[atlant]

Simeon_Strangelight Wrote:

First of all - OP is very likely no German, but has been invited by Merkel. 
Second - since getting laid in MENA countries is tough, then go and get your rocks off at a German brothel for 50$. 
Third - I hear the female refugee aid workers are very willing to help out a sexually frustrated man. You have to accept older less attractive women, but at least they are free and they will show a younger man the ropes. 

For an actual 31yo German man being difficult to get laid in Germany? No. Germans study often until their end 20s or even early 30s. Does not mean jack shit. It's not tough for a German man to get some kind of girl.

Stop bringing this shit into every thread you fucking autist. From the looks of it the one who really needs to go out and get laid is you. Maybe you and OP should do a trip together. Enjoy.

[BallsDeep]

Germans are typically fluent in English but your written English is awful. Something doesn't add up.

Are you an African migrant? That could explain why you were "busy with stuff" the last 15 years.

[BaatumMania]

I heard Germany has these German-language brothels that are $50 to enter and it's unlimited all you can fuck (the majority of these women are from the FSU).

That's compared to Americans (pre-Craigslist ban) who were paying $200 to some Craigslist whore.

Or in my case where the Republic of Georgia only has Thai Hookers.

Honestly if I was German I would be 90% P2P and 10% Tindering / Cruising Beer Halls to smash some tourists.

[MongolianAbroad]

(08-25-2018 12:35 AM)atlant Wrote:  

Simeon_Strangelight Wrote:

First of all - OP is very likely no German, but has been invited by Merkel. 
Second - since getting laid in MENA countries is tough, then go and get your rocks off at a German brothel for 50$. 
Third - I hear the female refugee aid workers are very willing to help out a sexually frustrated man. You have to accept older less attractive women, but at least they are free and they will show a younger man the ropes. 

For an actual 31yo German man being difficult to get laid in Germany? No. Germans study often until their end 20s or even early 30s. Does not mean jack shit. It's not tough for a German man to get some kind of girl.

Stop bringing this shit into every thread you fucking autist. From the looks of it the one who really needs to go out and get laid is you. Maybe you and OP should do a trip together. Enjoy.

Hadn't even thought of that, but you're right, Atlant, this thread has absolutely nothing to do with refugees.

Troll detected and squashed.

Nice work.

[Crash_Bandicoot]

I honestly don't get why everyone on this thread is suggesting OP go to a whole other country just to get laid.

What is that going to do for him? He's going to book a flight, travel to a country where there's easy girls, get a few bangs, and then land back in his home country and have no idea how to game his own local women.

He'll essentially be back at square one.

OP - you need to learn to get laid in your own country. Learn the system. That's why you're still a virgin.

[MongolianAbroad]

(08-25-2018 01:38 AM)Crash_Bandicoot Wrote:  

I honestly don't get why everyone on this thread is suggesting OP go to a whole other country just to get laid.

What is that going to do for him? He's going to book a flight, travel to a country where there's easy girls, get a few bangs, and then land back in his home country and have no idea how to game his own local women.

He'll essentially be back at square one.

OP - you need to learn to get laid in your own country. Learn the system. That's why you're still a virgin.

I'm with yankeetravels on this one, there does come a point at which you've got to try something new. If you're a virgin in your 30's, it's time to throw in the towel and try a new country.

I'm just suggesting giving the Phils a well-deserved break from the world's sexually awkward, that's all.

You're right though, when he comes back, he'll most likely be back to square one.

[Crash_Bandicoot]

(08-25-2018 01:53 AM)Spaniard88 Wrote:  

(08-25-2018 01:38 AM)Crash_Bandicoot Wrote:  

I honestly don't get why everyone on this thread is suggesting OP go to a whole other country just to get laid.

What is that going to do for him? He's going to book a flight, travel to a country where there's easy girls, get a few bangs, and then land back in his home country and have no idea how to game his own local women.

He'll essentially be back at square one.

OP - you need to learn to get laid in your own country. Learn the system. That's why you're still a virgin.

I'm with yankeetravels on this one, there does come a point at which you've got to try something new. If you're a virgin in your 30's, it's time to throw in the towel and try a new country.

I'm just suggesting giving the Phils a well-deserved break from the world's sexually awkward, that's all.

You're right though, when he comes back, he'll most likely be back to square one.

I just got the impression/assumption that based on his post and what he's been typing, that he just isn't making the effort. I ultimately want him to learn game in his own country

OP - after all of our advice, what are your thoughts? What are you going to do?

