[Jackhammer]

What's a good text to send after banging a girl for the first time? I'd like to see her again but I have shitty post-bang game. I hit it on Sunday and was probably going to text her tomorrow

[slubu]

I usually send a text referencing something random we talked about that night before the bang happened. Nothing sexual, nothing like "hey that was fun" or anything about setting up another date. Just looked up my last one - the night before she was talking about how she had a dream that I showed up at her class asking questions during her quiz. So the night after the bang I just texted her "good luck on the quiz, don't worry I won't show up and ask questions."

Just an example, and it varies from girl to girl.

[iknowexactly]

(11-12-2012 04:46 PM)slubu Wrote:  

I usually send a text referencing something random we talked about that night before the bang happened. Nothing sexual, ....

I think this sounds like a great idea.


1) It "normalizes" that she was asking for it up the ass last night and calling you "master" the night before. You are already a guy that proved he can supply what she's sort of embarrassed she needs if she's sexual. If she's a starfish... well if she's a starfish who cares?

2) It shows you have some constancy as a friend. You remembered something about her and took the trouble to comment.

3) You aren't going sickening sweet beta on them , setting them up to feel guilty about not being in the mood for you-- even horny chicks probably have more days when they don't want sex.

[Duke Castile]

I'll read through the responses in a bit but if you want to keep banging, here's what I've found works in general (if you have a great repoire going obviously you can make the call on how soon to text/call)

Most girls get all bitchy when you bang them and don't reach out the next day, even if she is leaving your place that morning and you speak, they still want the contact.

For girls that aren't experienced sluts, I call soon after and just shoot the breeze, or leave a message saying I had fun and reference a joke.

For girls who are midway experienced I text them towards the end of the night the day after. This gets them thinking you aren't going to call and doesn't surrender any power I just throw out plans"let's grab drinks xxx day, I'm going to be unavailable until then"

For straight up been around the block girls it doesn't matter either way. IMHO

I've gone on nights where I just have them keep coming over for days in a row. Like this last bottle service girl. I am always ready to fuck her.

[Samseau]

I still don't have a modus operandi for this, I just play it by ear.

[Avarence]

(11-14-2012 02:24 PM)Samseau Wrote:  

I still don't have a modus operandi for this, I just play it by ear.

Same here. I feel like this varies too much. That said, if it's sex with a fresher prospect, she will usually text me the next day, and these texts almost always say the the same thing: "I didn't expect that to happen", but conveyed playfully and openly.

If she re-initiates friendly contact post-bang, she's probably down to go again sometime. If she doesn't re-initiate, but you really want it again, send her something witty 3 or 4 days out. If she doesn't respond, then too bad. Doesn't mean she won't ever come back, though.

Text example from this summer:


Three times FTW.

[Pioneer 11]

I usually send something playful about our foreplay or how she was fun naked. This lets her know that our relationship is sexual without coming acrossed as a cooze hound. I have found that the positive reinforcement is generally well received and that most respond fairly soon with the idea of round 2 on the horizon.

[3rdmilleniummen]

(12-03-2011 05:07 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

I have a sexual satisfaction guarantee with the women I bang, so I never have to worry it. If I've nailed a girl once, she will want to see me again. That way the ball is always in my court. Become a sex god and you'll never have to worry about "day after this" or "don't do that" type of stuff. Just roll with it. And of course, if you don't want to see her again... you don't contact her... all girls understand this form of cut off.

Bang. Spot on Gmac. Great paragraph.

[QuietDog]

Bumping this thread to see if anyone has a fresh perspective on this, I've had a couple chicks fade away after the first bang so I'd like to get better at this

In this age of the smartphone do you guys always text her or does anyone still call? I was thinking about calling instead since I figure very few girls get that nowadays so it might be more memorable. Especially since I'm a young guy myself so it might take them more by surprise than a call from an older guy would.

Thoughts?

