Ok,
So, I have recently dated two artist type 21/22 year old women. Both were basically doing no-where jobs while they try to "make it" as musicians/actresses/whatever.
I am 26 years old and work as an engineer. I pretty much have my shit together, as far as non-relationship things go (not bragging, just a little background).
Here is my problem, after so long dating these two women (not at the same time), they both said something similar that I am wondering about. Last night, my new piece started talking about how she is paranoid that I am interested in other women. Here is the convo (keep in mind, this literally came out of nowhere, I was asleep when she started with this nonsense - at 6 AM):
Her: "I just think you need to exhaust more things before commiting to me, I don't wanna get hurt but I dont mind waiting"
Me: Sounds like you're calling it done
Her: I just dunno if I am everything you want I wish I could just feel like i wish i had more to offer
Her: Nooo, I want to be with you..I feel like you still want other women
Me: This is the second time youve brought that up.
Her: I just dont have everything figured out for myself..im afraid you will get bored and move onto another lady who "has her shit together"
Me: Yeah, what I really need is someone else
Her: Cuz im super paranoid i just dont get why you like me for real...i dont feel so important, like, you could have any woman why me?
Her: Well idk, im afraid of being alone
(time passes)
Her: No i just am confused as to if you truly want to pursue us? I've told you what id like...just let me know when you're ready
Me: What? Love? (she's been using the word in conversations)
Her: I really want something stable i dont wanna be wondering anymore. So lets plan to meet and talk in person, but i hope it ends with us together
Here is what I don't get. My previous girl told me that same line about "not being good enough for [me]" because she didn't want to be in a relationship. I let her do her thing, which resulted in her trying to get back with me several times (I told her no each time).
This girl started the conversation with a similar line, but then started talking about all this dumb shit about trying to be in a relationship. Perhaps she has multiple personality disorder, as she does seem to behave in two different manners depending upon her mood.
Should I use agree and amplify more strongly? Keep in mind, I have honestly never given her any sign that I was attracted to other women. Not out of choice or anything, I just haven't had the opportunity to instill jealousy/dread yet (we have only been hanging out together for a little while). This is why I can't understand all of the hamster spinning (unless she is just a really good liar and is attempting to boost my ego or something).
So, I have recently dated two artist type 21/22 year old women. Both were basically doing no-where jobs while they try to "make it" as musicians/actresses/whatever.
I am 26 years old and work as an engineer. I pretty much have my shit together, as far as non-relationship things go (not bragging, just a little background).
Here is my problem, after so long dating these two women (not at the same time), they both said something similar that I am wondering about. Last night, my new piece started talking about how she is paranoid that I am interested in other women. Here is the convo (keep in mind, this literally came out of nowhere, I was asleep when she started with this nonsense - at 6 AM):
Her: "I just think you need to exhaust more things before commiting to me, I don't wanna get hurt but I dont mind waiting"
Me: Sounds like you're calling it done
Her: I just dunno if I am everything you want I wish I could just feel like i wish i had more to offer
Her: Nooo, I want to be with you..I feel like you still want other women
Me: This is the second time youve brought that up.
Her: I just dont have everything figured out for myself..im afraid you will get bored and move onto another lady who "has her shit together"
Me: Yeah, what I really need is someone else
Her: Cuz im super paranoid i just dont get why you like me for real...i dont feel so important, like, you could have any woman why me?
Her: Well idk, im afraid of being alone
(time passes)
Her: No i just am confused as to if you truly want to pursue us? I've told you what id like...just let me know when you're ready
Me: What? Love? (she's been using the word in conversations)
Her: I really want something stable i dont wanna be wondering anymore. So lets plan to meet and talk in person, but i hope it ends with us together
Here is what I don't get. My previous girl told me that same line about "not being good enough for [me]" because she didn't want to be in a relationship. I let her do her thing, which resulted in her trying to get back with me several times (I told her no each time).
This girl started the conversation with a similar line, but then started talking about all this dumb shit about trying to be in a relationship. Perhaps she has multiple personality disorder, as she does seem to behave in two different manners depending upon her mood.
Should I use agree and amplify more strongly? Keep in mind, I have honestly never given her any sign that I was attracted to other women. Not out of choice or anything, I just haven't had the opportunity to instill jealousy/dread yet (we have only been hanging out together for a little while). This is why I can't understand all of the hamster spinning (unless she is just a really good liar and is attempting to boost my ego or something).