I would advise reading through this thread as well.
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It's the same as with other female delusions, like wanting a strong but vulnerable, gentle albeit rough, intellectual but direct man, all in one person. Bullshit.
In my experience, no matter how smart a girl is... NO MATTER, no matter how different she seems to you, she is still a woman, and her pussy will dry up faster than you can say "flake" when you're too intellectual.
Of course, there are some chicks which ARE smarter and, at least in their heads, want to engage in some intellectual discourse. But in the end, she wants the D that night. You can be smart, charming and even gentle, but remember to escalate at a certain point. You are a man, not a beta orbiter.
One of my biggest failures in game was with such a girl, in summertime long ago. I was out in a club with 2 wingmen, there were these 3 chicks. Perfect. We opened them up, started dancing, light kino, drinking etc.
I wasn't the most experienced guy of the three of us, but I bravely attacked the prettiest of the three girls, 4-5 years older than me. She was definitely one of top 5 girls I ever saw in person. She dry humped me with her ass, looked at me over her shoulder provocatively, everything was perfect. Instead of kissing her right there (I was a too polite pussy), I told her we should go out to catch some air.
However, I was so infatuated, I felt that she is different (despite her humping my cock with her ass 5 minutes after I met her, I know, I know) and all that bullshit that I didn't press for a kiss in the alley next to the club, but began talking. She began spitting out delusional anti-slut defense like "I never kiss on the first date", "I'm so glad you're not like the other guys who always try to kiss me right away", blah blah blah, but she quickly grew bored of her own bullshit and said that we should go back.
We started dancing again, but she seemed less interested now. How strange.
After some time, the 6 of us went to the nearby beach. While my Wingman1 kissed his girl on a bench, and Wingman2 rode away on his motorbike with his girl to seal the deal at his apartment, this mad chick and yours truly exhibited a Titanic-style romantic scene I still cringe when I think of. 3 AM, beach, we took our shoes off and walked into the sea to about knee-depth. She put her hands around my neck, and I put my hands on her hips, but instead of kissing, she again started telling me how great a guy I am, unlike those other jerks, and then she buried her face in my shoulder and just stood there hugging me for eternity.
I just stood there like the idiot I was, I didn't have the guts to just lift her face up and kiss her. However, I already began creeping and reading this Forum at that time, so I remembered the lessons about no kissing before you get to the place where you can fuck. "That's it", I thought to myself. "She obviously likes me and I don't look like a pussy for not kissing her already."
Finally, I gathered enough bravery to call her over to my place, as I had "some nice wine".
*SLUT SHIELDS UP*
"No, no, I'm not like that..." - "Baby, I know you're not. We'll just have a glass of wine, and then we can talk and cuddle. I know you're not like the other girls and I really want to get to know you." - "You're so sweet. Ok, let's go."
And then, the grand finale. We drank a glass of wine, smoked a ciggie at the balcony, and then she told me she is tired. Instead of recognizing it as her will to get some action, I believed she is genuinely tired, so I took her to bed BUT I didn't do anything, I just stroked her hair and said something cringy like "get some rest, princess, we can talk in the morning".
Of course, after half an hour, when she saw that this idiot won't even try to kiss her, she stood up and said she needed to go to her place, to check up on girls etc.
She went away.
The next day was my last at the seaside. I didn't get her number, but I contacted my Wingman1's girl, and asked her to give me the number of my girl. After radio silence for most of the day, she just made up some bullshit excuse. I attacked immediately, telling that everything was beautiful last night, the Girl and I really connected, and now she is flaking. How come?!
After a lengthy exchange of messages, the girl finally typed "Look, she's just not interested in you, ok? Accept it."
I pondered it for days, even weeks. How? Why?
Now I know. Should have stopped being a pussy and escalated.
You CAN be clever, but don't be too clever. Also, don't be exclusively clever.
What works with those intellectual girls is a mix of clever and alpha. Yeah, impress her a bit, make her think you're not like the other guys (right, just like she isn't like the other girls), then move into player mode, kiss her, sway her off her feet, bang her.