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Mixed feelings after one night stand
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Mixed feelings after one night stand

I had what I thought was a great one night stand yesterday night: petite, hard 8, 18 year old student with a great ass. She had that it factor.

The sex was really good and unusually intimate, and I went a full hour non stop, yet when I got done I felt a a numbness and a combination of nervous trembling I never felt before... I woke up really early this morning and I couldn’t sleep very well...

I don’t know any other way to describe it other than I feel like a junkie.. I feel jittery and restless, and overall like shit, yet at the same time a mixture of shame and pride. Shame because I feel like an addict, and pride because of the amazing girl I just conquered.

I feel happy but like shit at the same time, and can’t wait to bang another girl like her, but wonder how healthy this is. This girl was unusually good in bed and I think it got me deeper in the hole.
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Mixed feelings after one night stand

Hopefully it's not it... but you might have Oneitis coming your way if feeling like this!
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Mixed feelings after one night stand

That can happen to a man after sex? I though oneitis happened only before you’ve banged a girl.

Anyway, I’ve never had it before, but yeah this girl was something else, the chemistry was just there. She’s probably not interested in anything more; I got her number though so let’s see what happens; I really gave it to her hard and for a long time, so perhaps that becomes a factor. I did read that no matter how well you fuck a girl she can still stab you in the back, so who knows if the latter really matters as much as we would want it to

I don’t think I can convince her to stop being a slut though hahaha.. poor girl probably had a rough childhood. One night stands are never a good start, but I’m sure I can get at least one more fuck.

I didn’t see her as less after sex though, if anything I had that protective instinct going on because of her being so young and small. Maybe that’s it, I subconsciously want to take care of her and save her lol...
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#4

Mixed feelings after one night stand

Perhaps you feel the need of needing a girl. Hoping that sex will fulfill you as a person. Men do this often.
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#5

Mixed feelings after one night stand

Do something else after every lay:

1) Go to the gym
2) Ride your bike
3) Have beers with friends
4) Go hiking
5) Board a plane and go somewhere
6) Study
7) Walk around the lake with a coffee

The more you have to think about this, the more likely it is that you will warp it in your mind.

Accept you got your lay, notice the feelings briefly, and then get busy doing something else.

Ruminating often puts things in your head that otherwise wouldn't be there.

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Mixed feelings after one night stand

If you like her, keep her around.

Just don't sit around thinking about it. She'll call when she calls, she'll text when she texts.

If she is into you, it will feel seamless.

"hey, going out for sushi 2nite, lets grab drinky drinks"
"Sure what time??"

If she's not, it will be annoying.

"hey, going out for sushi 2nite, lets grab drinky drinks"
"I would love to, but i have to [do my hair] [take the dog to the vet] [wash clothes] [meet my friends] [hang out with my mom]"

You can gauge their interest level by how easy it is to setup dates. If she's unavailable all the time, she's not that interested and banging other people. If she drops whatever she's doing to hang with you, she's down for whatever.

Shit, when you're on point, you can also tell them to come to your place with groceries, toilet paper, liquor, cleaning supplies, etc. And they'll do it.

If this girl is cool, keep her around.
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#7

Mixed feelings after one night stand

I honestly believe it's because you weren't truly okay with what you've done. I had this too.

Is this girl willing to meet up with you again?
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#8

Mixed feelings after one night stand

I've had a few moments of guilt after fucking girls that I knew wanted more and were looking for a boyfriend and I fucked them knowing that's all it was going to be. Some of them were kinda disparate to try to keep.me around. I did keep the really hot ones around to fuck again or several times. The ones that bother me the most though is the ones I really want to keep around and they are gone before I tie my rubber off. I think you like this girl and would like to start something real with her. Send her some flowers or do something nice for her. May not be long term but at least would get more pussy out of it.
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Mixed feelings after one night stand

Sex is for enjoyment and pleasure. I don't believe it's a sport, although it sounds like it tends to have such a role on this forum, when presenting notches similar to media reports of a soccer player scoring goals for Man. Utd or AC Milan. If you feel bad after sex, you would assume something ain't quite right. Right? Maybe it's something only internal to you. A reason could be that you were drunk. Maybe it's something you felt about her. Maybe it's something that happened between both of you. You were there and that's why only you can figure out what it is.
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Mixed feelings after one night stand

It was unusual for a one night stand; I actually felt a connection with this girl.

But she had a couple of tattoos, smokes, and she’s 18 yet banged just below pornstar level, although very intimately ... She’s stunning but probably comes from a broken home. Very nice girl though, very young looking, innocent eyes...Don’t even want to think what her notch count is.

Could see her again but it’s risky.. In a FWB arrangement it would end really badly.

The feelings come and go, sometimes feel cold and like I could just move on, then I get the feeling in my chest.

I might be in deep shit, but it’s good, that’s how we learn about ourselves.
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Mixed feelings after one night stand

Quote: (10-07-2018 11:21 AM)Flux Wrote:  

It was unusual for a one night stand; I actually felt a connection with this girl.

But she had a couple of tattoos, smokes, and she’s 18 yet banged just below pornstar level, although very intimately ... She’s stunning but probably comes from a broken home. Very nice girl though, very young looking, innocent eyes...Don’t even want to think what her notch count is.

Could see her again but it’s risky.. In a FWB arrangement it would end really badly.

The feelings come and go, sometimes feel cold and like I could just move on, then I get the feeling in my chest.

I might be in deep shit, but it’s good, that’s how we learn about ourselves.

Standard game advice is missing here.

She's a plate - a totally unproven plate - treat her as one.
Date Other Women. compare and contrast the girls you are dating, not least for how they make you feel. (that can prove counter intuitive).

If you are struggling for frame - work hard to get 4 other new and quality women to date in your life as an antidote.

Crucially, in my view, if she starts to mean alot to you, you think about when/ how she is going to contact you.. DO NOT reinvent the wheel, try for a Hail Mary pass etc.

Stick to tried and tested game that has worked for you in the past.
Approach it as if she was an average 6/7 you weren't that concerned about and play the tried and tested manoeuvres/ spaces between contact/ messages that you know you do well.

Do not let your hamster rationalise you into getting ahead of yourself.
Her feeling that you are cooler and calmer than her is all important.

Save the emotions/ experimentation/ grand gestures for the ones you don't care as much about.

And yes, the ancients said that too much focus on sex makes us fearful and weak, dissatisfied.

so get busy with the other parts of your life. I'm sure you know that part though.
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Mixed feelings after one night stand

Man I've had this happen so many times. It will happen again in the future. Keep gaming the girl if you like her. If she rejects you, next!
It's been times where things got really intense, and the after bang text sounded like we went out for coffee.
Don't let stuff like that get to you, just move on.
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#13

Mixed feelings after one night stand

Quick update, I got this other girl last night, and it made forget completely about the OP one. She wasn’t as hot, but it made me realize just how much pussy is out there to get, and how much experiences I would miss by being with only one girl.

Emotions are a funny thing, the first three days of the week I felt like I was gonna die if I didn’t see this girl again, and now while I would certainly not mind seeing her again, am completely over it.

It seems I’m a natural born promiscuous guy after all—thank you God for letting me be born in this particular time, and let it change by the time I settle down. Amen.
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#14

Mixed feelings after one night stand

Are you sure you're not gay?
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Mixed feelings after one night stand

Bang her again and see if it happens again. You might as well get to the bottom of it, and shes hot so enjoy

“Where the danger is, so grows the saving element.” ~ German poet Hoelderlin
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