[Player_1337]

After the first bang, I send one of the variants below (the following afternoon or night):

"had a nice time last night"
"last night was fun"
"last night was fun- let's do it again"
"last night was fun- enjoy the rest of the weekend" (don't send this one on a Friday or Saturday night)

Builds comfort and works as a defense mechanism in the event of false rape accusations.

[General Stalin]

I normally never cold text her next day after the bang unless there was some need to do so. Example: I'm a home-field advantage guy so most of the time I bang chicks at my place and often times they will give me a "I'm home" text to let me know they got back safe and sound. I will usually respond next day something like "Good. thank you" or "Glad you made it home safe" and some chat may ensue if she responds. If she texts ME next day then I will of course reciprocate.

Generally I wait a few days to text post bang and only text her to work up to more plans at a later date. I'm super cautious of sending needy/beta/clingy vibes so I try to act like most things are "nbd" so texting selfishly is just part of my game I suppose.

[eatthishomie]

always send an I didn't rape you text. It is mandatory in today's climate.

[Vincent Chase]

I usually tell a girl to text me that she got home safely. Aside from that girls usually text "thanks for the fun night" (i.e. thanks for giving me a new arsehole). If she doesn't and I still want to see her I'd cold text her after a couple of days.

[Gmac]

You shouldn't really want someone to feel shameful or regretful - it's just not good game. Expressing that you had a good time with her is usually the best approach in my experience. 9 times out of 10 they reciprocate. Unless it's a ONS you really have no intention of seeing again, in which case it's best to just cut off all contact and close that door.

[eradicator]

(12-03-2011 06:11 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

(12-03-2011 05:51 PM)Tuthmosis Wrote:  

(12-03-2011 05:38 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

Tuth, I would think that after the deed was done the playing field is leveled no? Are you asking whether or not you should keep gaming her after sex?

Yes, in a way, I'm asking "what's your post-bang game?" I honed in on the text thing because it's an area I think needs a little more thinking and refinement in my case, but the bigger question covers this and more.

I think it depends on how the fuck went. She's a total slut in bed I might send something like..Bring that dirty pussy back on thursday or some stupid shit but that's the way I talk normally.

Give me a scenario of how the sex and date played out

That's awesome. I am stealing that. "come over tomorrow night and bring your dirty pussy with you" etc.

Not that it requires a lot of game if you fucked her good and proper, but that is a good way to make a girl feel all sexy and slutty.

[AnonymousBosch]

(09-12-2015 05:22 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

You shouldn't really want someone to feel shameful or regretful - it's just not good game. Expressing that you had a good time with her is usually the best approach in my experience.

Exactly, if you sense her feeling ashamed, focus on enjoying her company, not the sex act.

You can see the shame spiral staring in Averance's text message from the girl posted above.

What is really being said in each text message:

Quote:

"I like you. I don't want you to think I'm a slut."

"I don't think you're a slut."

"But I'm not a prude either. I enjoyed the sex, did you?"

"I'm glad you enjoyed the sex."

"I already said that. What I want to know is if you enjoyed sex with me?"

"Yes, I did."

"[Outburst of relief]. I'm really not a slut, but you're very good at sex and I want to spend more time with you."

Inexperienced players should increase their awareness of what the parallel unspoken conversation is within each burst of contact. More experienced players are aware of this and can tease and frustrate expectations in a way that increases attraction and devotion.

The conversation then becomes:

Quote:

"I like you. I don't want you think I'm a slut."

"Huh. That's what slutty girls always say to me."

"OMG you jerk"

"Awww how cute. You actually thought I was serious."

"[relief] So you don't think I'm a slut?"

"You're not there yet, but we can work on that."

Girls who are more secure in themselves won't focus on the sex, they'll simply focus on getting you to qualify exactly how you view them. Objectify them, control them, tease and frustrate them, whatever game you want to run on them, go for it.

Either way, you should never stop running game just because you've got the bang. Unmanaged women are a destructive force to a man's life.

[Rawmeo]

If there was LMR, I will text within minutes, something like Thanks for tonight, or any small talk thing like that, to prevent regret rape. I eventually dump her though, as LMR frankly pisses me off.

