[Pilgrim37]

Can't believe you use the words "elderly gents" for 40's!

40's is/or should be still active if you're single .

If you've achieved something by 40's professionally then you should be confident enough.
But,if you're 40 and basically on the same level of life as a 25 year old girl then you probably won't have much appeal unless she really fancies you for a fling /pounding.

[Riff Dog]

(09-30-2011 12:23 PM)Pilgrim37 Wrote:  

Can't believe you use the words "elderly gents" for 40's!

It was just a joke. I liked the way it sounded. I was going to say "Geritol set," but I didn't think a lot of guys would know what I'm talking about. (And yeah, I'm in my 40's, so I'm entitled to make those jokes. )

[Riff Dog]

(09-30-2011 11:40 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

Why would you care what people think about you in a club? Those places are warzones.

We all care what people think about us. Even in an anonymous place like this, guys rating the girls they bang routinely round up from 6 to 8. Why? It's not like any of us really know each other. But for whatever reason, we care even what strangers think about us.

Don't get me wrong, when picking up girls, you have to take a chance that you'll sometimes look like a fool. Hell, for true success in many aspects of life, you have to take a chance of looking like a fool. (Trust me, as a guy who's worn spandex on stage, I'm no stranger to "Some people might think I look pretty stupid . . . " ) But you still decide for yourself what amount of "possibly look like a fool" risk your willing to take for whatever the reward is.

In the case of dancing to Black Eyed Peas (totally different from the Tango or Salsa) with a girl 20 years younger than I am, it's not just a chance, it's a certainty that a large percentage of the other girls watching are going to be rolling their eyes. Even if they're girls I'll never see again, it would still bug me. Getting shot down on a pickup attempt is one thing. Putting yourself on stage (all eyes will be on you) for mass ridicule is another.

On top of that, when I was in my 20's, I was one of the guys who would laugh at those guys out of their element on the dance floor who, in my eyes, looked so desperate to bang a young chick. So it adds the factor that I'm looking like fool in my own eyes as well.

Again, I'm not saying this won't work. It's just that it costs too many dignity points for me to go that route. Especially when I have other much better options.

[el mechanico]

(09-30-2011 01:24 PM)Riff Dog Wrote:  

(09-30-2011 11:40 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

Why would you care what people think about you in a club? Those places are warzones.

We all care what people think about us. Even in an anonymous place like this, guys rating the girls they bang routinely round up from 6 to 8. Why? It's not like any of us really know each other. But for whatever reason, we care even what strangers think about us.

Don't get me wrong, when picking up girls, you have to take a chance that you'll sometimes look like a fool. Hell, for true success in many aspects of life, you have to take a chance of looking like a fool. (Trust me, as a guy who's worn spandex on stage, I'm no stranger to "Some people might think I look pretty stupid . . . " ) But you still decide for yourself what amount of "possibly look like a fool" risk your willing to take for whatever the reward is.

In the case of dancing to Black Eyed Peas (totally different from the Tango or Salsa) with a girl 20 years younger than I am, it's not just a chance, it's a certainty that a large percentage of the other girls watching are going to be rolling their eyes. Even if they're girls I'll never see again, it would still bug me. Getting shot down on a pickup attempt is one thing. Putting yourself on stage (all eyes will be on you) for mass ridicule is another.

On top of that, when I was in my 20's, I was one of the guys who would laugh at those guys out of their element on the dance floor who, in my eyes, looked so desperate to bang a young chick. So it adds the factor that I'm looking like fool in my own eyes as well.

Again, I'm not saying this won't work. It's just that it costs too many dignity points for me to go that route. Especially when I have other much better options.

Oh. Ok so you worry about what people think about you in a club but write a blog about banging married women from Ashley Madison?
This all makes sense now.
I see you didn't waste much time on your signature.

[MikeCF]

(09-30-2011 01:24 PM)Riff Dog Wrote:  

On top of that, when I was in my 20's, I was one of the guys who would laugh at those guys out of their element on the dance floor who, in my eyes, looked so desperate to bang a young chick. So it adds the factor that I'm looking like fool in my own eyes as well.

Haters gonna hate.

[Tim9000]

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[Samseau]

Quote:

My dream would be a neighborhood or dive bar full of 30 year olds.

Take a trip to NYC

[ManAbout]

(09-30-2011 03:38 PM)Tim9000 Wrote:  

, but I've also had youngsters seek me out online. I wish I knew the statistics of women's attitudes about this.

If a much younger woman is contacting you online then it is 100% fake, scam, a way to get you to sign up for some other paid/webcam site. Genuine young women have hundreds of messages in their inbox. They don't need to be contacting anybody. Young women online have way more attention than they can handle. They won't be messaging you.