Quote: (12-27-2018 05:15 PM)Headbang Wrote:
Ok, well I knew it was a longshot, but I get out 2 or 3 times a month, and am busy doing stuff I have to do, and people here are retarded about this stuff (also)
- I am already a PUA type btw. its just the last REAL chick I had a chance at, (that I was interested in) I FUCKING BLEW IT!!
Just get out and do it.- I already Was i ALREADY FUCKED UP ALL MY APPROCHES.
I have to be ON, I have to have it" down. More or less I just end up being the clown, rather than CLOSING. But these are not random chicks these are chicks that show IOI. Thats what I thought game was, they have to show interest first, you can talk to them ( I do) bla bla bla
thats why yea, skype with practice would help ME, it might not help the other guy skyping.
Dudes, you guys would die if you saw the IOI's. Where are they? Didnt get em. Its not as easy as you say, and I do talk to everyone but mainly chicks. Then I get the fucking stares, and don't do anything, WTF>>>??
So, I may get into the arena ONCE A MONTH. So I need this shit DOWN! ALL OF IT. There is not going to be 100 approaches. I have X amount of hours, if I do get some interest, I NEED TO CLOSE! not fuck up the next 10 chicks, (one years worth)... etc...
So whatever, Im not going to close like this unless I have it down, as Roosh himself says. You have to have at least a basic outline.
Anyway, Im getting the new book+ audio. I just want easy, its not easy.
Headbang: the approaches should be integrated into daily life and if you are unwilling to do that, you need to go out several nights a week minimum.
What is the problem with doing approaches? I would answer probably one of two things: a. approach anxiety, likely severe, or, b. you've badly blown out all the approaches so you don't feel like approaching any more. Or some combination of both. I am telling you are going to have to do 100 approaches, and then when you hit that go way beyond into 200, 300, 500 territory. It is hard to peg the success of cold approaches out of 100, but it may only yield one date, or a few phone numbers. There's so much at play here.
I'm here to tell you, I also fucked up most my approaches. Completely new to game about four or so years ago, I stammered my way through every women i introduced myself to. The problem wasn't fixed immediately. It left such a bad taste in my mouth i stepped away from pickup completely for several years. I knew eventually i'd be back to pickup because it was one of the only ways to get over my fear. I swallowed the bitter red pill of advise that came from some of my friends who are off line players-- the women won't come to you and you'll have to do cold approaching. They weren't talking about 5 a week, they're talking minimum 20, 25. That was tough, but I got back into the game realizing that their advise was for the best. I was actually more scared this time because of my previous blowouts. Honestly, after I hit one hundred, probably around a month's time into it, I had no problem talking to random women anymore.
Educate yourself on IOI. In fact, have a wing with you. He may pick up on an IOI that you won't, happened with me. Once he helps you with this, you'll get sharper and you be able to pre-select your sets based on these indicators. They're a hell of a alot easier.
You need to get fluent in the language of pickup. That's not theorizing, that's not making up excuses for not approaching. That's fucking flying by the seat of your pants, improvising, and opening all sets. Even i'm not there yet, but I am noticeably smoother with sets I open now.
We may need to unpack other tangible factors that have an effect on your game: hygiene, dress, height, etc.
We also need to know more about why your sets are failing.
I am open to help, but it's real clear you need a second pair of eyes, and need to be opening more sets.