Quote: (02-11-2012 01:11 PM)Laner Wrote:
Damn, I am glad I am not the only one experiencing this.
Maybe its a newish Scandinavian thing. I have a drawer full of numbers already, so if I crunch the numbers quickly, I would guess a 60-70% flake rate for me as well.
I have no idea why girls would be giving out their numbers with no intentions of returning calls.
I feel for ya Jefe. This shit is maddening.
To me it's very obvious and simple, if unpleasant to think about.
1) Guy approaches
2) He is inadequately YoungTallHandsomeCool to obviously impress her friends with based on the fact she knows nothing about him. (If she had seen you play at a party -- that means play music, DJ generation, I guess that currently includes a DJ posing as a musician--or rock it in athletics it might have been totally different.)
3) She wants to be polite when he asks for number. Directly saying no may cause open hostility from this unknown agent.
4) She skillfully puts on a totally fake smile and simulated enthusiasm in her voice and gives you number, already feeling how much she wants to get out of the situation. They surpass men in social faking, because passive consumers must above all avoid the high cost of enemies. This successful deception is the hingepoint of female strategy, because she doesn't know if you will turn out to be a real Alpha (whatever that is for her, might be a moron gang-banger headed for life at 23) and women have allegiance only to status, not to individuals.
It's sort of like acting like a banker who acts polite to everyone, because he doesn't know who has money, but he is always thinking he can't give away loan money unless many tests are passed
5) She is female and generally incapable of taking a risk to gain future reward without major prior social approval ( she is by nature a passive consumer) so even if you were close to her YoungTallHandsomeCool standards, she doesn't do anything to follow up such as answering your call.
6) She waits for a more proven Alpha to express interest, and is willing to fuck him even if she has about a 1% chance of bagging his resources and children, because going along with being unwilling to work for the future goes being too dumb to visualize the future, so she tries to cope by working only with known quantities: The reason there are virtually no major inventions in all of history from women.
There. Not hard to understand, just depressing if you want to view women as any kind of equal companion.
"going along with being unwilling to work for the future goes being too dumb to visualize the future"
Had to repeat that. Felt as good as smacking an uppity arrogant bitch in the face. ;-)
Since I want to learn to deal with the world as it is, so as not to be frustrated, I need to adjust my expectations:
Women are charming but dumb, passive baby factories; that go after immediate and obvious current moment status as stupidly as a cat chases a shiny moving toy. You have to deal with them as you deal with a child of unknown meanness and unruliness, and certainly not take any of her attempts at thinking seriously.