[Checkerz]

According to what people tell me im one of the most noticeable guys in uni.

This popularity has got to the point where I have people asking to take photos of me or telling me that they have told their friends about me from both men and women. etc Ive had girls come up to me and described what ive been wearing or doing or eating 3 days ago (stalker-rish much?) . I get hotties coming up to me who i never thought noticed me and prove otherwise.

BOTTOMLINE: I still suck with girls. even though i should have it easier than most.

1. I can talk to girls and get a good conversation ...hell ill even get attraction now and then.

2. Amongst other men i am alpha. when talking to girls im a little bitch in comparison

3. I now reduce the approaches i make because i dont want to fail so much that i come that massive failure everyone knows (because my uni is small)

I cant escalate with girls to save my life.


Any tips.....or advice from the pros? on any issues here. Id be grateful

[Sly]

why are you so popular? sounds like maybe you're on a sports team?
Have you read "Day Bang" or the "the game"?

[Giovonny]

Sounds like you would be fine if you can just get them into your bedroom. Are you trying to do that?

[Checkerz]

I have read bang....generally because it suits my goal of trying out the club and bar scene. I stayed away from the game because i assumed that everyone would have read it and it would become useless.

I dont do any sports anymore.....i have become lazy like that. I would say the popularity comes from a style or dress sense an outward appearance. I mean im a people person.

I am trying to get them into the bedroom. I get cockblocked all the time maybe 5 times a night. I blame myself really but im working around it.

[Sly]

Every night is a different scenario with girls. There are several tactics you can use to get them to your bedroom.
One of my favorites from college was, i'm gonna go back to my place and smoke, do you blaze?" Don't know if you smoke but this line worked countless times for me. I'm in Southern California where lots of people smoke pot. Don't know how'd this work for you.
I would talk to one of your friends who slays lots of girls about it. Personally, I admire a friend of mine who has the balls to ask me to wing for him because he's been striking out. He can feel the girl out you've been spitting at all night and let you know what strategy he he thinks might work to get the girl back for you. Plus, he can entertain the friends while you make your move.
"The Game" is certainly still a great read for all men. It'll help you get the confidence you need to know you can get girls back to your place.

[Johnnyboy]

just practice, and get over your fears which will become easy as soon as you get the results you want from facing them

[Checkerz]

this forum really is the real deal...some good things for me to try out.

what about the idea of my uni being quite small? If i strike out to much do you think i could get branded a loser or something between the closer community of girls?

[Giovonny]

Are you getting make-outs?

[Checkerz]

yeah i am ....every now and then. but my escalation need serious work i dont even know where to begin with that

[Sly]

(12-11-2011 08:46 PM)Checkerz Wrote:  

this forum really is the real deal...some good things for me to try out.

what about the idea of my uni being quite small? If i strike out to much do you think i could get branded a loser or something between the closer community of girls?

It sounds like you're second guessing yourself too much man. I've struck out countless times in my life. But hey, at least I tried.. Remember, you are simply having conversations with her to make her feel comfortable and attracted to you. As long as you don't make an ass out of yourself, I don't think "Striking Out" should effect your chances with other girls at your university.
In fact, I once met this smokin hot girl through a friend of mine. After a few nights hanging out with a group of friends (hot girl included), I made out with her and we walked home together. She was not ready to come spend the night at my place. The following night, we met up/ made out again, danced blah blah and I got so fucked up I don't know remember what happened!? One thing is for sure, I struck out since my clothes were on when I woke up and my bed was still made.
At this point, I didn't see the girl for a week. The next time I saw her, she was with another cute friend who she introduced me to. New girl and I hit it off immediately and the original girl actually supported it. I ended up taking new friend back to my house and that was my main fuck buddy for the rest of the semester.

[Sly]

best part is, these girls introduced me to lots of there friends while me and fuck buddy were together. When things ended between me and fuck buddy, i got a new fuck buddy, who ironically was old fuck buddies best friend?
girls are promiscous lol.
just remember to always be positive. as long as you're positive person with a strong sense of character/presense, girls will respect you. Respecting themselves though? whole different story haha.
Her best friend came onto me and I told her that the only way I was going to hang out with her is if she did a line of blow off my dick and she she happily did it!

[Checkerz]

thats an amazing post sly!

[Giovonny]

(12-11-2011 08:57 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Are you getting make-outs?

(12-11-2011 09:02 PM)Checkerz Wrote:  

yeah i am ....every now and then. but my escalation need serious work i dont even know where to begin with that

Are these makeouts happening in your private bedroom? If they are, you should be trying to get her clothes off.

If they are not happening in the your private bedroom, you should try to move her there, at least somewhere where you can escalate..

What are your specific questions about escalation?

[Checkerz]

Im not to good with escalation, i cant make it seem like a natural part of the process of meeting someone.

When i do it seems like my movements are not smooth and natural.... any ideas how to improve that?

Also when you go out what are the stages of escalation that you go through when talking to a girl well?

[Samseau]

(12-18-2011 10:36 PM)Checkerz Wrote:  

Im not to good with escalation, i cant make it seem like a natural part of the process of meeting someone.

When i do it seems like my movements are not smooth and natural.... any ideas how to improve that?

Also when you go out what are the stages of escalation that you go through when talking to a girl well?

Read Bang, stop being a dumbass, read the section called "Late Game" and you'll be fucking in no time

[Iceinthewater]

(12-10-2011 09:24 PM)Checkerz Wrote:  

According to what people tell me im one of the most noticeable guys in uni.

This popularity has got to the point where I have people asking to take photos of me or telling me that they have told their friends about me from both men and women. etc Ive had girls come up to me and described what ive been wearing or doing or eating 3 days ago (stalker-rish much?) . I get hotties coming up to me who i never thought noticed me and prove otherwise.

BOTTOMLINE: I still suck with girls. even though i should have it easier than most.

1. I can talk to girls and get a good conversation ...hell ill even get attraction now and then.

2. Amongst other men i am alpha. when talking to girls im a little bitch in comparison

3. I now reduce the approaches i make because i dont want to fail so much that i come that massive failure everyone knows (because my uni is small)

I cant escalate with girls to save my life.


Any tips.....or advice from the pros? on any issues here. Id be grateful

work on standing closer to, and touching women more as you talk to them.

also go out to parties and dance/grind on girls. have a few beers if you need a quick way to loosen up, but don't come to depend on that.

you're going to regret not going for what you want in college. it never gets any easier than that unless you manage a strip club or go to thailand.

My summation of how to get laid in college:
talk to girls in class
hang out
make out
whip out
don't get needy

[Sly]

It seems as if you're not comfortable groping girls. Have you ever had a serious girlfriend who you fucked countless times?
Feeling girls up felt like an annatural act before I had my first serious girlfriend. .

[Checkerz]

I see your point. after all this comment....i now know what must be done. Im gonna go and do it.

thanks to all who left advice......i learnt a lot.


now to go clubbing.