Quote: (02-20-2019 12:46 AM)cruzinV Wrote:
Problem is I have severe approach anxiety, I haven't approached a girl in 2 years. My looks is my biggest sticking point, my friends have told me I'm about a 4/10 and I think that's pretty accurate.
Nah. Remember your beautiness is not only your physique itself but what you show too: girls used to see me as "ugly" but since I've been doing game that changed and women see me more beautiful or at least I've noticed so. When you show high self-steem you increase your beautiness and girls perceive so. You're not ugly: you just think of yourself as ugly but that isn't so. When you think you're not ugly you think that you're beautiful, and when you're beautiful you'll groom yourself to keep that beautiness, so do it: groom yourself and love yourself as if you were the most beautiful person on earth, dammit.
Try going to a gym if you wish, or just do calisthenics if you're a broke-ass like me: getting at least a bit of muscle helps a lot, believe me.
Quote: (02-20-2019 12:46 AM)cruzinV Wrote:
I need to stop thinking about my looks and just approach girls and not give a fuck. But what's the best way to develop the idgaf attitude?
First of all your mentality: if a girl rejects you there are millions that you can go to, why are you going to care about some regular girl that isn't the best at the end when there are way too better ones that would die for you? Nevertheless you're the man with the goods she's looking for, if she misses you she will be sorry: not you.
Second: experience. Try to memorize what I said before and go with that mentality when you talk to women. Maybe the first times you'll feel a bit embarrassed or akward, but at the 10th or 15th time you'll find it a commond task like brushing your teeth or talking with a friend and when that happens you'll feel more relaxed as you've realized that talking with a women isn't such a great or scary thing, because it isn't.
Quote: (02-20-2019 12:46 AM)cruzinV Wrote:
How do even get started after 2 yrs of not approaching anyone? I dont have any friends and always go out alone, I think this also hurts my chances. Any advice is appreciated, just trying to change my lifestyle, I feel at this point in my life it's now or never.
I see you're already going alone and it's going pretty good for you yet I'm going to give my advice just in case.
It's better to go alone, believe me: you get twice as confidence every time when you end sarging than what you would get with a wing: it's tested by myself. There is a good article by Roosh about
Going Out Alone that you can read if you want a good perspective.
Quote: (04-02-2019 02:04 AM)cruzinV Wrote:
And I'm kinda embarrassed to admit that I thought about her all day today like a damn middle schooler. I know it's the scarcity mentality I must have.
Falling in love with the women you game is not bad, as it happens to me sometimes and it feels great. That's my opinion. Just
be sure not to develop oneitis or be in love with her so much that if anything goes wrong you'll feel bad; loving a woman you're gaming is not wrong always that you don't exagerate with it that you say to yourself "I can't live without her": that's the root of most problems. Though after gaming a lot of women that "love" will be fading, or at least that happens with some. Yes, it can be your scarcity mentality but as long as you control it there won't be any problems.
Quote: (02-20-2019 12:46 AM)cruzinV Wrote:
Anyway hopefully i could ride this confidence boost for a while and build on it.
Do it, buddy! Wish you the best of luck!