[maxalton]

-GF and I became official a few weeks after a punk she was dating screwed her over (she has a history of falling for prettyboy-badboys.) 2-3 weeks after he screwed her over, we met. 2 weeks after that, we were in a relationship. Im 32 and she's 30. My 9 year old son and her 8 year old daughter met days after we met. We jumped in fast. She anxiously wanted a real man, and stability for herself and her kid. Not sure if jumping in fast hurts the foundation/stability of our relationship?

-I was interested in her first, before she became interested in me. It's now been about 6.5 months since we met, 6 months that we've been in a relationship.

-She comes from a broken home. Neglectful/abusive mother, deadbeat father who was hardly in her life as a kid. Her daughter's father used to beat her several years ago when they were still together. She's emotionally damaged in ways. I also know that she has a promiscuous past when she was single.

-Barely posted about me a month into relationship when we were having ups-and-downs (she's big on social media)

- Started adding random local single guys on facebook/instagram. Likes their pics and leaves occasional flirty comments. I also think she Likes pics of her "guy friends" who she used to sleep with. Never had our relationship status visible on her page. Ripped through one of the guys fb albums and liked a bunch of his pics dating back to a YEAR ago.We'll call him Guy A.

-In January, we had our highest "up" cycle of our relationship. During this time, she was posting about me more, posting some pictures of us, and I even noticed that she deleted those random local guys, and made our relationship status visible, finally. She says to me (and on facebook) things like "I finally found someone that truly makes me happy" "You're so good to your son, and me and my daughter" etc. etc.

-Things seem good right now, however... When she deleted those guys off facebook a couple of months ago, she never unfollowed them from instagram. Well just a few days ago, I happened to be on instagram and noticed in my Activity Feed that she had recently liked THREE recent selfies that Guy A had posted. Just..why?? Does she view this as "harmless Likes?" Is she seeking attention/validation? Or is she not totally attracted to me so her eyes are wandeing?

-One time, a few months ago, one of our friends was looking at a picture of me and her and he said, "Dude you have such a creepy smile!" And she said, "Well we all know how irresistible he apparently is!" Taking digs at my looks. She can be pretty blunt when joking around like this, but that kind of comment made me wonder if I'm not even her type (physically)

-She has also re-friended a guy on fb who used to be her "best friend" months before we met, who she stopped talking to because he screwed her over with multiple things. One of those things being, they used to hookup and she eventually found out that he secretly had a girlfriend WHILE they had been hooking up. (Yep, another punk she was involved with.) They weren't in a relationship but she claimed they were "best friends." Well she re-added him on facebook all these months later. And Im wondering...why?

-Also noticed that she recently followed one of her ex's from a few years ago on instagram

Can you guys see her staying committed to me and our relationship lasting?

[Windom Earle]

No

[PapayaTapper]

Do the math

You +32 yo = approaching the highest SMV for a man's life.

She + 30 yo, +way past her prime, +single mom, + social media addicted,+ disrespectful + semi-reformed cock carousel rider = whatever you do dont fucking knock her up.

You already know the solution to this equation professor

[ExploringReality]

What I do not see is why did you commit in the first place.
+1 for dumping her.

[Vill@in]

(04-10-2017 09:24 AM)maxalton Wrote:  

Can you guys see her staying committed to me and our relationship lasting?

Do you?

The answer is: NO. Next her and move on. Way too many red flags with this one.

[PapayaTapper]

(04-10-2017 10:25 AM)Vill@in Wrote:  

(04-10-2017 09:24 AM)maxalton Wrote:  

Can you guys see her staying committed to me and our relationship lasting?

Do you?

The answer is: NO. Next her and move on. Way too many red flags with this one.

[wi30]

This can't be real. Did Suits open a troll account?

[Vill@in]

(04-10-2017 12:24 PM)wi30 Wrote:  

This can't be real. Did Suits open a troll account?

I thought Suits main account was the troll account?!

[LeoneVolpe]

Do yourself a favor...

Dump her and dump her fast.

[Latan]

   

[kinjutsu]

Ghost on her. There's no point in staying around. No matter how good the pussy is it's not worth all the drama she will bring into your life.

