Weird situation with gf and her neighbour/friend - how would you handle this?
06-13-2017, 11:41 AM
I generally have a far more tempered reaction to situations like this than most guys here on RVF, so let me go through the options:
100% true - Sorry, but girls who put themselves in situations where a guy can be aggressive like that have to be treated as such. She's in a relationship with you. She shouldn't be putting themselves in those types of situations. If a guy sticks around after a girl directly states she wants him gone, he's a psychopath...and there aren't many real psychopaths out there. Hence, not likely.
Mufasa first response above - Most likely. It's sorta true. She's not really lying, and she probably did want him gone, but sorta didn't.
100% lie - Unlikely.
Under #1, you're dealing with a psychopath, which can be dangerous. Also, she put herself at the will of a psychopath, so that raises flags about her. Under #2, she's sort of testing you. Not on purpose, but because, as Mufasa said, there are some tingles. You need to get hand back. Under #3, obviously she's the psychopath.
I think 'what to do' depends on you. I'm not the guy who goes and threatens dudes. I don't see anything wrong with it, and if that's you, go ahead, it's just not me. What I would do is simply take the story for what it is...my girl hung out with a dude alone. Ok. Well maybe I'll pull back a little. It's natural to me. Wait a bit to respond to texts. Don't talk as much. Don't share life as much. Just a little, just over the next few days or so.
She will get the picture and respond. She may pull back as well, then explode in an argument to you. She may pursue you. It may fall apart. Whatever the case, it will be informative, and you'll learn how to pull puppet strings to avoid situations like this.
This advice and these simple tactics could have possibly saved my marriage. Or at least given me control over it. Just pulling back, not sharing, becoming a little colder to her...these things, even slight changes, blow up on chicks' radars. They hate it, and they'll do anything to get that connection back. Anything
100% true - Sorry, but girls who put themselves in situations where a guy can be aggressive like that have to be treated as such. She's in a relationship with you. She shouldn't be putting themselves in those types of situations. If a guy sticks around after a girl directly states she wants him gone, he's a psychopath...and there aren't many real psychopaths out there. Hence, not likely.
Mufasa first response above - Most likely. It's sorta true. She's not really lying, and she probably did want him gone, but sorta didn't.
100% lie - Unlikely.
Under #1, you're dealing with a psychopath, which can be dangerous. Also, she put herself at the will of a psychopath, so that raises flags about her. Under #2, she's sort of testing you. Not on purpose, but because, as Mufasa said, there are some tingles. You need to get hand back. Under #3, obviously she's the psychopath.
I think 'what to do' depends on you. I'm not the guy who goes and threatens dudes. I don't see anything wrong with it, and if that's you, go ahead, it's just not me. What I would do is simply take the story for what it is...my girl hung out with a dude alone. Ok. Well maybe I'll pull back a little. It's natural to me. Wait a bit to respond to texts. Don't talk as much. Don't share life as much. Just a little, just over the next few days or so.
She will get the picture and respond. She may pull back as well, then explode in an argument to you. She may pursue you. It may fall apart. Whatever the case, it will be informative, and you'll learn how to pull puppet strings to avoid situations like this.
This advice and these simple tactics could have possibly saved my marriage. Or at least given me control over it. Just pulling back, not sharing, becoming a little colder to her...these things, even slight changes, blow up on chicks' radars. They hate it, and they'll do anything to get that connection back. Anything
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