It only clicked with me later, but it's of note that "love bombing" is terminology associated with cult manipulation and narcissistic/sociopathic abuse tactics. That's the kind of reading material you'd be going over to stumble across the term.

I get the impression that, deep down, the OP knows he's in quite a pickle and has been doing his homework trying to figure out what's happening to him in this hostage crisis of a relationship.

OP, if this the case, there's probably a lot of craziness that you aren't telling us about. You can find some good resources from an organization called "Out of the Fog". The important thing is getting you and your son out of the situation safely and cleanly.

Quote: (04-10-2017 09:24 AM)maxalton Wrote:  

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Can you guys see her staying committed to me and our relationship lasting?

No. Case closed.

Replace the time you're spending with her with reading this forum and come back in a few months to thank us. You're welcome.

Is your response based solely on my OP or have you read my recent comments on this thread?

Quote: (04-19-2017 08:10 AM)maxalton Wrote:  

Is your response based solely on my OP or have you read my recent comments on this thread?

Holy shit, bro.

Is there any possibility that you're autistic? I'm not trying to put you down, I'm just asking because your interpretation of this situation and your difficulty processing the advice you're being given about social interactions points in that direction. It's coming through loud and clear and makes you even more susceptible to being targeted and conned by this woman.

Separately, I was curious to see if you've been posting about this elsewhere, and found other threads you've started on this topic on other forums. I won't link to them here, but based on these threads, my earlier analysis that there is a lot of craziness here that you are trying to conceal was correct.

- In April, you complained that a woman you met on a dating site was telling you that she liked you but still had Tinder and other dating apps on her phone, but you were also confused because her profile said "not looking for hookups" - and you seemed to believe that this must be true. You were told that she was using you as a meaningless hookup and that this was very obvious.

- In August, you declared the woman you're discussing in this thread to be your "best friend" and became very concerned about the "bad boy" you'd discovered she was dating on Facebook. You were told that she is not your best friend or else you would have known she was dating someone, and the facts of life about hookups were again explained to you.

- In October, you declared that you are now dating her. In another thread, you asked what it means if a woman who has a kid and wants stability is bringing up marriage very early in the relationship. In a third thread, you presented a woman (who is clearly this woman) as a hypothetical sister and were told that it's creepy to be this worried about your sister's sex life.

- In November, you complained that you feared she was trying to "disguise herself" as being single, and were told that she is single and you're the only one who believes you are in a committed relationship.

- In December, you complained that this woman hasn't spoken to you in 4-5 months. (?!?!?!) You expressed your hope that you were showing you that you aren't needy and that she would contact you on your birthday because she'll have fallen for you due to you not contacting her. You were told, bluntly, that you're fooling yourself and that you aren't even on her radar.

- In January, you lashed out and complained that the people on that forum are romantic failures who are projecting their problems onto you.

There has never been a time where your view of this woman was healthy or normal, and I'm not entirely convinced that you're dating her at all. Given this additional information, it's also very alarming that you admit a prior "crazy" ex contacted the police about you, but would not tell us why. It's completely clear that you don't understand social interactions and are struggling desperately.

At this point, I'm going to strongly suggest that you seek out a qualified mental health professional and explain all of this to them. This is very serious and beyond internet forum help. Good luck.

[deleted part of this] In one post on the several forums, you were called out for describing the "nice things" you do for as "liking her Facebook posts" and how ridiculous that was. You were asked to explain what your relationship with her is like, without mentioning social media.

You didn't. You were also called out for claiming that you couldn't ask her about her social media directly because you didn't want to look like a "stalker".

Earlier, I thought that you couldn't talk to her about this because you didn't trust her. Now I'm learning how your story has changed over time.

I'm calling it now. This woman won't even speak to you, you have never been her boyfriend, and your relationship with her exists solely on social media. You are obsessed with some slut you met on PlentyOfFish a year ago and are pretending that there is an entire relationship where you fix her toilet, take her places, and your kids are close in order to get people to take your pleas for advice seriously because you've been shut down so hard in the past when people figured out that this is all taking place on Facebook.

This explains why you gloss over specific questions, warnings, and advice about your portrayal of your relationship, because you know as well as we do that none of this actually happened.

Get help before someone calls the police again, if that ever even happened. This is completely bizarre.

You ask if I'm autistic and then you say you're not trying to put me down. Lol. My response was posted to HIM. As I haven't seen him post on this thread before, and he posted a sarcastic comment about how it's not going to work. I was simply asking if he ONLY read my original post, and not my update posts.

I know you're not going to believe me, but SOME of those posts weren't from me. The posts that don't match up with this situation were posted by a friend who also uses my account. I have a feeling you're going to assume I'm lying, but it's the truth.

You should work for the FBI with your snooping abilities dude. That's pretty intense, and creeps me out....just a bit. How in the world did you even find that?

Yes Jetset....this is completely bizarre...