[Peekay]

Being so new to the forum it is probably inappropriate for me to start spouting off advice to anyone, but this situation sounds almost like my ex-wife, minus the single mother part.
This pit viper of a woman taught a very valuable lesson about women that I wish I knew before I married her. All women crave male attention and validation. Women use attention as a way to keep score, if your attention and validation are not enough right now it never will be. As long as her looks are good enough she can receive attention through social media without having to sleep around, but as soon as her looks start to fade she will have to start taking more extreme measures to receive male attention.
I saw all the warning signs and I ignored the advice of friends, family, and the voice in my head. Now I am paying over grand a month in child support and will be for the next 7 years. The worst part about the whole situation is that I really do not deserve sympathy because I only have myself to blame.

[RatInTheWoods]

Guys in here be brutal with all the nexting.

For a change I agree with them and am a bit pessimistic on this relationships future.

Its all about SMV... she doesn't think yours is high enough, that's why she is still shopping for other dudes ready to branch swing. (hypergamy)

The question is, do you live together? Have you gone beta with her?

If you are not living together, then you can start reclaiming the alpha and playing dread to regain her interest - you had it at one point.

But ultimately there are red flags everywhere and we know where this is going....

DO NOT GET HER PREGANT

[dongiovanni]

Why the fuck would you let your son see you with a degenerate slut? NEXT

[PapayaTapper]

(04-10-2017 04:12 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

Guys in here be brutal with all the nexting.

For a change I agree with them and am a bit pessimistic on this relationships future.

Its all about SMV... she doesn't think yours is high enough, that's why she is still shopping for other dudes ready to branch swing. (hypergamy)

The question is, do you live together? Have you gone beta with her?

If you are not living together, then you can start reclaiming the alpha and playing dread to regain her interest - you had it at one point.

But ultimately there are red flags everywhere and we know where this is going....

DO NOT GET HER PREGANT

I think I'm slower on the "NEXT!" draw than most but this one's... well..



DO NOT GET HER PREGANT...worth repeating. Bishes that have already had one are much more easily knocked up the 2nd time

The price of this pussy is

[Rocha]

Good thing about her is that she is used to being "screwed over", so if you screw her over too she is already desensitized. That's my advice, and it's on you the best way to do that... her behavior deserves nothing else but it.

I am quite soft on the issues of red flags, but in this case seems like SL Benfica is playing at home.


   

[Buck Wild]

[Vaun]

Barring that you aren't a troll, Ill bite. This is more about your lack of self esteem, than her. Why do you think so poorly of yourself that you would accept this as a relationship? Fuck buddy maybe.

[UlteriorMotive]

(04-10-2017 07:27 PM)Vaun Wrote:  

This is more about your lack of self esteem, than her.

This and next her asap.

You also need to spend a lot of time digging through the forum before you end up another broken man long forgotten.

[ivansirko]

Op,

this is you:



do this....



and this



Any questions? GO!

[Ironbutt62]

It's hamsteritis on a grand scale. She deletes the boys on Facebook in a grand gesture of sacrifice to show you how committed she is. But maintains IG kind of on the sly. I would wager she thought you didn't use IG. Also, the liking of pics? That seems innocent enough, but what about private messages? Or Facebook settings she deliberately obscures through privacy settings?

It is absolutely not worth the struggle. Marriage and LTR are hard work, but if you start out with a dishonest woman, you're doomed.

[AneroidOcean]

(04-10-2017 09:24 AM)maxalton Wrote:  

She anxiously wanted a real man, and stability for herself and her kid.

The number of red flags is pretty insane. Run away.

The last guy "screwed her over" uh huh, sure.

She seems to date pretty boy/badboys and you can't figure out why she'd be liking other guys instagram pictures and year old photos on facebook yet you point out she doesn't think you're a pretty-boy. Huh, can't figure out the math on that one either!

The only saving grace is you haven't knocked her up.

Exit stage left!

[Rekk'd]

Lol was that even a real question at the end? And get tested!

[Turnus]

The most concerning part of your post to me is that YOU introduced your son to her and her daugther days after you met? Be a better example to your kid. The standard advice is to wait at least 6 months/a year before introducing children to significant others. Not "days"

[Nascimento]

(04-10-2017 01:32 PM)Vill@in Wrote:  

(04-10-2017 12:24 PM)wi30 Wrote:  

This can't be real. Did Suits open a troll account?

I thought Suits main account was the troll account?!