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12-25-2015, 02:43 PM
Doesn't seem to have a plan for her life
Lazy
Sleeps a lot
Has no drive to improve herself
Lies, big and small
Keeps in touch with former sex partners
Talks about exes
No ethics
Binge drinker
Thinks life is about getting away with dishonesty
Has quit varsity studies but complains about not having a career
Has a bad relationship with food (mood eating and over-esting )
Will leave her car or home in a state of disrepair, not fixing obvious problems
Addiction
Poor or non-existent relationship with parents
Absent father
Financial troubles or deep debt
Impulsive
Limited intellect
Has a past
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12-25-2015, 03:17 PM
Withholds sex as means of leverage.
Binge drinker.
Drug use. (I do not consider marijuana a drug)
Slutty past.
Excessively on her phone, secretive about its contents.
Agrees to be in a casual sex relationship.
Broke.
Aspires to some unrealistic level of affluence.
"As wolves among sheep we have wandered"
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12-25-2015, 08:16 PM
Most of this stuff is standard fare.
But this:
- Public IG account (because she's on the market 24/7)
Is the master of all red flags.
Same could be said about Tinder but then again if that's where you met her what are you complaining about? Also not to be confused with Tinder because Tinder is anonymous, decision driven and not a means for laddering.
Somebody said this very well earlier but yeah.
My attitude when a woman starts calling other guys is "kick ass" does this mean I won't have to deal with your bullshit anymore now and does he have gas?
Who's going into a 1 night stand relationship looking for red flags?
Get in have your fun and enjoy it.
Why are you setting exceptions from a woman who's not showing any indications that she's any of those things?
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12-29-2015, 01:44 AM
Biggest red flags to some degree depends on what you are looking for. If it is ONS, then the red flags you need to worry about are limited (visible signs of some sort of disease, visible signs of instability that could lead to false rape charge next day).
If you are looking for an LTR, then the list obviously gets much bigger and things get more complicated. But I've found a common thread that runs through most of the red flags mentioned by various previous posters. The red flag is VISITING NIGHTCLUBS OFTEN. From that comes excessive drinking, instagram, slutty behavior, sugar daddy arrangements, narcissism, immaturity, and so on. A girl whose hitting the clubs is unlikely to be hitting the books to read and develop herself into an intelligent human being with good character and judgement.
Obviously, there will be exceptions, but these will be few and far between.
You know that girl who wakes up at 6 am everyday to go running? She's probably a better bet (again, exceptions exist) than most of the girls who got home just an hour or two before running girl woke up. Just my 2 cents.
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12-29-2015, 09:07 AM
Good stuff here.
40 year old never married..I meet her for drinks and afterwards hold her hand. Later on she tells me no guy ever did that to her before??? Strange as she was good looking. Red flag I found out later can keep her pants on.
Next flag was hot thigh gap and all cali chick. Tells me while we are having drinks this is just sex right...of course I say right. Anyhow I grab her hand on way out ..now mind you we spent 2 nights in bed already and the sex was hot. She say you like me dont you?? Im like yeah, I guess she was put off by that. 15 minutes later she is telling me how she used to fool around with the fathers of kids she baby sat at 12 and 13 years old. Dude I cant get that outaa my ears...and she is bothered by me holding her hand....major red flags as my take is most chicks are damaged in some way.
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12-29-2015, 02:23 PM
Cats.
If a chick has more than one cat, run. And anyone who is obsessed with cats (post a bunch of pics on their FB, talking about them a lot) is usually lonely with no friends.
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12-30-2015, 12:31 PM
A couple more red flags:
-One woman saw my considerable bookshelf and asked accusingly, "why do you read so many books?" This gal was of above-average intelligence, but had it in her head that reading and learning were for squares (she always hated school and work, any kind of structure in life was just, like, such a bummer, man). Since then I've used my bookshelf as an early screening tool.
-In US coastal cities, single girls between 29 and 33 in age. The "turning 30 and not married" panic is real, and when you add that to American gals getting jaded and burned out of dating by their late 20's, you've got a cauldron stewing up angry/bored/unstable gals. (Workaholism contributes to this, creating a vicious cycle where her time gets eaten up on work priorities, so she's not in the dating game, her dating social skills are weak, so she spends more time working at something she's good at, ad infinitum.)
-A personal one-off for me: dated a 28yo for over a year who hadn't had a serious relationship since she left college. I ignored the big red flag that she had spent that time either slutting it up, or working so much that she didn't have time for serious men (or both). Turned out she wasn't anywhere near ready for the kind of self-sacrifice and life-decision-making you need to do in a LTR at that age. Broke my heart hard when she left but I should have been prepared for it, had I paid attention to the signs.
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01-02-2016, 11:51 AM
I don't have any that haven't already been mentioned.
Horses/cats
drugs
brings up a desire for children way too early (we call this "baby rabies" and its common for women who feel the wall closing in)
feminism
fat
disrespect for borders (like when they try to connect with your family members before you've introduced her to them)
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01-04-2016, 03:31 PM
What about women who say things like, "if you don't love dogs we'll never get along" or "animals are better than people"? I read that on a lot of tinder profiles
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01-04-2016, 11:18 PM
Women are more centered in the present and so are animals. It makes sense.
If only you knew how bad things really are.
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01-05-2016, 01:16 PM
Hair in a bun, big nerdy glasses, bitchy resting face.
So that cuts out about 80% of the women around here under age 35.
I'm not sure when or how this "fashion" trend started, but it's spread like a virus. Every time I go out I feel like I'm in a Robert Palmer video, or someone's evacuated a college of library science.
It's always amazing how women will fall all over themselves to imitate a look that none of them would've been caught dead rocking just three years ago. To me it's an indicator that she's thinking "hmm, I have no idea how to present myself in an attractive manner, so I'd better just do whatever everyone else is doing and hope it pans out."
Which it usually doesn't. The "hot librarian" thing is the exception, not the rule. If you see a young woman rocking that look poking away at her iPhone, I can pretty much guarantee you she's riding the carousel hard and her life is a shambles. She don't even want to bother washing her hair.
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01-14-2016, 04:41 PM
My current mini LTR has a tattoo, most friends are gay, + 80.000 followers on instagram, never met his father, glued to his iphone.
*She is a solid 8, great in bed, great cook, always available for sex, swallows annoying but I keep her under control.
I been with her for about 3 months now, I screwed 2 chics on the sides while with her, Have not touch another woman in a month, fuck.
What do you guys mean by a red flag?
*She could be trouble in terms that you develop oneitis for her ass?
*She could be trouble in terms that if you leave she will go crazy and burn your place down?
Thanks for the heads up!
*Now I am thinking in running the fuck out from her.
The harder you practice, the luckier you get.
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01-14-2016, 06:20 PM
My way to find out is to watch how the girl reacts when some things go bad. Or really bad.
I love when a woman can stay relatively normal in a tough situation. It makes me feel like she's a part of the same team.
There's enough random problems to deal with every day. The last thing I need is a woman who goes crazy over some silly nonsense.
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01-20-2016, 03:19 PM
1. Girls who pretend like they had no issues in high school. Look, I know by now that every girl was either a slut, anorexic, a binge eater, raver, partier, nerd or involuntarily celibate, a fat girl. Just don't pretend to be without vices.
2. Reads BuzzFeed
3. Texts at dinner
4. No relationship with father
5. Former fatty
6. Starts off each sentence with, "I wish...."