ok me and this girl megan were talking for like 3 months going out alot going good etc. about 3 weeks ago she slows down texting. texts me 4 days later saying she is having family issues is super stressed out etc I'm like ok all good how about me and you go out Friday to take your mind off it. she completely ghosts me and doesnt respond at all. I text her saying no would be easier then standing me up. I've called her once texted her like 3 times since making sure she is doing good etc even hit her friend up saying hope megan is doing good tell her to text me etc to which she didnt respond. this was 2 months ago. she wont even open up my snapchat wont even look at my snapchats completely shut me the fuckkk out. what the hell is this all about? obviously were done but its confusing as shit. on top of that we booked a vacation to which we obviously didnt go because it was a 2 month ago. and I've been ghosted but good lord I am confused. she comes from a broken home. parents seperated mom a drunk brothers and other siblings on drugs etc. idk if maybe that somewhat explains her actions? I know we wont ever be together but the fact I got ghosted so hard is just shocking to me. thing is she lives 5 mins away and we frequent the same bars.

Talking for 3 months? Did anything actually happen?

Quote: (07-08-2018 07:50 AM)kross1989 Wrote:  

ok me and this girl megan were talking for like 3 months going out alot going good etc. about 3 weeks ago she slows down texting. texts me 4 days later saying she is having family issues is super stressed out etc I'm like ok all good how about me and you go out Friday to take your mind off it. she completely ghosts me and doesnt respond at all. I text her saying no would be easier then standing me up. I've called her once texted her like 3 times since making sure she is doing good etc even hit her friend up saying hope megan is doing good tell her to text me etc to which she didnt respond. this was 2 months ago. she wont even open up my snapchat wont even look at my snapchats completely shut me the fuckkk out. what the hell is this all about? obviously were done but its confusing as shit. on top of that we booked a vacation to which we obviously didnt go because it was a 2 month ago. and I've been ghosted but good lord I am confused. she comes from a broken home. parents seperated mom a drunk brothers and other siblings on drugs etc. idk if maybe that somewhat explains her actions? I know we wont ever be together but the fact I got ghosted so hard is just shocking to me. thing is she lives 5 mins away and we frequent the same bars.

I would say she's met someone else and she's made up some bullshit about her family life because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Most girls will avoid conflict or difficult conversations.

Quote: (07-08-2018 08:03 AM)Rush87 Wrote:  

I would say she's met someone else and she's made up some bullshit about her family life because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Most girls will avoid conflict or difficult conversations.

Pretty much this.

A: I know that Megan is a common name but it is still not the normal around here to use real names. If it was a fake name than say it. Doxing is a serious issue on this forum.

B: It sounds like she never had any interest in you, as you were just trading texts for three months. Did you actually pursue her?(i.e. go out on a date) At best it sounds like you were some beta orbiter that she cut loose when you were too clingy. Move on with you life.

Sounds like something a female would say about a guy ghosting her

Quote: (07-08-2018 08:51 AM)Bluto Wrote:  

A: I know that Megan is a common name but it is still not the normal around here to use real names. If it was a fake name than say it. Doxing is a serious issue on this forum.

B: It sounds like she never had any interest in you, as you were just trading texts for three months. Did you actually pursue her?(i.e. go out on a date) At best it sounds like you were some beta orbiter that she cut loose when you were too clingy. Move on with you life.

I had just assumed they were fucking/dating, the horrendous grammar/sentence structure made me skim it. If that's the case then yeah this requires no further analysis.

yes dating. sleeping in same bed going out on dates 4 times a week just me and her. holding hands etc the whole 9. and no megan is not her real name. she would hold hands with me in bed etc. idk I know she literally does come from a bad family. but I was never too clingy. and there isnt another dude in the picture I know that for a fact. but the fact that she cut me off/wont even view my stories and even be associated with any of my friends who she knows pretty well. and absolutly wants nothin to do with me out of nowhere is just baffling. if I was super clingy etc I could understand but nope I was never clingy I even saw her out and walked up.to her after a month of not talking and she just looked at me and went I'm so trashed right
now that's all i got out of her.
I did alotttt for that girl and she knows it. her roommate who I think had alot to do with it. hated me because I was taking megan away from her. but her roommate would belittle her make fun of her talk down to her. I witnessed it and "megan" told me.
I've banged like 4 chicks since and am working on another super cute girl as we speak. but as lame as it sounds I'm hurt she would cut me off like that. I thought we were friends she was a cool girl who me and her got along great. same sense of humor and had alot in common.

rule number 1 : Don't do a lot for girls unless it s your wife or you know her for ten years

Hypergamy. Hope for the best but expect the worst with women and you'll never be disappointed.

My dude. Are you in high school?

