Quote: (12-06-2010 01:31 AM)Kona Wrote:
Quote: (12-05-2010 11:19 PM)hydrogonian Wrote:
hell no..I would never take that, nor would I ever get a vasectomy. You don't know what the side effects of either would be.
Exactly. Don't fix whats not broken. (or however that goes)
Lot's of these guys sound like they fear the pregnancy. For the younger guys I understand that. But for me at 34, I'm kind of wondering when I'm gonna knock one of these girls up.
I would welcome a child at this point in my life. I gotta spread the seed.
Any of you older guys thinking like me?
Aloha!
I sort of was until I got a girl pregnant last spring. I'm 33. I think I posted here about it. It was the single most stressful month of my life, as I suddenly realized that that would be the worst possible thing to happen to me right now. However, it could have had a lot to do with having a kid with that particular girl. It wouldn't have been an 18 year job, it would have been an 18 year nightmare. A certain points during the month, I thought I had a good chance of dying from a heart attack from the stress. At certain points I think I wished it to get me out of the situation. I know that's some dark shit, but I really didn't want this kid with her. Mostly because having grown up in a broken home, I didn't want to put my first kid in the same situation off the bat. Among other reasons. She eventually miscarried.
The closest thing that I can relate is imagine that you just got sentenced to an 18 year house arrest, where you can go out and do normal things, but your dreams of doing anything and everything are dashed. Now imagine also being sentenced to at least a 600 dollar a month bill, concurrently, should you not want to live with the mother. Now imagine that the mother is a bit of a train wreck (as far as being the mother of my children was concerned. As far as being a girl to date and bang, she was fine. This situation actually made me rethink my dating standards a bit, that is: I am hesitant to date women who I can't imagine being mothers to my children should I get them pregnant. It took getting a poor mothering prospect pregnant to make me realize this.) Anyway, all combined, that's some stress.
Now, I think that I will eventually want kids (maybe before I'm 40). But the key will be to have them with the right woman, who will be the mother that I want her to be for my kids. Just don't pick a random woman. Take some time, at least a year, and be sure that you know her well enough to 1. Approve of her to raise your kids 2. Know you will be able to deal with her in stressful situations, and possibly legal situations. In other words, don't pick a woman who will turn into a ruthless shark should a disagreement or legal situation arise.