[Simeon_Strangelight]

(08-25-2018 01:31 AM)Spaniard88 Wrote:  

(08-25-2018 12:35 AM)atlant Wrote:  

Simeon_Strangelight Wrote:

First of all - OP is very likely no German, but has been invited by Merkel. 
Second - since getting laid in MENA countries is tough, then go and get your rocks off at a German brothel for 50$. 
Third - I hear the female refugee aid workers are very willing to help out a sexually frustrated man. You have to accept older less attractive women, but at least they are free and they will show a younger man the ropes. 

For an actual 31yo German man being difficult to get laid in Germany? No. Germans study often until their end 20s or even early 30s. Does not mean jack shit. It's not tough for a German man to get some kind of girl.

Stop bringing this shit into every thread you fucking autist. From the looks of it the one who really needs to go out and get laid is you. Maybe you and OP should do a trip together. Enjoy.

Hadn't even thought of that, but you're right, Atlant, this thread has absolutely nothing to do with refugees.

Troll detected and squashed.

Nice work.

Trolling right. Maybe it should be clarified why a German man with very broken atypical German English is a virgin at 31?

The advice given for a man depends heavily on what the guy brings to the table. It's not all that difficult to get laid in Germany since there are a legion of 30+ year old women who don't make it difficult for a local. Also the number of brothels is staggering.

Standard-cookie cutter posts streamlined for the average Western bloke who forgot to get laid until age 31 while living in Germany won't cut it and OP's statement don't make sense except when it's exactly as I said it is. Incel Germans have way better English than that.

No one knows anything about the guy except that it does not make sense for him to be a German, but guys tell him to travel to the Philippines as if he is had been trying to get laid for the last 15 years, but just could not make it. Even with Western cases there is more going on with late-stage virgins. Greenman for example just had a problem getting laid, he was not a virgin. His market value mostly looks/height derived were just too low for the West (5"1, balding, overweight at 30). Traveling to a country with shorter women where his SMV would be much higher made sense for him. Other men need rather internal change, therapy and sometimes even P4P is fine enough to cross that line.

You are also forgetting that I know that sexual market in Germanic countries well - and the people who populate the place.

[nhpts]

Sorry for that English but I'm just writing from my phone
And I'm pure German no immigrant

[semibaron]

(08-24-2018 12:17 PM)nhpts Wrote:  

Which country is the best target for a male. Virgin to make notches and experiences?

As many said before, Philippines is the easiest spot.

But maybe you are just not attracted to German girls and need a change. I would try out Russia and Japan. You will most likely not get laid, but maybe become motivated to improve yourself.

However, my real advice is this: Buy some sativa weed and bang a top notch escort in Germany. Proceed from here.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

< So what held you up from losing your V-card for so long?

Even using a brothel is better than getting massive psychological hangups.

Your SMV will be much higher in SEA for sure, but there is probably more going on in such cases. Because even there you need to go on dates if you don't go the P4P routes.

https://therationalmale.com/2011/12/23/l...m-virgins/

This article as well as Rollo's sites and books might help you if it's true what you say.

You have to tell more about yourself or otherwise it's irrelevant what anyone says or tells you - you end up on the same level. Getting a horny German Milf is hardly more difficult then some SEA young girl for free.

[Lino]

Man, you are in Germany not in Saudi Arabia.

If you are not physically disabled or had big traumatisms in your childhood then you have no excuse for being virgin except laziness.

I know there are western men who are virgin at 30 but that’s because most of them are weirdos, sociopaths or have a disease which fucked up their life. Basically something is wrong with them.

Travelling to fuck isn’t gonna solve your problem and is pure laziness, you need to address your issues and work on them.

Ask yourself this simple question: « why would a woman have sex with me? What is attractive in me? »

You need to have some assets, something that women consider attractive. It can be charisma, looks, being in a great shape, wealth, being very passionate about something and having the ability to communicate this passion when you talk about it, being intellectual and being able to discuss brilliantly various topics....YOU NEED TO HAVE SOMETHING GOING FOR YOU.

Women won’t fuck a man for charity, many virgins don’t understand this and do absolutely nothing to improve themselves, OP you haven’t said much about yourself but you just seem to be lazy.

Saying « Germany is difficult for women and I had other stuff to do » isn’t an excuse for being a virgin at 31 (I worked in Germany and most of my colleagues were germans).
Just do a honest audit of your assets, identify what is wrong with yourself and work to solve it, many men here will happily help you if you are humble and wanna get better.

My two cents.

Edit: OP’s english doesn’t allow to say whether he is a native german or not, I know many germans who have a poor english, even many white collars. As you can tell from my writings I am myself limited but I was often speaking way better than my colleagues.

