[luigi]

(03-25-2019 04:46 AM)JackinMelbourne Wrote:  

(03-21-2019 06:20 AM)luigi Wrote:  

After my thread about how im tired of dates and ONS, i want to go deeper.

You can't get to the deeper water without wading through the shallow water.

(03-21-2019 06:20 AM)luigi Wrote:  

its very very physical and they are not always very LTR oriented until the clock ticks.

No problem, just wait till they mature or go for older chicks.

(03-21-2019 06:20 AM)luigi Wrote:  

i could travel abroad for a couple months and try my luck there, the problem is that you have to find a woman willing to leave everything behind and go to your country.

You haven't even tried, already defeated. Chicks love travelling and escaping from where they are then making their friends jealous back home.

(03-21-2019 06:20 AM)luigi Wrote:  

After meeting every single day for a month and having great times, she turned out to be into violent and sadistic sex (very different from rough sex), everything was going great and unexpectedly she dumped me from one day to another, mostly because i wasnt into leaving her with bruises on every normal everyday sex session.

Pussy.

Also, under no circumstance should you see a chick every single day. That's a recipe for getting bored real quick, for you and for her.

(03-21-2019 06:20 AM)luigi Wrote:  

Before coming back to dating i promised myself i was trying for the last time and then i would give up completely from relationships. I thought maybe my way of life could be "mini loves" or FWB all along my life, but to be honest im pissed that i cannot find a keeper.

Who are you pissed off at and why? Yourself, women or both?

By deeper i mean further explaining my situation.

Not defeated, looking forward to it, i was already checking airbnbs yesterday, its just that it wont be easy.

Pussy? In my country theres a special violence of gender phone number, woman calls and even before having proof of what happened, the minimum for the guy will be to spend the night in the police station. Now think of a woman who always has some bruise, it would just take her one bad day to call the police and destroy my life.

Pissed with the situation.

[Elmore]

(03-21-2019 07:06 AM)luigi Wrote:  

(03-21-2019 06:58 AM)tomzestatlu Wrote:  

So you have passive income, don't have to work? Wheres the problem? It's hard to find LTR material, but you are in the best position you can be. Girls are too focus on looks? There are guys who work 12 hours a day and then go to gym. If you don't have to work, there's not excuse for not be the best shape guy in 100 miles radius. There are guys, who can't go find a girl abroad, because they have only 20 days of vacation per year.

Im not saying that finding quality girl is easy and everybody aware of todays girl is struggling with this and it takes time, it might take up to years. Just get out of party island.

Ive been working out for more than a decade, also have done steroids a few times.

Spanish men try so hard to be liked by women, they focus so much on looks to the point that they look almost femenine, the way they dress, the hairstyles, they do their eyebrows... Slav girls laugh at them, but its what spanish girls want these days. I dont follow that game, i like keeping a masculine look.

True. Spain is a feminine culture full stop, in my experience. The good side of this is that there is good family structures, men generally are good fathers, nurturing, often playing with their kids and taking active roles. Bad side is that men are often beta and supplicating to women, and women tend not to react well to men being genuinely masculine or socially dominant. It's difficult if you're an outsider navigating this.

The spanish have such large social orbits compared to Northern Euros, thus any girl with any quality will always have some thirsty men from her sphere trying to get into them, and also a few of their friends lining up other suitors for them. I always found i had a far higher flake rate in spain from girls i'd meet in bars, have great interactions with. Far higher than other less socially outgoing countries, where having what seemed like a great interaction with a connection with someone on a night out is rarer, and would nearly always lead to a day two.

Beautiful country, healthy society by and large, but a tough gig for sure.

[Solitaire]

(03-21-2019 01:51 PM)jselysianeagle Wrote:  

But anyway, more to the point of this thread - you should consider yourself very lucky to be in Europe. Within just 2-3 hours of flying (and cheap flights, too) you have so many amazing cities, filled with beautiful women of every type. Big cities, small cities, cities with nature, cities with great nightlife etc. And based on what you said, you seem to have the flexibility to travel often, or potentially even more. This also means that if you go somewhere and meet a nice girl, she can come to visit you easily. It's not like meeting someone halfway around the world and trying to maintain a connection.

Stop to think about that for a moment, and realize how lucky you are. There are guys I know who are chained to their desk jobs who barely get 2-3 weeks off a year to travel and chase exotic tail, and you get to do it so much more easily.

Honestly, you come across as incredibly defeatist and pessimistic. If you can't connect with women in your city, ok, fine - move! There are so many options in Europe. Life is too short to spend it being miserable, especially when you already have the ability to do something about it.

I'd give anything to go back in time and be the guy living on Mallorca, with seasonal imports of thots galore and easy access to Eastern European destinations. Fuckin' lucky isn't the half of it. Some of the responses are on point here: dude's gonna take his self-defeating attitude with him wherever he goes. Gotta work on yourself and be content within your own life - let the decent girl be a happy addition to an already well-rounded existence.

[Kaligula]

Living with the Spanish (even if outside Spain) for a year, I can see your point. This lifestyle can be tiring in a way, and this is still very conformist culture. And you may not meet right people there, as tourist who come, are also attracted by this lifestyle.

If I were you, I would apply for a position of Spanish langauge lector at some Polish university, or Instituto Cervantes, or something like that. Or just make some international exchange/cooperation offer, wherever you want to go. Such a job position is also a clean deal, since everyone expects that you will go back in a year or two.

Additionally, if you decide to learn Polish (or Russian, or Czech) for some reason, you will get much wider choice of girls, I mean, also out of those not really interested in Spain. I remember a Spanish guy who decided to learn Polish for his love of Kieslowski's films, and he really could choose, and was a kind of sensation among Polish girls. I met him at the student trip to Ukraine, 'Following the footsteps of Polish poets in Ukraine' (for Polish literature students, but they took a couple from other faculties too, like me and this guy) . He was one of two foreigners in the bus (the other one was a Swiss girl), and he did speak quite a good Polish (the Swiss too). Obviously they did not take part in recitations of Mickiewicz poems, but they were fun nonetheless.

He was trying to recruit someone who would help him to learn writing in Polish.... Obviously he had many offers

[Sp5]

Agree with Kaligula, Elmore, and others above: Spain is a very tough country for gaming the local women.

When I lived there for a year, never had any luck with a Spanish woman, only among Russians (not so much luck - gold-diggers) and Brazilians. The Spanish women are in tight social circles and their life is arranged and defined by those circles. Conformist culture, so no appetite for adventure with a foreign guy, even if you can speak Spanish.

Since you like Polish type women, have you considered looking in those parts of Latin America where there is a population of blonde types? Parts of Argentina, Brazil, Chile? This would avoid the language issues.