My advice: Go to a doctor/psychiatrist and have them check you out for High-Functioning Autism (Aspergers is not used as a diagnosis anymore). Do not self-diagnose but actually go to a doctor/psychiatrist and get it on paper. As a socially inept 25-y/o virgin, your odds of having it are substantially higher than average. Non-autistic people just do not tend to remain virgins that long unless they have some sort of compelling moral or religious reason for doing so or they were so deeply traumatized by some early life experience that they believe themselves incapable of enjoying sex as adults. If you do get diagnosed with Autism or anything else though, I recommend that you not allow them to prescribe you any sort of mind-altering medication as these are far more likely to mess you up and send any progress you have made hurdling backwards than they are to help you in any meaningful way.
While I lost my own virginity when I was 18, I was always inept to the point that I was placed in Special Education as a kid (despite also having been placed into the "Gifted" program as a result of scoring abnormally high on a mandatory IQ test) and lost numerous jobs as a young adult as a result of being socially dysfunctional/incompatible ("not being a good fit") and was diagnosed with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) at age 23 while in the Army. I did not, however fall on it like a crutch and use it as an excuse for everything but instead have found great success with spinning it as a "how much I have successfully overcome through intelligence, competence, and out-of-the-box determination" thing instead of the typical "sad and pitiful victim of an uncaring universe" thing most people try to make it so that they never have to be responsible for themselves.
I also make jokes about and take advantage of it for comedic purposes very frequently by saying things like "desperate times call for autistic measures (got this from Sargon of Akkad)," "it's as if you were trying to attack this issue in the most violently autistic way possible," and things like that which are legitimately funny, especially if you enjoy dark humor the way I do, and even the most PC woman will not be able to help laughing if she believes that you are the one making the joke. In that way, you become her refuge from the stifling boredom and sterility of NPC society. You become the one she can go to when she wants to laugh at things because they are actually funny and not because social pressure from other NPCs compels her to pretend that they are. In addition, you have more fun and get more out of life this way than you would as a perpetual victim.
Women look to men primarily for strength, status, competence, provision (or at least the potential for provision), and leadership. If you can demonstrate those things even in spite of having had to overcome some great hardship, women are able to get off on all of those things while also enjoying the novelty of talking to and being around a guy who is noticeably and significantly different (in a positive and intriguing way) from almost every other guy she has ever dealt with. Even if she has met another high-functioning (read: high IQ) autistic guy before, it is very unlikely that he was the sort of guy who owned it and turned his way of dealing with it into something to respect and admire, especially since most autistic guys are encouraged by society and those around them to make excuses and be content with their status as peripheral characters in a story that will never include anything really enviable happening to/for them.
If you are autistic, you can also use a lot of your natural autistic traits as advantages such as not being moved by or even aware of the emotions of other individuals or groups (not a weak and fickle soyboy who changes his beliefs and decisions based on the whims of others), lack of facial expression and limited range in voice tone (not over-emotional and more in control than the average man), and singular obsessive focus (display of a high IQ and an impressive level of competence in at least one area) to name a few. If you get creative, you can spin just about anything into some kind of an advantage.
Doing all of this, I have actually found that, in almost every case, my odds of getting a woman interested in me and/or banging her go up whenever I casually let it slip that, oh by the way, I am autistic. Because of the way I set it up, telling them that I am autistic is almost like telling them that I am an X-man and they instantly become even more interested in me than they already were, so much so that it has become a sort of hook in my own game at this point.
Basically, what I am trying to communicate to you is that it is likely that you are autistic but, even if you are not, these principles still apply to you. Whether as an autist or just a neurologically normal 25-y/o man, you are a bit of an anomaly and that is something that you should spin into a respectable and admirable trait as opposed to revealing in in the same sort of grave and depressing way that someone might reveal their HIV status to someone.
I agree with Eugenics when he says that it would probably be a good move to just outright say that you are a virgin in the same way that, once/if you have been diagnosed, it would generally be a good move to casually reveal that you are autistic so long as you do so in such a way that it seems almost incidental (as opposed to grave) and as though it is something that you take pride in because you know that it sets you apart from the rest of the Borg.
Pro Tip: Whether you are autistic or not, deliberately practice eye contact. This skill, when honed properly, is well worth the time and effort needed to develop it and keeps paying for itself over and over.
Another Pro Tip: Get the hell off Tinder and go outside. Just start talking to girls that you come across while out in the world. In a more focused context, this would be called daygame but you should just be doing it as a fun recreational activity to be enjoyed for its own sake and for the enjoyment of honing your social skills and ability to get what you want (good vibes, advice, directions, information, etc.) out of people you only just met instead of going to Youtube or Facebook for all those things. If they give you weird looks or bad reactions, just casually let it slip that you are autistic (or, if you have not been diagnosed, that you grew up in a less than ideal situation and did not develop social skills normally) and are practicing social skills so that you can connect with people more and you believe that, one day, you will be able to teach young people, like you once were, how to overcome this obstacle as you have. This will both make them feel guilty (whereas they were trying to make you feel guilty - turn the tables on them) and probably elicit in them a sense of admiration and respect for you as well as instantly making you more interesting than the average NPC.
A Third Pro Tip: Do not apologize for anything ever, especially when it comes to having sex as this is the quickest way for a woman to turn off and lose respect for you as she re-categorized you as someone who is beneath her.
As for the actual sex part, I suggest that you quit porn completely and, if you masturbate (which I'm sure you must have started doing by now if you are 25 and have never had sex), that you stop masturbating for at least a month in order to let your body re-sensitize itself and reset your system so that, when the moment comes, you will not be thinking of how to keep it up while rolling on that condom so that you don't look lame despite the fact that she does not turn you on as much as the hardcore and highly niche porn that you are used to punishing yourself in front of your computer screen to but only of how much you want to get on top of her and relieve the sexual tension that has been building up in you throughout the time that you have been in "monk mode."
Some book recommendations for improving your social skills and inner game:
- Game by Roosh of course
- Every book by Robert Greene (Mastery, Laws of Power, etc.)
- Every book by Jack Donovan
- The Rational Male series by Rollo Tomassi
- People Watching by Desmond Morris (learn to make small talk)
- A Field Guide to Earthlings by Ian Ford
- What Every Body Is Saying by Joe Navarro
- Find Out Anything From Anyone, Anytime by James O. Pyle
- Sexual Body Language by Nicholas Jack
- Improve Your Social Skills by Daniel Wendler
- How to Kiss a Girl by Leon Drake
- The Emotional Terrorist and the Violence-Prone by Erin Pizzey and Psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie (for what I call "social self-defense")