Firstly, thanks to everyone for their responses and encouragement.
Quote: (05-14-2015 09:03 AM)Nascimento Wrote:
Stick around.
I intend to. Seems there is volumes of material to read up and practice.
Quote: (05-14-2015 09:09 AM)Luvianka Wrote:
Begin by practicing a masculine sport: Krav Maga, Box -masculinity has to come up naturally. Salsa dancing classes are good for socializing with women.
Both are on my todo this summer.
Quote: (05-14-2015 10:06 AM)Sensei Creation Wrote:
Do 100 approaches ASAP .
Thanks, yes I've started working on this
Quote: (05-14-2015 10:30 AM)robreke Wrote:
Keep lifting
Like Nas said ^, stick around the Forum
Read Day Bang and begin to practice
Read Bang (Optional)
Read the Approach Thread and get ideas from there and implement.
Develop an approach you're comfortable with (takes time) and make it part of your weekly routine.
In addition to RVF, Maybe read the Rational Male website. Through that and your interactions with women, you will come to understand the true nature of women so that you become desensitized (to the greatest extent possible) to their fickle nature.
You're still young so focus on career and building an attractive lifestyle.
Invest and save money ( at least 10% of income)
Get a dope wardrobe. Look at the Style Threads in "Lifestyle" on this forum for ideas: Think quality clothes that are fitted/tailored to your body. It will make you more attractive.
Try to have a place with great logistics. i.e., meet dates where you can quickly walk them or bounce them to your pad.
Have a nice, neat bachelor pad.
Try to find and get cool friends.
All of this and similar advice from others noted down and added to my in-progress list.
Quote: (05-15-2015 12:35 PM)civpro Wrote:
Well what do you look like? That's the most important question.
Even at this age, I get complimented on being "cute", mostly due to my hairstyle and wardrobe. Looks have never been a problem for me.
Quote: (05-17-2015 07:46 AM)Druber Wrote:
My advice: I started out small. For example, when I'd go out shopping, I'd avoid the self-checkouts, and head to a checkout manned by someone. I'd then ask elderly questions, and just use some eye contact, and just be light. For me personally, this is a massive step, but it does get easier when you develop a IDGAF attitude.
As a former misanthrope/curmudgeon, I now try to smile at strangers, esp. older people as they seem more receptive (but try it on people your own age). I've now noticed that you start to feel good about yourself and life.
Thanks, I've been doing both of the above recently and it helps.
Quote: (05-17-2015 09:31 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
She's been honing her skills since grade school, and has been approached 100-1,000 more times than you have approached.
Thanks for bringing this up, its quite insightful.
Quote: (05-17-2015 06:58 PM)Vaun Wrote:
Look for ways to combine multiple goals.
This is a good idea. Thanks.
Quote: (05-18-2015 12:03 AM)memcpy Wrote:
Try to make the conversation longer, each time. Shoot for 1min at first. Work your way up to 10.
Thanks for this, another good tip.
Quote: (05-18-2015 09:33 AM)GoSkins Wrote:
Now, if I see a female looking my direction at a bar, I use the same tactic of talking to them as if they are the cashier, but on different topics, such as "that drink looks delicious, what is that?" or something very innocent.
I'll start trying this. Thanks.
Now for a short rant...
I noticed my social handicaps in teenage years but instead of fighting through them, I accepted them as a fact of life and focused internally on understanding my mind instead. To me social skills were just like a talent which many people were born with, and I wasn't, and therefore I diverted all my energy internally.
To go through superficial patterns of behavior in an attempt to win favors from other superficial people seemed a bit deceptive, so I focused on staying honest, doing the morally "right" thing in every situation,
keeping my karma good (i.e. not making moves on taken women, not manipulating women into sleeping with me, catching fish and releasing it back into the water, and waiting for a reward of sorts). I believe many others would relate to this path towards adulthood.
In my last two relationships, I was cheated on and the pain forced me to realize that something needs to change in my life, and that is what brought me to this forum. I am happy to say that the encouragement from everyone here so far has motivated me to be optimistic about the future.
Yes its not possible to go back in time and be the best version of myself when I was 21, but it is indeed possible to make the best of my upcoming years.
Then, there is always reincarnation.