Moma and RudeBwoy RoundTable Discussion on Black Man Game Options
06-17-2018, 01:53 PM
Went out both nights this weekend. My verbal game is there - I had two leads which I thought were good because I was talking to the girls for a while.
By 3 AM, both nights, both girls were feeling me. Conversationally, they’re asking me questions, engaged. Body language, they’re leaning in, eyes focused on me, feeling my arms. I can tell they’re having fun.
But when it came time to bounce to another spot. well that didn’t go as planned.
Girl #1, Friday night: I met indirectly because I was dancing with a different girl in her group. They saw the moves, came over, girls introduced me to the guys in the group, chopped it up with everybody...it was a good time. The friend group does their thing, giving me one-on-one time with girl #1, who was very physically attracted to me.
We vibe, I bounce her around the venue, and then I tell her we’ll watch a movie at her place. She said she had roommates and said she didn’t want to wake them up. It felt genuine, so we continue dancing for a while.
Normally, I would have bounced to a spot to get food, THEN suggest my place.
But for whatever reason on this night, it did not occur to me to go to a food spot and get her more comfortable before suggesting to go to her place.
It’s been a while since I last went out, so I got rusty and deviated from tried-and-true methods. Rookie mistake.
I did get Girl #1s contact info. But these days I feel like asking for a number is admitting defeat. I’m tryna smash same night!
Girl #2, Saturday: I’m not sure where I went wrong. She was with her objectively hotter friend (an Olivia Wilde look-alike) whereas the girl I was interested in had more of a girl-next-door look to her. I opened them both, we get to talking, I introduce them to my friend.
Then we’re all vibing, they leave to go outside, my friend and I go to another club, come back a few hours later. We reconnect with Girl-Next-Door and Olivia Wilde. My friend and Olivia Wilde walk off and do their thing while me and Girl Next Door chop it up.
Again, she’s engaged, playfully hitting me, asking questions. It felt like chemistry. She said she didn’t have deep conversations like she was with me...(girl #1 from yesterday said that, too), so I figured there was chemistry.
After she said we have deep conversations, I wanted to change subjects to something superficial lol. Keep her guessing, ya know? She said “you must have at least 2,000 followers”. So then she asks for my IG and I dodged, saying that I was enjoying getting to know her in person and talking with her right now.
Like I said earlier, I just feel like exchanging IG/phone numbers before we get to her place is low-return for the moment. Not trying to collect numbers, ya know?
So we continue taking for a while. Olivia Wilde and my friend come back. Olivia signals to Girl-Next-Door that she’s ready to go, but Girl-Next-Door sorta brushes her off and keeps talking to me (we were sitting, they were standing). So I know she was attracted.
We were talking for so long that club staff came over and ask us to leave...twice! So as we are walking out, I remember my mistake from yesterday and suggested we go get food somewhere.
Girl-Next-Door and Olivia Wilde considered it, but ultimately said no. She asked me again for the IG, so I gave it to her. Probably never gonna see her again anyway, so okay, I’ll take another follower.
In both situations, I approached, got interest, met the friends, and the friends basically made it easy for me to get one-on-one time with her. Then we talked, bonded, and I had these women physically and emotionally engaged.
This is progress from where I was last year in terms of overcoming approach anxiety, escalating, and getting a woman to validate herself...that’s the fun part!
But I’m especially disappointed with my results this weekend because the same thing happened two nights in a row, and I’m unsure as to where I went wrong. Not a one-itis feeling, but more of a “how can I learn from this?” mindset.
This is not one-itis — I talk to a lot of people because I normally roll solo.
These two interactions are just the ones that went the furthest...most of the others fizzle out within ten minutes, so I don’t post about them here. Quality > Quantity
Edit: also, I’m not buying drinks for these girls while we are chatting. They’re sticking around for the conversation.