Quote: (04-19-2017 09:53 AM)maxalton Wrote:  

You ask if I'm autistic and then you say you're not trying to put me down. Lol. My response was posted to HIM. As I haven't seen him post on this thread before, and he posted a sarcastic comment about how it's not going to work. I was simply asking if he ONLY read my original post, and not my update posts.

I know you're not going to believe me, but SOME of those posts weren't from me. The posts that don't match up with this situation were posted by a friend who also uses my account. I have a feeling you're going to assume I'm lying, but it's the truth.

Respectfully...there is something wrong with your mental state

You've been posting about your "doubts" this chick for at least a year. This is seriously indicative of some type of disorder

All jokes aside

Max if not for your sake then for sake of your son

You need to stop seeking attention from anonymous strangers and seek professional help

EDIT: JetSet youre a gentleman and a scholar for taking that list down

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Quote: (04-19-2017 09:53 AM)maxalton Wrote:  

You ask if I'm autistic and then you say you're not trying to put me down. Lol.

Having a medical condition that would explain your misunderstanding of social behavior is not an insult, and it would explain most of this almost perfectly. Particularly your belief that everyone's reactions to your behavior (which the rest of us can understand just fine) are "crazy" or "psycho" and your peculiar insistence on taking statements like "I want stability" and "not looking for hookups" literally, believing that words match actions with no awareness of the additional layers of social games that go unspoken.

There is a very real possibility that you are on the autism spectrum and that this relates to many of the challenges you're having in relationships, but that's something that only a professional can help you with.

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I was simply asking if he ONLY read my original post, and not my update posts.

Does it matter when literally everyone has been telling you exactly the same thing for the better part of a year, no matter how many different ways you re-formulate the story?

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I know you're not going to believe me, but SOME of those posts weren't from me. The posts that don't match up with this situation were posted by a friend who also uses my account. I have a feeling you're going to assume I'm lying, but it's the truth.

It's absolute and utter bullshit, because it does match up: the poster is always distraught over some woman with a rough background and a young daughter who dates bad boys but claims she wants "stability". There's no need to pretend.

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You should work for the FBI with your snooping abilities dude. That's pretty intense, and creeps me out....just a bit.

This is pretty rich coming from someone who has been digging through a woman's social media and posted numerous threads on multiple forums asking for dozens of opinions on the secret meanings of her individual tags and likes for over six months.

I'll admit, you had me convinced that you were being played by a stripper or something. It's become clearer now that none of this is happening and you just can't let go of a mindless internet hookup (if it was even that). It is far beyond time for you to take responsibility for your mental health and seek professional help moving on with your life. You probably won't want to do that, though, because you denounced being repeatedly told to "move on" back in January.

I'm very sincere in trying to help you. You might be harmless, but you do not seem to understand how easy it is to find what you've plastered all over the internet. Understand that if this woman ever finds your forum posts, she will be absolutely terrified by your obsession with her and your inability to understand that she is not your girlfriend, especially if you've exaggerated her child's role in your life. The police will take her seriously, especially if a woman has already had to call them about you before. This could turn your life upside down and I'm strongly encouraging you to print off your forum threads and take them to a psychologist for advice.

Jetset repped for plunging his fist into the internet, ripping pure truth out of it and letting it burn in the cleansing light of the sun.

Quote: (04-19-2017 11:02 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  

Jetset repped for plunging his fist into the internet, ripping pure truth out of it and letting it burn in the cleansing light of the sun.

I kind of feel bad about it. This isn't what I was expecting to find and I didn't really know how to react.

I wouldn't have said anything except that with his level of frustration, his apparent past history with provoking police involvement, and his continued insistence that she's his "girlfriend", something bad is going to end up happening here and he won't understand why.

Quote: (04-19-2017 01:04 PM)debeguiled Wrote:  

Hilarious gif and movie! Paul Rudd is awesome

Quote: (04-19-2017 09:53 AM)maxalton Wrote:  

You ask if I'm autistic and then you say you're not trying to put me down. Lol. My response was posted to HIM. As I haven't seen him post on this thread before, and he posted a sarcastic comment about how it's not going to work. I was simply asking if he ONLY read my original post, and not my update posts.

I know you're not going to believe me, but SOME of those posts weren't from me. The posts that don't match up with this situation were posted by a friend who also uses my account. I have a feeling you're going to assume I'm lying, but it's the truth.

You should work for the FBI with your snooping abilities dude. That's pretty intense, and creeps me out....just a bit. How in the world did you even find that?

Comes to RVF, posts that don't really make sense, multiple members trying to help him, complains people find out he posts about the same bitch on other forum and thinks that is "intense" and it "creeps" him out.

Quote: (04-19-2017 03:15 PM)Svoboda Wrote:  

Comes to RVF, posts that don't really make sense, multiple members trying to help him, complains people find out he posts about the same bitch on other forum and thinks that is "intense" and it "creeps" him out.

