Quote: (10-14-2012 11:59 PM)Giovonny Wrote:
Quote: (10-14-2012 11:46 PM)iknowexactly Wrote:
"Am I making it easier for her to fuck me than NOT to fuck me?"
Would you explain this a little bit.. I think I know what you mean but I'd like to hear your examples. Thanks
But first, I opened two chicks ( hired guns who weren't waiting on me) at Starbucks yesterday; but none today-- so I admit all this is too theoretical!
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I was thinking about your post where you said "you have to work" or something like that. Then I thought of all the stuff one can do to make it easier for a woman to be intimate with you.
It comes from when I used to design computer interfaces for people who were not highly educated. You couldn't just say "There's 32 steps to ring something up, learn them." because these people just weren't smart enough.
You HAD to make it the easy way.
This was the key item of wisdom with computer interfaces as well as any other office or bureaucratic procedure.
IF YOU MAKE THE RIGHT WAY THE EASY WAY, PEOPLE WILL DO IT RIGHT.
IF you make the right way hard, they'll always resist.
I realized this applies to all the steps of seducing a woman-- I think Athlone outlined them in more detail than I understand in the "It Just Happened...[ that I had a million things in place for her comfort]" post he did.
But to oversimplify, women need (1) Appearance of Social Status and a feeling of social comfortableness. (2) Wanton sex (3) Safety from Death/Injury and (4) material comfort
You can help her maintain a "green" light on her continuous checking system which dries up her snatch when too many of those are absent by:
1) Talking to her first makes things much easier for her than waiting for her to talk to you which will take about until the sun burns out.
2) Using tone of voice, body language, grooming, clothes, vocabulary, eye contact, and posture in your one-to-one interaction with her. Convince of Big 3 : Safe, Interesting, Attractive.
3) Arranging things so her complicity is not obvious, the famous hamster deniability decoy. YOu can signal that better things are coming if you want in a subtle way.
4) Calibrate for surroundings, for instance today I was in a Starbucks with tons of horny Asian chicks. They can't have an older guy whispering in their ear in front of the other chicks but they might like it IMMEDIATELY when I get her outside.
5) Following number 4, I've been told card counters ( math aware organized gamblers) vary their bets in a way that is markedly different from regular gamblers. A good seducer must employ the same benevolent calculation in "varying his bets."
By this I mean analogically-- Inside the Starbucks when she's worried about her image, you bet low-- speak formally, don't mention sensuality, whatever your strategy is. As Roosh describes it, don't scare the cat.
But when you've got to an optimal isolation setting you've got to RAPIDLY escalate your bet. Someone described a sophisticated model of low kino before the first night bang rush, but that is precise psy-ops beyond the scope of this essay.
The point is
you make it easy for her to keep her dignity in the Starbucks while chatting her up and starting to turn her on. Then
you make it easy to have the nasty, vulgar sex she thinks about when she's alone.
At each point you're making it easy relative to what she needs.
At some points making it easy to stay engaged with you requires challenging her. It's easier to be with a man who is strong and can assert his opinions.
I anticipate some people describing this as servile, but it really works the opposite:
The Alpha she wants won't be nervous and attract embarrassing attention in Starbucks/whereever. He'll be confident and talk to her like she already knows him. When she wants to be tied up and abused, well, you can explain later if that feels like being servile when you do it to her.
She isn't going to feel guilty about sexuality if she realizes you are into it also. So making it easy is different here... it might be letting her know you like horny girls.
I read a lot of girls are masturbating several times a week now, and more importantly admitting it in surveys. So she's thinking about her depraved sex life... make it easy to have a better one
People will always take the easiest path, and you can provide it if you understand/can sense what they are looking for at that particular moment.