If no LMR, 1 day or 2, depending on the bang quality

[mntrsx]

(09-13-2015 03:44 AM)Rawmeo Wrote:  

If there was LMR, I will text within minutes, something like Thanks for tonight, or any small talk thing like that, to prevent regret rape. I eventually dump her though, as LMR frankly pisses me off.

If no LMR, 1 day or 2, depending on the bang quality

Isn't it better to text "How was your night?" or "Do u miss me?" so her answer will be the evidence

even after several days she can regret and then what?

[redbeard]

(12-03-2011 05:07 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

I don't worry about it. If I have something I want to say or am making plans, I text the girl. If not, sometimes a few days goes by.

I have a sexual satisfaction guarantee with the women I bang, so I never have to worry it. If I've nailed a girl once, she will want to see me again. That way the ball is always in my court. Become a sex god and you'll never have to worry about "day after this" or "don't do that" type of stuff. Just roll with it. And of course, if you don't want to see her again... you don't contact her... all girls understand this form of cut off.

Besides, once she submits and gives her pussy up to you, she's already given up all her power. By then it's up to the lizard to convince to you to stick around.

Tonight I will be bumping old game Tuthmosis game threads. Stay tuned.

[lapalco]

I say no as well. First, because you dont give a fuck cause youre fucking other girls. Second, It really lets you know where you stand with her and sets the tone of the relationship. If she texts you it means she really likes you and she dosent want to feel like a slut.

After she texts you you can show softness, if that's what you want to call it, with a "Hey i was just thinking about you! Youve been making my dick hard all day. Come over now."

[Volklin]

I usually just say something like "had a good time yesterday" and haven't had a bad response. I like to have some sort of proof that it was consensual, too many men have had their lives ruined by false accusations.

[Hypno]

the older I get the more selective I get, meaning I screen for drama, etc. so generally I will want another bite at the apple. other guys hit it and quit it, and they are probably hitting a lot more than me.

so i'll text some thing like I had fun last night, let me know you got home OK. Its anti rape and reframes the encounter.

If I am particularly eager, I tell them I'm picking up a gift and for them to come back on a specific future date. I let them think the gift if for them, but its for me - lingerie. $15 spent on some victoria secret stockings can turn a run of the mill encounter into a quite memorable one. it does a couple of things at one. first, it validates the experience for the woman, she feels wanted and feminine. second, you follow up but at the same time you make clear you are keeping her at a distance - she has a firm invite, but its several days away. its inherently contradictory, which is like lizard crack. finally, a day before I tell her to wear her tallest black high heels for me so that she coordinates with my gift. it gets them into a compliance frame and a sexualization frame. finally, it communicates dominance - I'm doing this because this is what I expect you to wear when you visit me, and when we are together you are going to be half naked or full naked.

you also go to the top of a very short list of guys who ever bought her lingerie.

[griffinmill]

I see a lot of guys on here thinking that the next-day text is anti-rape (a lot of my friends think the same thing). While it won't ever hurt to send a next-day text and can calm the post-bang hamster brain, don't ever forget that there's "no such thing as a perfect victim" and the world still weeps for Mattress Girl even though it was well documented that she maintained a steady stream of communication with her "rapist" for weeks after the encounter.

[Hypno]

(02-01-2017 01:22 PM)griffinmill Wrote:  

I see a lot of guys on here thinking that the next-day text is anti-rape (a lot of my friends think the same thing). While it won't ever hurt to send a next-day text and can calm the post-bang hamster brain, don't ever forget that there's "no such thing as a perfect victim" and the world still weeps for Mattress Girl even though it was well documented that she maintained a steady stream of communication with her "rapist" for weeks after the encounter.

that is true that it is not bulletproof. but there are a lot of women with hurt feelings or just plain regrets who bring those cases and these can be prevented with a little better communication and consistent framing. Also, mattress girl might have been beleived by more if it weren't for those texts.

[Cage]

Why worry, all the girls you guys get are pig ugly anyway like your hero Roosh , that's why he wears that humongous beard to cover his ugly mug , HA HA HA !