Hello guys! Please excuse my grammar mistakes as I am not a native speaker.
I am 27, and I have spent the last 8 years of my life doing almost everything except focusing on girls and relationships. I have a good degree, I have visited many countries throughout the world, I have friends and I am sociable, I can't say I am a total failure. 8 years ago I was dumped by a girl, and, even if we hadn't been together for a long time, it shook my confidence and subconsciously paralyzed me and stopped me from pursuing other options (I assume hookers or minor relationships don't count).
But this is not my point. Four months ago I met a girl on an online dating site, we were together for almost 2 months and afterwards it all ended. Almost everything reminds of her, and I avoid walking through certain places because they all remind me of the moments I spent with her. I didn't text or called her after the breakup and I am not in despair, I just try to be rational and ask myself this question: had I been more experienced, would I still feel this pain? Because it seems to me that after so many years of pause, it's impossible not to get enchanted at the prospect of a cute girl liking you and giving you her attention. But if she was, let's say the twentieth girl who'd done so, would the pain still be so high? I can't turn back time, but I need to understand the root of these tough feelings, while focusing on the future and trying to improve. Thanks!
I am 27, and I have spent the last 8 years of my life doing almost everything except focusing on girls and relationships. I have a good degree, I have visited many countries throughout the world, I have friends and I am sociable, I can't say I am a total failure. 8 years ago I was dumped by a girl, and, even if we hadn't been together for a long time, it shook my confidence and subconsciously paralyzed me and stopped me from pursuing other options (I assume hookers or minor relationships don't count).
But this is not my point. Four months ago I met a girl on an online dating site, we were together for almost 2 months and afterwards it all ended. Almost everything reminds of her, and I avoid walking through certain places because they all remind me of the moments I spent with her. I didn't text or called her after the breakup and I am not in despair, I just try to be rational and ask myself this question: had I been more experienced, would I still feel this pain? Because it seems to me that after so many years of pause, it's impossible not to get enchanted at the prospect of a cute girl liking you and giving you her attention. But if she was, let's say the twentieth girl who'd done so, would the pain still be so high? I can't turn back time, but I need to understand the root of these tough feelings, while focusing on the future and trying to improve. Thanks!