an old man. Then you'll see this is all much ado over nothing.

(03-05-2012 02:34 AM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:  

Hang overs are the devil for me now a days. Man, I remember in my early twenties, I could drink three nights in a row, maybe feel a little hung over in the morning, then feel fine after getting breakfast, coffee, and smoking weed. If I get hung over now, it's like an all day thing, my entire next day is in affect ruined. (This is especially true, because drinking fucks up my sleep).

I don't have much problem with hangovers these days. I had one a few weeks ago after a night of drinking, but I was mixing different types of alcohol and then had a cup of hot chocolate which messed me up. I should've known better. Mixing alcohol and sugar wreaks havoc on my stomach. Drink higher quality alcohols and drink them clean without sodas and syrups. I've found my drink of choice long ago. Tanqueray or Bombay with tonic and a lime. Simple and clean. Gets me a good buzz and never have a hangover from it.

[Commander Shepard]

There are some things on this list I agree with and some things I disagree with.
I'm 28.


Agree
-stretching out becomes important as you age.
-Music, by and large, sucks for the younger generation.
-Hangovers last for a few days.
-I do hesitate about saying my age. I even lie sometimes about it sometimes.
-I do remember "when I was young" for sure.
-I can play XBOX 360 and PS3 just fine.

Disagree
-being unable to relate to the younger people. I have a good amount of friends, plus a little brother, who are in the 17-23 range. I can kick knowledge with any of them and fit in just nicely. I can date a college freshmen in a heartbeat and easily string her along with my presentation.
-Dating younger women. See above.
-Got over wanting to be an athlete in high school.
-I don't talk about money often and never will.
-I knew drinking games were unhealthy after freshmen year.
-The fuck is a cocktail party? Is that shit for old people? *kidding*
-Always enjoyed reading books (perhaps too often hence my lack of development with my relations with women).

So yeah, I've escaped a lot of the limitations that the blogger says happen when you hit the 3-0.

[BortimusPrime]

I've found that if you avoid sunlight and obesity, you can be whatever age you dress.

I'd say the only key difference between an "old" person and a "young" person is whether or not their brain has fossilized. Once you stop listening to what other people have to say and just lecturing everyone and giving them the benefit of your supposed wisdom, you've turned into an old person.

[Kaizen]

Im in my 30s and the list has many good points (effects of alcohol) while others less so ( i don't hesitate about my age, not on fb).

Even though a lot on the list now applies to me in my 30s, Id say I have better game than in my 20s. Relating to the list doesn't make you lame. It's just reality. Being able to having 15 drinks in a night without a hangover 10 years ago didn't help me any better with girls.

Like an again veteran in sports (think Steve Nash), your body is different so you make some adjustments.

[Samseau]

(03-05-2012 01:33 PM)MikeCF Wrote:  

(03-05-2012 10:05 AM)Samseau Wrote:  

List is pretty beta, no?
#14 Can’t Seriously Date Girls in Their Early 20’s

When I was in college, I hated college girls. Too vapid. Loud. Obnoxious. Attention-seeking.

In college, longest relationship was one month.

I'll go out to bang them. But to date them? No way.

I don't think the solution is to avoid young girls, but to instead either gain access to a different culture of young girls or find a young girl who's more independent from her peers.

[Aliblahba]

(03-06-2012 02:28 AM)Samseau Wrote:  

(03-05-2012 01:33 PM)MikeCF Wrote:  

(03-05-2012 10:05 AM)Samseau Wrote:  

List is pretty beta, no?
#14 Can’t Seriously Date Girls in Their Early 20’s

When I was in college, I hated college girls. Too vapid. Loud. Obnoxious. Attention-seeking.

In college, longest relationship was one month.

I'll go out to bang them. But to date them? No way.

I don't think the solution is to avoid young girls, but to instead either gain access to a different culture of young girls or find a young girl who's more independent from her peers.

The difference between 18 y.o. girls in Europe and America is daylight and dark. I don't have the patience to put up with young girls in the U.S. anymore. On occasion you'll find a good one. But their not as refined as their Euro counterparts.

[IVth_Element]

This seems more like a list for late 30's at best. I'm 28 and almost nothing on the list applies to me currently. Still pulling random one-nighters, drinking and whatever as I choose, hate facebook, don't talk about money, drink mostly vodka and gin, always slept a lot, can get young girls, and will never say "When I was young..." unless I'm talking to my grandchildren one day. Who is so delusional that they think they're gonna go pro at any age and my dad knows how to play XBOX so that theory is bullshit.

