Alot of deep and soul searching shit on here.
Maybe it's the holidays, maybe it's seeing all the friends with families, friends married with kids, etc.
I went through a slightly bummed period this Thanksgiving weekend, it made me think alot.
It also made me realize my predicament isn't that bad.
Steelex you aren't alone - dudes on here changed, they moved from quantity/quality pussy to worldly causes. (More on that later)
Some us grow out of chasing pussy and want to chase money, others dont' have to chase money as much and want to chase pussy.
We all love banging sluts, some eventually want to bang quality females.
Some want to do both (me included). Fortunately I have a few plates that are just plain fun, slutty, and are fun to chill with (in bed).
I also have a decent main girl right now who I enjoy going out with.
Included are new plates, ons's, and new dates.
I'll be quite honest, I've had some slightly nagging thoughts:
"Where the fuck am I going in life?"
"There's no way in hell I could deal with a kid, let alone family."
"Can I even afford that right now?"
"Shit I can barely help myself out right now"
"Work probably is killing me inside, I need more money"
"I really need to work on this debt"
"This girl is cool, but there's not much [else]"
"Game is 24/7 so can I ever really give apart of me to a girl"
"Why bother getting married, it's bad odds, why not just have a kid?"
The thoughts go on, father time is maybe a man's biological clock, maybe it's apart of the male hamster.
Now about the change of the forum:
Yeah man it was totally about game, traevling, and bettering oneself, with women or in life.
I'd say some of the biggest pushes of change in the forum are the following:
-Obama
-The rise of the PC and SJW Cultural Marxism
-The Immigrant Crisis of Europe/Terrorist Attacks
-Donald Trump election/president
-The rise of the Alt Right
-The ever increase Autistic Right newbies that joined the forum after the meet up outrage.
I know quite a few gents here who talk about that on back channels, of how things have changed.
The forum has grown, it's demographics have changed, but you'll notice a certain subset who never post in the Game section and avoid like the plague.
Most who avoid the Game section are usually in the political section, rarely do you see the two merge, typically in the travel/making money areas.
It doesn't mean we can't still write and advise on gaming and banging sluts.
I've actually focused on spending less money, paying off debt and now focused more than ever on leaning out and getting a program at the gym.
I'll still bang my plates, I might dabble with a new chick here and there. Hell I'm finding myself writing off mediocre chicks and not bothering following up on meeting them.
I'd rather not go out and drink much anymore, focus on my diet, and look better.
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All that side, banging vapid chicks gets boring. It's all the same. After awhile, it just felt like I was reading from a script.
From there, you start to wonder if there's more to life than just smashing smuts.
Then you realize there is...
100% how I feel sometimes on some dates I go on, I already have everything on auto pilot that I don't give a fuck until pulling her back to my pad.
I get excited when I don't worry about the script and just enjoy the girl I have around
(This is the convo about quality you talked about later after this comment)
Quote: (11-28-2017 03:27 AM)Mufasa Wrote:
And to be honest I think it stems from mastery of "true abundance mentality"
Players will typically refer to this as there are more fish in the sea, but i think as you become a more seasoned and efficient slaying machine you come to realize there are more fish in the sea and they will be right there where I left them"
And that's where I feel like I am at this point, even though I beat 2 year bang records, I'm still slowing down and looking for legit girls in my life.
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This is kind of where I'm at with my current main girl.
I'd say that giving this girl my exclusivity in the past wouldn't have been an option. "I can find another one" I would have said. Today "I can find another one" is why this girl may become baestation. She is better than most girls and if it doesnt work out "I can find another one" because these hoes aint going anywhere.
See this is what I've been doing ever since finding the forum, holding, selling, buying new.
It's a bit hypergamous on the male end of things, since you're always looking for the next best thing, I suppose it isn't an issue if you aren't worried about kids or getting married.
Quote: (11-28-2017 06:12 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
And I still don't see why people believe that marriage is the worst thing that can ever happen to you. For every divorce horror story I hear, I see an old 70s couple walking hand in hand, kissing, and stay at the other's bed when he/she is sick or dying. Dont get married with a fuck up woman and in a bad environment, dont get married when you are dumb. Problem solved
The issues I have with this is that those couples you're talking about got married almost half a decade ago in a different era and different culture.
The risk is way damn higher it'll go to shit in a divorce.
Being married 10 years is the new 30 years, being married 30 is the new 50 years of marriage.
I don't think it's a fair comparison.
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Or just dont get married if that's your thing. But dont tell everyone else marriage is bad. Reminds me of the butthurt OP in the lifestyle thread saying how Europe absolutely suck for everyone.
I think it's fair to argue the reasons against marriage on the forum - doesn't mean you need to shit on someones marriage on here or in person.