[nhpts]

In my. Childhood I hat some problematic. Times so I'm diagnosed with some. Personality disorders.
Maybe that's the reason. It's just after my. Childhood I lost. The. Contact. To girls and. I was. Busy with fixing issues in my life.
So I never got into the game.
I'm 6"4 tall and mostly ca. 95 kg.
Right now I'm overweight on meds But that's not the matter. Most. Girls. Tell or told me I'm cute. And handsome so that's not the point. Another thing is I haven't the biggest dick it's just cs. 14.cm. I'm thinking if it. Could be a matter.
And in the way I have no female. Friends, I don't know how I can start to build a game here in Germany.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

< In that case it's all based on your psychological and emotional issues.

I would recommend you read up on Rational Male. Also check out Roosh's books like Bang and Day Bang which give you an idea what the basics of attraction are.

If you meet a Red Pill guy with Game, then he can give you more pointers as he observes your behavior. I could even point you to Game coaches in Poland that can give you more experience within 2 days than what you will learn in 6-12 months on your own. And the cost basis is bearable there.

It's also possible that you have created a kind of blockage in your mind regarding sexual contact. Is there a reason why you haven't simply gone into a brothel just to get the thing going? In the past this was how most men lost their V-card since the world was divided by wives and hookers in Europe. I would not recommend it to an 18-22yo, but you need a starter-cable here.

Afterwards you will be more relaxed when going on online dates with Milfs - it's relative easy to get some aged 31 and not being obese. Also your online dating profile should all have 6"4 height in your bio - check out online game for some pointers here. After you have bedded some Milfs, then you can always go later for hotter tighter and find yourself a cute girlfriend.

Even when you have other issues like autism - that's not a deal-breaker. There are a few manosphere guys who are on spectrum, but have overcome it.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

In addition OP - I speak German and you can PM me if you feel more comfortable that way or have trouble communicating well in English.

[lookslikeit]

(08-24-2018 12:59 PM)scotian Wrote:  

How busy with other things can you be that you lived through the horniest time of your life, 15-30 and didn’t ever have sex?

Must have been very busy. I hope he discovered a new particle element or a cancer treatment in the process to make it worth the while.

[Not a Second Hander]

OP I'm more worried that life might be passing you by. First things first though

1. 6'4, 95 kg is not overweight. Worst case scenario an average physique with a bit of chub.

2. Going to the Phillipines will not help you. Whether you go to Thailand or Mars your mind and self-defeating beliefs will follow you everywhere.

3. Germany isn't a particularly hard place to get laid in. I could understand Miami or Dubai.

Questions

1. What exactly were you doing in your 20s? Could u give us a quick rundown of your life? Like 18-21 went to Uni etc ...

2. What do you do? How's your financial situation? Is it something that requires you to stay in Germany. Any in demand skills?

2. Do you have close male friends and a close relationship with family?

3. You seem to have no energy or fire based on your writing. Prototypical of Scandinavian/Germanic social democratic systems. What would u say is your most burning desire?

4. How many women have you approached in the past 2 years. I'm getting the feeling that you're not even trying.

5. Don't you drink or party? Most German.guys are shy but do randomly stumble upon pussy when they get drunk enough.

[nhpts]

1.

After high-school (different Here in germany) I started few educations but didn't finished it. One I did finish.
But after that I had big family problems and went in own apartment drawing unemployment benefits.


2. At moment I don't work because I'm on an pension right now because of my psychological conditions.
In the last years I have been drawing that pension, but of course in my age it's not a big amount. But I can live with that.
In beginning 2017 my house got abandoned so I needed to leave and I live in a shelter at the moment. It's miserable. I just have 25 Euro per week pocket money and can't Event think of approaching or anything. The house situation in My city and in Germany is more than miserable.
I don't need to stay in Germany, but I'm not sure if the German office will pay in foreign countries.

3.I have not many friends just like ca. 5 I'm texting. Calling or meting sometimes, they mostly live in other places. I don't like the society here in my city so I don't have much to do with it.i also have girls out dateinasia I'm chatting or videocalling with

I have some family members I'm good with and meet at times, but they too live in other places. With many people of my family I have no contact. I'm not good with my parents.

4. I didn't approached a single one, I met a few, as I was in a hospital and spent time together for a few weeks but they were too young and not dtf.
At the moment I can't bring something good of myself to a woman. So that's why I don't even start to approach.

5.no I usually don't like to go out alone, and I don't really, need it for my life, while sometimes it's OK.
I rarely drink alcohol.