Here's a better list for how I've changed as nearing 30:

1.) Not as interested in fitting in with the crowd. Rather roll solo than with a crew of chumps.
2.) More concerned with appearance. Sneakers and t-shirt doesn't cut it anymore. Style should improve with age.
3.) More sentimental about friend and family. Genuine concerns for people that are close to you. Couldn't give a shit at 18 really.
4.) Increased self-reflection and introspection.
5.) Much, much, happier.
6.) Stronger self-reliance. Less insecure.
7.) More judgmental, stronger core beliefs. Greater disgust for entitlement, power trips, superiority, etc.
8.) More interested in quality of surroundings. Burned out on dive bars and sports bars.
9.) Complain more about loud music, noise.
10) Doing less 3 nights in a row of drinking.
11.) More appreciative of alone time, down time.
12.) More humble. I brag a lot less and don't worry about impressing anyone.

Add yours...

[The Fantasist]

I'm 37 and life has never been better. My game has improved no end,physically I am in the best shape of my life since I know how to train better and eat better,I can afford to do more things I always wanted to. I don't suffer some of the insecurities of youth,give less of a fuck what anyone thinks of me and don't see set backs as such a big deal any more. You become more content with what you have. I believe my 40's will be even better and will be the best decade of my life as long as I stay healthy.

For you late thirties and forties guys who feel they are not getting the women they want at home: head East to Russia. Older men are in demand and because Russian women look after themselves the 25 -30 age group has an incredible number of great looking women in it just waiting for you to approach them.

I still expect to be regularly banging Russian women in their 20's well into my 50's. Bring it on!

[Jalouse]

The most interesting guy I've met so far in my year of travelling is in his 60's, when you meet people like this you realise that if you want to you can have a great life at any age.

[Moma]

With Ciallis and gear, fears of age are no longer a concern for men of today!

[speakeasy]

The things that bother me most about getting older are:

1) More Health problems.
2) Seeing your loved ones such as parents and aunts and uncles die off one by one. This one especially hurts.
3) Younger women becoming more out of reach.
4) Loss of libido. I can already feel a drop off. At 18 I'd wake up with a stubborn boner almost every day. Even giving a girl a hug at that age made me turgid. Not anymore now at 35. When I went to my first strip club as a teen my dick was so hard it hurt. Now you'd have to pay me to go to a strip club.

[rozayINTL]

I thought the list was extremely lame. No disrespect but it was f*ckin weak.. This guy is secretly fantasizing about being whipped/settling down. Come on.

One of my best friend's dads growing up was banging college aged girls in his 50s left and right. 30s aint shit. Maybe in my 70s I'll start to slow down.

[garygroundwork]

(03-07-2012 07:17 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

The things that bother me most about getting older are:

1) More Health problems.
2) Seeing your loved ones such as parents and aunts and uncles die off one by one. This one especially hurts.
3) Younger women becoming more out of reach.
4) Loss of libido. I can already feel a drop off. At 18 I'd wake up with a stubborn boner almost every day. Even giving a girl a hug at that age made me turgid. Not anymore now at 35. When I went to my first strip club as a teen my dick was so hard it hurt. Now you'd have to pay me to go to a strip club.

agree with ALL of this.

[takeda]

Interesting point about stating your age....Ive turned 30 but dont look it at all and can easily get away with lying and saying mid-late twenties. Do people think its worth lying about? Is it a stigma for younger chicks?

One thing that is annoying is then having the boring conversation that "you dont look it" and "30 is still young" etc etc. I dont give a fuck, im a lot happier at 30 than I was at 20 and am pretty ok with the whole thing as it doesnt really mean anything to anyone sensible.

I havent figured out a general approach yet, but have been lying to chicks under 25 so far :-D


takeda

[speakeasy]

(03-11-2012 07:22 PM)takeda Wrote:  

One thing that is annoying is then having the boring conversation that "you dont look it" and "30 is still young" etc etc.

I was hanging with forum member Princeton one day and I'll give him credit for the perfect retort to that age question from younger women. Just say, "I take good care of myself. " Short, simple and sweet. I've used it since and thats all you need to remember.