Quote: (07-08-2018 09:20 AM)kross1989 Wrote:  

yes dating. sleeping in same bed going out on dates 4 times a week just me and her. holding hands etc the whole 9. and no megan is not her real name. she would hold hands with me in bed etc. idk I know she literally does come from a bad family. but I was never too clingy. and there isnt another dude in the picture I know that for a fact. but the fact that she cut me off/wont even view my stories and even be associated with any of my friends who she knows pretty well. and absolutly wants nothin to do with me out of nowhere is just baffling. if I was super clingy etc I could understand but nope I was never clingy I even saw her out and walked up.to her after a month of not talking and she just looked at me and went I'm so trashed right
now that's all i got out of her.
I did alotttt for that girl and she knows it. her roommate who I think had alot to do with it. hated me because I was taking megan away from her. but her roommate would belittle her make fun of her talk down to her. I witnessed it and "megan" told me.
I've banged like 4 chicks since and am working on another super cute girl as we speak. but as lame as it sounds I'm hurt she would cut me off like that. I thought we were friends she was a cool girl who me and her got along great. same sense of humor and had alot in common.

To all you beginners out there...pay attention. OP just wrote a step by step

"How to get instantly friendzoned and then as quickly as possible get promoted to creepy clinger"

Quote: (07-08-2018 07:50 AM)kross1989 Wrote:  

ok me and this girl megan were talking for like 3 months going out alot going good etc. about 3 weeks ago she slows down texting. texts me 4 days later saying she is having family issues is super stressed out etc I'm like ok all good how about me and you go out Friday to take your mind off it. she completely ghosts me and doesnt respond at all. I text her saying no would be easier then standing me up. I've called her once texted her like 3 times since making sure she is doing good etc even hit her friend up saying hope megan is doing good tell her to text me etc to which she didnt respond. this was 2 months ago. she wont even open up my snapchat wont even look at my snapchats completely shut me the fuckkk out. what the hell is this all about? obviously were done but its confusing as shit. on top of that we booked a vacation to which we obviously didnt go because it was a 2 month ago. and I've been ghosted but good lord I am confused. she comes from a broken home. parents seperated mom a drunk brothers and other siblings on drugs etc. idk if maybe that somewhat explains her actions? I know we wont ever be together but the fact I got ghosted so hard is just shocking to me. thing is she lives 5 mins away and we frequent the same bars.

I have the answer to your problem....OTHER WOMEN

I'm 28 she is 29. she would hold my hand. I would never iniate the hand holding etc i just went along for it. this is why I'm on this site to get tips and learn.

I am talking to other woman it she is still on my mind. idk why I care so much I'm such a pvssy

Quote: (07-08-2018 11:09 AM)kross1989 Wrote:  

I'm 28 she is 29. she would hold my hand. I would never iniate the hand holding etc i just went along for it. this is why I'm on this site to get tips and learn.

The good news is that you are learning. You need to initiate/lead. Women need that. You have oneitus but this situation can work for the best if you learn. Drop all contact with her. Time will heal. 99% chance there will be a better woman out there for you. Let that one go. Work on yourself.

I'm sure the reason she ghosted is your inability to construct readable posts. Did you graduate high school?

GED doesn't count.

You seem to exhibit traits similar to betas,incels and creeps.

Incel definitely not, creep I've never been called that nor do I think I am. Beta I would most definitely agree with. I've banged plenty of woman and am I pretty good looking guy and am fun. I just saw myself dating her we had a great "connection" as beta as that sounds. Everyone around us agreed on it. Being ghosted by her just had my head spinning like wtf did I do? when we hung out she loved it every minute of it she was laughing her ass off, wanting me to stay the night all of the above. I got no sign whatsoever of being ghosted. She has like one friend and I was the best thing for her in her life. I made her stop drinking and driving helped her on her confidence etc. when I was with her it was like i was her savior. She would literally cling on to me when we went out.

Quote: (07-08-2018 03:44 PM)kross1989 Wrote:  

Incel definitely not, creep I've never been called that nor do I think I am. Beta I would most definitely agree with. I've banged plenty of woman and am I pretty good looking guy and am fun. I just saw myself dating her we had a great "connection" as beta as that sounds. Everyone around us agreed on it. Being ghosted by her just had my head spinning like wtf did I do? when we hung out she loved it every minute of it she was laughing her ass off, wanting me to stay the night all of the above. I got no sign whatsoever of being ghosted. She has like one friend and I was the best thing for her in her life. I made her stop drinking and driving helped her on her confidence etc. when I was with her it was like i was her savior. She would literally cling on to me when we went out.

I agree 100% haha I have white knight syndrome. i can't fix these woman i dont even know why i try

Quote: (07-08-2018 11:09 AM)kross1989 Wrote:  

I'm 28 she is 29. she would hold my hand. I would never iniate the hand holding etc i just went along for it. this is why I'm on this site to get tips and learn.

Yes, the good news is that there's no place to go but up from here.

what does this mean? why would she do that?

You're 28, bro. It means you need to figure some stuff out with all possible speed.

She was using you for attention but wasn't accepting the dick. Now she's getting dick so she doesn't need you anymore. She wasted your time because that's what women do to men who give them lots of positive attention without banging them.

If you're 28 and "sleeping in the same bed" and "holding hands" without sex, something's gone seriously wrong in this story. She has a drunk driving problem, I promise she's not an innocent waif and has screwed guys without holding hands and sleeping in the same bed with them. This'll happen again if you don't wake up.

Careful with the hand holding OP, You know that's how babies are made?