Some of his posts were him pretending to be this woman's concerned brother or jealous ex-FWB, seemingly trying to get people to give him a different answer than they would when he presented himself as her boyfriend, even going so far as to repeatedly insult himself in the third person as some "needy" "feminine" "beta".

Blew my mind. I'm happy to help somebody, but damn. You're going to put that kind of nonsense out there in public for everybody to see, you should expect whoever finds it to be like...



Hopefully he gets some social skills therapy or something so he doesn't have to argue with thousands of strangers every time a woman he scared away wishes him a Happy Birthday on his Facebook feed because an automated alert reminded her to do so:

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Nobody is getting defensive. I think it's irrational to say it means absolutely nothing and that she probably wishes everybody happy birthday (as if she's a robot that just wishes anybody happy birthday.) Friends? So she ditches me, we don't talk for several months, I ignore her birthday, then my birthday rolls around and we're suddenly friends? What are we just friends who wish each other happy birthday and have no other contact with each other? Reaching for something that's not there? Are you a mind-reader and can say for certainy what her intentions are? Don't respond with "you're hoping for something that's not there" because that isn't what Im getting at. If you know what her intentions are, you should be some kind of fortune teller, no? This is what I mean when I talk about people projecting their experiences onto other people.

Quote: (04-10-2017 04:12 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

Guys in here be brutal with all the nexting.

Goddamn right, I drop em so fast these days.

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Quote: (04-10-2017 04:12 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

Guys in here be brutal with all the nexting.

Goddamn right, I drop em so fast these days.

Which is not just a service to yourself but a service to civilisation.

A woman losing a high quality man over her petty bullshit is one of the few things that might slap the stupid out of her.

Quote: (04-19-2017 09:57 PM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  

Quote: (04-19-2017 06:44 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

Quote: (04-10-2017 04:12 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

Guys in here be brutal with all the nexting.

Goddamn right, I drop em so fast these days.

Which is not just a service to yourself but a service to civilisation.

A woman losing a high quality man over her petty bullshit is one of the few things that might slap the stupid out of her.

Yup, a lot of girls who think they're getting a second date simply do not. New girls who step too far out of line get either ghosted or get their ego shattered.

Online it's even quicker. This girl had recently updated her pictures and responded to an old message I'd sent maybe 2 yrs ago. I almost didn't recognize her and played along. She looked to have gained 30 lbs, was now in her early 30s, and was pushing for free dinner & drinks. Oh and her profile says she's in a relationship, just to tie it back to this thread's topic.

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"You should be flattered I even messaged you."

Hard to imagine what it would be like to have simps clogging your inbox all day long and you message a guy only for him to tell you "crawl through mud first" and then next you when you refuse.

OP comes in all



JetSet runs up and





OPs response

Quote: (04-20-2017 12:32 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

OPs response

He just needs some time to re-formulate his story to hide the parts that make this sound ridiculous.

Quote: (04-20-2017 06:44 AM)Gmac Wrote:  

Quote: (04-19-2017 09:57 PM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  

Quote: (04-19-2017 06:44 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

Quote: (04-10-2017 04:12 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

Guys in here be brutal with all the nexting.

Goddamn right, I drop em so fast these days.

Which is not just a service to yourself but a service to civilisation.

A woman losing a high quality man over her petty bullshit is one of the few things that might slap the stupid out of her.

Yup, a lot of girls who think they're getting a second date simply do not. New girls who step too far out of line get either ghosted or get their ego shattered.

Online it's even quicker. This girl had recently updated her pictures and responded to an old message I'd sent maybe 2 yrs ago. I almost didn't recognize her and played along. She looked to have gained 30 lbs, was now in her early 30s, and was pushing for free dinner & drinks. Oh and her profile says she's in a relationship, just to tie it back to this thread's topic.

I had an OKC girl I met at a bar ask for dinner after about 15 minutes with an attitude.

I went to the bathroom, texted my friend and told him to call me in about 2 minutes.

I picked up the phone right in front of her:

"Hey man what's up?"

"Shit your car broke down? Where are you? Oh that's just a few minutes away I'll be right there."

I turn to the girl: "Hey I got to go."

Then I just walked out without saying a word.

Of course she knew it was BS, but that was the point.

At a certain point after about a gazillion meetups you just stop caring. I drop girls at the slightest hint of disrespect, attitude, something I don't like, or if they just seem off. I used to 'plow through', but I don't have the desire or time to do that anymore.

That's really what it comes down to...time. No reason to waste it on people (men or women) who don't fit your values or you don't enjoy being with.

Quote: (04-20-2017 07:18 PM)Neo Wrote:  

Then I just walked out without saying a word.

Of course she knew it was BS, but that was the point.

Going to the bathroom and taking your phone out of your pocket feels like too much work for that one.

Lol....the AFC is strong in this post. This has got to be a troll. White knight save -a-ho , believing this girl is constantly getting screwed over but now has a "real" man to be her emotional tampon with her kid.

7/10 on the troll effort