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08-21-2018, 02:49 AM
While speaking with a buddy tonight, I was made aware of an interesting point: I worry about being perceived as creepy as I interact with women and it holds me back.
In further discussion, I feel like my greatest fear is not having some random woman think poorly of me, but it's a fear of getting caught in some sort of progressive witch hunt. I've been back in school this past year and 90% of the women I interact with are students. I hear horror stories from college campuses.
I mentioned in another thread that people always tend to like me, but I also notice a complete change of tone with women toward whom I have expressed romantic interest. I couple that with the way I see less attractive men bearing the brunt of feminism's ire and I worry that one wrong move could fuck me over.
How do you assuage this fear?
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08-21-2018, 03:04 AM
Don't shit where you eat. This counts for work, school or any place that you visit regularly.
Leave you gaming women to social gatherings where it's expected.
Some may say its being weak and you'll lose out on bangs but IF you truly have quite a bit to lose professionally then keeping things light and funny with females you interact with is the best play until you're done.
The only way i'd ever go against this advice is if the girl shows interest in me and gets the ball rolling.
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08-21-2018, 06:16 AM
"I mentioned in another thread that people always tend to like me, but I also notice a complete change of tone with women toward whom I have expressed romantic interest. I couple that with the way I see less attractive men bearing the brunt of feminism's ire and I worry that one wrong move could fuck me over."
Unfortunately they like you in a non-romantic/platonic way. I second kinjutsu in saying "don't shit where you eat" meaning don't pursue women in any setting where they are mutual stakeholders in any organisation you are in such as work, university, customers or students where you work.
Being perceived as creepy, as far as I understand it means to express sexual/romantic intent where it is not appreciated or expected. AND often from lower SMV men.
The fear is real. Game somewhere else, you should have other opportunities.
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08-21-2018, 06:22 AM
If they find you attractive, you can say pretty much what you want and flirt with them and they're going to welcome it and let you know it's welcome.
If they aren't attracted, anything flirtatious or with romantic intent will be viewed as creepy.
Solution: Attract them first, then make your intent known. Obviously, for some (many possibly) women, you will never be their type.
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