[Not a Second Hander]

Thanks for the honesty. I don't even know where to start.

You have no job, have a disposable income of 25 Euros per week, barely any friends and did not approach a single girl in 2 years. So Germany isn't the problem. I know mental problems prevent people from even achieving the most basic of tasks so I don't fully blame you it's tough.

Here's my recommendation.

Go to Australia and do some farm or ranch work for a year. I believe they offer one year work visas to citizens of certain Euro countries. Nothing puts a block to depression like a hard day of manual labor. It will also be a different environment for you. Novel enough to induce growth but a life simple enough where you won't comparing yourself to other people. Perfect way to unclutter your mind.

There will be several backpacker chicks passing through many from your home country. Maybe you'll get lucky with one of them. Maybe you won't. But the key is that you build momentum through right action and discipline while getting out of your current environment.

[TravellerYOLO]

Have you ever tried online game?

[Celestial]

(08-24-2018 01:10 PM)nhpts Wrote:  

Yes i was thinking of Philippines or SEA too.
I checked dateinasia already but the quality there is quite. Not so. Good. Very rare hot looking or sexy /interest girls many very simple. Plain boring girls.
Is. That the true in the phils or is it just there?
I thought of Thailand too because it's more developed but I'm afraid of. The language barrier.
Also it seems the interest of the white foreigner got less in the last. Few years coz more and more. Guys. Heading to the phils?

And to. Deal in Germany as a 31 y. o. Male. Is very difficult though.

I don't speak Thai, and neither do the majority of forum members who have visited there and had great success. Most girls there speak very basic English, stick to simple phrases and you'll be fine.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

I agree - you are a special case. Getting laid is not the issue here.

You have to get your life back on track, get a job, get out of the state you are in.

You cannot even travel or fly around - that is illusory.

Anything you do is better, if you just do it - work out, look for work, get on your feet. Then later worry about getting women - going out and banging a 36yo Milf shouldn't be hard in Germany.

Your issues are far more pressing than the V-card.

[Hephaestus]

I have been in a similar situation.

There were periods of my life where I was socially isolated, and there were periods of my life I was homeless.
In your home country, it is hard to find work if you are unemployed as bosses think there is a negative you are hiding. I was also depressed but I gradually got better when I changed my lifestyle and environment.

I'm seconding the idea of doing fruitpicking in Australia.
Although the pay is terrible as they pay by the bucket and not the hour, it's work outside and you'll get to meet young people from around the world.

You will have to apply quick though, as the cutoff is 31. Here is the website.

It is a great place to make friends as you have a common purpose and background. You won't be the only person coming here to change the trajectory of your life. The language barrier and cultural distance will hide a significant amount of weirdness you might worry about, (I am fine now but I was super weird when I was younger). As for girls, well, backpackers are more adventurous than usual and they are far from anyone who might judge them. I accidentally ended up in bed with a cute Japanese girl (I also managed to somehow misread the situation and messed up, but that's another embrassing story for another time).

You'll have to move around to different places due to the seasonal nature of the work and the terms of your visa, but this will be good for someone who thinks their life is in an unchangable rutt. Do you have a German drivers license? If not "no worries", but it'll be a bonus.

As for the virginity thing, I wouldn't obsess about it. Improve your life situation and your social skills and the girls would come. I lost my virginity in my late teens, but during the years of depression, I found finding love hard too, It gets better, trust someone who has been there.

It might be advisable to just visit a brothel and get it over and done with, it'll be one less thing to worry about.
As for finding a girlfriend, I can probably help introduce you to some people, but it'll be better if you do fruitpicking first to lift you out of your depression.

As for social skills, they can be learnt. Due to illness, I had no friends until I was 14, so I had to start from the absolute beginning Don't worry if you feel like you are not being yourself. "Acting" normal will get you friends, which will help you "become" more normal. I know you aren't aspie, but googling "aspergers" and "social skills"/"Soziale Kompetenz" will get you lots of useful information.

You took a big step being brave enough to share this problem with strangers, so I think you are more than brave enough to change your life for the better. Remember, you are ONLY 31, so it is more than likely you've still got many happy decades ahead of you.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

I'll just let you guys know that I am in contact with OP now over PM.

It checks out - he is German. Will try to help him.

[olympustenay]

(08-25-2018 12:39 AM)BallsDeep Wrote:  

Germans are typically fluent in English but your written English is awful. Something doesn't add up.

Are you an African migrant? That could explain why you were "busy with stuff" the last 15 years.

Bro the germans are terrible at english . Maybe you are confusing them with the dutch. (No offense to any germans)