Been seeing my main girl for about 5 months - met her on OKC.
As I've posted in a couple other threads, it's overall been good with some episodes of drama thrown in regarding my unwillingness to make things "more serious" and so forth, that I've more or less been able to handle. The primary sticking point is that she wanted me to deactivate all my dating site profiles after we'd been seeing each other for about a month, which I refused to do. None of the other girls I've seen for any length of time did this - why should I do it for them?
I probably should've just lied.
I usually go to her place when we get together, and she lives with a roommate. I believe her first roommate was gay, and she was pretty relaxed...my girl told me she thought I was a "cute, cool guy" but for most of the time she was travelling or otherwise not around.
About a month ago the first roommate moved to the west coast, and a new roomie moved in. She's from DC. Uh oh. The new roommate is in her late 20s, about "7" and is pretty much the definition of a high-conflict cuntish online serial dater pushing 30. She told me herself "oh I like all sorts of guys, I'm kind of a commitment-phobe", and my girl told me second-hand about the messages she sends out to all the guys she talks to on Tinder: "yeah, not on my FUCKING level dude" and things of that nature. She's doesn't seem to ever go out though; she's always fucking sitting around.
The unfortunate thing is that over the past month I've noticed my girl's demeanor start to change in an unpleasant way...as if she was adapting some of the same characteristics.
This weekend was kind of the last straw. I had a relative die, but I decided to make time to take her out, and I chipped in to help pay for some clothes she was interested in. I usually don't spend much money on her.
But no good deed goes unpunished, and on Monday she actually hits me up with a text on the site saying essentially "You say you want to keep it casual, but you've been treating me way too much like your girlfriend. So I'm gonna be on here from time to time just letting you know the score"
I can't really say she's wrong. But, damn. For all intents and purposes she's saying "I could've been a great long-term fuckbuddy! But you needed to treat me worse."
I think she basically likes me a lot, but can't handle the jealousy issue that I might be seeing other girls, and is trying to cope with it somehow. But I just see it as more manipulation. And I'm pretty certain she's been chatting with that bitch next door, and she's not on my team.
The getting on the site to text me that she was using the site again regularly, even when she knew I was trying to handle a death in the family, was kind of it for me - I'm 90% certain that a next is in the near future. Just needed to vent a bit; any thoughts or encouraging words are welcome.
As I've posted in a couple other threads, it's overall been good with some episodes of drama thrown in regarding my unwillingness to make things "more serious" and so forth, that I've more or less been able to handle. The primary sticking point is that she wanted me to deactivate all my dating site profiles after we'd been seeing each other for about a month, which I refused to do. None of the other girls I've seen for any length of time did this - why should I do it for them?
I probably should've just lied.
I usually go to her place when we get together, and she lives with a roommate. I believe her first roommate was gay, and she was pretty relaxed...my girl told me she thought I was a "cute, cool guy" but for most of the time she was travelling or otherwise not around.
About a month ago the first roommate moved to the west coast, and a new roomie moved in. She's from DC. Uh oh. The new roommate is in her late 20s, about "7" and is pretty much the definition of a high-conflict cuntish online serial dater pushing 30. She told me herself "oh I like all sorts of guys, I'm kind of a commitment-phobe", and my girl told me second-hand about the messages she sends out to all the guys she talks to on Tinder: "yeah, not on my FUCKING level dude" and things of that nature. She's doesn't seem to ever go out though; she's always fucking sitting around.
The unfortunate thing is that over the past month I've noticed my girl's demeanor start to change in an unpleasant way...as if she was adapting some of the same characteristics.
This weekend was kind of the last straw. I had a relative die, but I decided to make time to take her out, and I chipped in to help pay for some clothes she was interested in. I usually don't spend much money on her.
But no good deed goes unpunished, and on Monday she actually hits me up with a text on the site saying essentially "You say you want to keep it casual, but you've been treating me way too much like your girlfriend. So I'm gonna be on here from time to time just letting you know the score"
I can't really say she's wrong. But, damn. For all intents and purposes she's saying "I could've been a great long-term fuckbuddy! But you needed to treat me worse."
I think she basically likes me a lot, but can't handle the jealousy issue that I might be seeing other girls, and is trying to cope with it somehow. But I just see it as more manipulation. And I'm pretty certain she's been chatting with that bitch next door, and she's not on my team.
The getting on the site to text me that she was using the site again regularly, even when she knew I was trying to handle a death in the family, was kind of it for me - I'm 90% certain that a next is in the near future. Just needed to vent a bit; any thoughts or encouraging words are welcome.