Quote: (04-20-2016 02:17 AM)EDantes Wrote:
Quote: (04-19-2016 11:52 PM)Requiem Wrote:
^ that sounds like typical "advice" from a wimminz' magazine.
On one hand yeah, on the other hand what I've noticed is that it's usually chumps who are the most possessive; likely due to feeling that they're too beta to "ever find another woman" if they lose her.
Sure a manly man is going to demand self respect and dumb a bitch who cheats on them, but my thought is that manly guys tend to be less possessive than beta guys because they have an abundance mindset, and know there are thousands of other women out there, and have other goals and priorities in life other than "marriage and kids" so losing a woman isn't like losing an arm or leg to them.
These beta guys are also the type of guys who buy into the notion that they're "entitled" to sex or a relationship because they're so "nice" or because they bought a girl dinner.
Well, then we need to first establish what kind of relationship we're talking about. I thought it was clear since AtD was asking about
love but now you're talking about the
player lifestyle. Sure you can always find another woman, but if you actually
love someone, then you
don't want to. Alphas can love too. And if you're in a loving relationship, the situation is by definition very different from when you just see her as a fun temporary companion that you can wet your dick with. You do become vulnerable because you opened yourself up emotionally enough to fall in love with her. And in order to go through with that completely, you do need a feeling of ownership otherwise there's too much uncertainty. The beta thing in my opinion is to not allow for the vulnerability to emerge in the first place because one is afraid to get hurt. The possessive betas who're obsessively controlling are
not acting out of love but out of desperation. If you open yourself emotionally enough to actually
love a woman who
doesn't submit to you, then you're in for a shitty surprise. So it's not really that "owning" a woman is about constantly checking her phone etc., but being the kind of man
she naturally wants to submit to.
Yet you can't just hope for her to be flawless in every way and always act accordingly. So there are still recurrent situations where you need to be strict with her. Which you wouldn't be doing with a woman you don't love since it's less of a hassle to just replace her once her behavior becomes too unpleasant. And if she is the right woman to love, for which her submission is a necessity, then she will like you for correcting her behavior. It shows you care. - Not in the beta touchy-feely kind of way but in the alpha patriarchal family-managing kind of way. And in such a relationship - to come back to AtD's question - yes, you do own her. Although I hope it's clear now, in which way. We're not talking about outright enslavement, although that can be a voluntary aspect of it if both partners prefer it this way.