Take what I am saying to you seriously, but not personally.
Quote: (10-06-2018 11:08 AM)The British Bulldog Wrote:
I've just started university and for fresher night I've been clubbing every night for the past 8 days, as the title reads yes I'm a virgin (20, UK) and I've always been hopeless with girls.
Okay, your results have not been what you want, but you're fucking 20 years old. You're not 38 and a virgin, so put your inexperience into perspective.
You've entered adulthood at a tumultuous time for men in general and young men especially. There's a difference between having high expectations and throwing around pointless, counterintuitive self-labels like "hopeless with girls". You were probably shy and reasonably awkward, at worst.
If you've clubbed for the last eight days, mostly to get a lay, that's a level of thirst you could probably do without. Acceptable, measured persistence and overdoing it are not the same thing. If you could have honestly said you're out clubbing because of fresher activities, so be it, but based on the fact you're going out alone most of the time, you should try day game (and balance that with your other activities).
I don't know you. However, using what you've said so far you could be going into unhealthy territory with these repetitive nights out, venturing to clubs alone.
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The past week I've been able to get make-out sessions with some girls and it's really helped bolster my confidence now I'm feeling sooner or late I'm going to have to learn to close to seal the deal.
Okay, that's a start, but don't get ahead of yourself. Those of us old enough to have been in clubs 1,000+ times know that locking lips/slashing tongues in a club with a girl is 10 times easier than when she's not in a club and/or sober.
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It's a pretty small town so hitting the same clubs more or less means I see some of the same girls and build a rapport with them. I'm pretty much going by myself as most of the people in university flats are not interested in gaming or approaching girls. I'm just trying to train myself to approach as many girls as possible and get used to rejections.
Rapport and comfort would work better with many Asian students, true. When I was back in Australia, Chinese, Japanese and Korean girls were very rewarding to make out with and get into bed, but either took longer or required more comfort game.
Again, though, see these nights out as part of your broader life.
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I'm thinking I should just keep going out every-night and eventually it should happen and once that happens I can finally say I'm no longer a virgin. I'm enjoying it because my preference is for Asian girls and there are lots of Asian students here.
As I alluded to previously, going all-in can easily become unhealthy. If this is costing you other parts of your life (not a simple thing to observe most of the time) or you're feeling a constant urge, decreasing your nights out is the way to go.
Notwithstanding any first lay you may get, it's likely you're playing with fire.
If you're enjoying it, fine. Yet I can't help but keep wondering what you're missing out on (decent sleep, gym, self-improvement, getting into your studies, being with your friends).
Even if you get this so far elusive first lay, don't become a slave to this goal. Losing your virginity, believe it or not, could set you back in the long-term if you approach and achieve it in the wrong way.