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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-20-2012, 07:12 PM
I'm feeling oneitis for this girl in my psychology class that I get along with really well. She has this girl next door pretty look. She has like this best friend that also hangs out with us and is also super cool and her friend has been asking me if I like her and I joke with her not taking her question seriously. She says she sees "the way I look at her" or whatever. They are like 17 since they finished high school at that age and turn 18 first year of college here, I'm 25 and my age and experience give off a lot of value...
I'm not looking to get a girlfriend and and especially in my school since I'll be seeing her for the next 4 years so I kind of just forget about it but its bothering me. Hopefully I don't do or say anything stupid. I don't want to close any doors though so I think my best move is to be vague when the topic of who likes who comes up. I wish I could hook up with a bunch of them and stay cool with all of them during class lol
Damn it, this is probably happening since its been 3 weeks since I got laid, I think tomorrow I'll reset back to normal since I'll be seeing a new regular.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-20-2012, 07:24 PM
So you are not going to try to get in this girls pants because you like her too much?
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-20-2012, 08:45 PM
No cause she's in my class. Its 4 hours a day together monday through friday for the next 4 years. It could get weird.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-20-2012, 08:59 PM
Damn, what kind of class are you taking that runs for that long? I know what you mean with it getting weird though, I made out with and then flaked on numerous times a girl I sat next to in one of my classes. 3 days a week for 1 hour. Shit got weird, but I got lucky since the class got arranged into groups.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-21-2012, 03:12 AM
Its like 4 hours of class a day but everyday its a different subject. But its the same 25 people, 5 guys, 2 of them gay and the other two really shy (I'm the 5th) and 20 hot girls, 15 of them attractive. So yea I need to tread carefully.
I went out tonight I totally forgot about her though so it must have been some temporary brooding is all.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-21-2012, 03:45 AM
Never heard of a class schedule like that. Is it University?
If you have a bit of oneitis for this girl, and you are against fucking her because she's in your class, then I think you need to get out ASAP and get some other options. Go hit the mall, coffee shops, ice cream parlor, wherever and do some day game. Once you have a couple other girls on the line you won't care nearly as much about this girl.
Good luck bro.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-21-2012, 09:44 AM
Dude, are you kidding me?
Fuck her friend or fuck her, or preferably, fuck them both. Who cares if things get weird afterwards?
Just ignore her if that happens. Not your problem if she wants you to be her boyfriend but you won't commit.
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04-21-2012, 10:30 AM
But what about friendship, having fun talking with them, studying with them, meeting their girl friends, maybe even going for the LTR down the line when we finish school... I feel like you give up all that if you try fucking them.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-21-2012, 02:23 PM
I was, but I get your point! Never mind this post... this is embarrassing lol
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-21-2012, 04:19 PM
go out and fuck 10 women.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
04-22-2012, 02:31 AM
Everytime I think I'm starting to like a girl too much, I focus on more women. It's hard to care about any of them that way.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
02-26-2014, 01:10 PM
Old thread I know, but have been feeling the oneitis lately, and felt the need some of the good advice I always get on this forum.
It's been coming back to haunt me every so often with one particular chick.
I think you really have to bite the bullet and just sever all contact with her.
This girl wasn't even that remarkable really, a 6 on a good day, but her bedroom skills kept me coming back for more and my betaness ensured she brought it to a swift end.
Unfortunately I got stuck into p0rn to soothe myself and a few months later, purely by chance, I came across a clip of her topless on a bed blowing some dude, she was younger in the clip and it was an insanely good bj! So that sure as hell did not help matters for me!
It set me back pretty bad, in terms of my oneitis.
I still struggle with it some days, but I think the solution is definitely to keep busy, improve yourself and get stuck into other women and lay off the p0rn.
I think playing the field for a while is better than just diving into another relatonship, you need experience in the field before you should even consider settling down with just one women, either that or make sure you have an open relationships situation.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
02-26-2014, 02:40 PM
Quote: (02-26-2014 01:10 PM)amity Wrote:
This girl wasn't even that remarkable really, a 6 on a good day, but her bedroom skills kept me coming back for more and my betaness ensured she brought it to a swift end.
Unfortunately I got stuck into p0rn to soothe myself and a few months later, purely by chance, I came across a clip of her topless on a bed blowing some dude, she was younger in the clip and it was an insanely good bj! So that sure as hell did not help matters for me!
It set me back pretty bad, in terms of my oneitis.
Not trying to be flippant, but this almost certainly would have done the opposite for me.
Nothing helps me more with my bouts of oneitis than remembering the true nature of most western women. While many of them can seem special and worthy of your attention, almost all of them have something like this in their closet that destroys their value. I try to always remember, for most of them it is an illusion.
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
03-01-2014, 02:45 PM
Quote: (04-21-2012 09:44 AM)Samseau Wrote:
Dude, are you kidding me?
Fuck her friend or fuck her, or preferably, fuck them both. Who cares if things get weird afterwards?
Just ignore her if that happens. Not your problem if she wants you to be her boyfriend but you won't commit.
This. Listen op if you truly cherish the friendship you have with this girl and if you believe its like no other, have fun watching her fuck other guys. Seriously man I realized something a few days ago; life is WAAY to short to be worrying about if things will be "weird" afterwards. At the end of the day its not the things that you did you regret, but the things you didn't do. (1st post)
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Oneitis again (dangerous territory)
03-04-2014, 06:33 AM
@redpillrage33 Thanks for your thought man, interesting.
I'm in a better place now, not really feeling the oneitis at the moment, but the chick in question has been in touch with me quite a bit lately.
Girl is early 30s now and must be approaching 30 in terms of how many c0cks she's had.
It's tailed off a bit in recent years, but that's still sluttier than your average western chick.
She's a mess emotionally/psychogically really, turned down a few good solid beta provider guys over the year, and went for some alpha c0ck instead, only to get dumped on her ass.
At this stage, i have fuck all sympathy for the girl, you reap what you sow.
Am starting to develop that 'do not give a fuck' attitude in relation to her now, and that's the only way to be with these chicks with a slutty past.
Yes, you can show some beta nice guy flashes here and there, especially for the Euro girls, but overall, there has to be a certain aloof indifference in your tone with these women, or you're done.
At this stage, am even questioning if I would tap that ass anymore, if I was in a position to, such a psychological trainwreck is this broad.