Yes. You read that right. Get good with kids.
You see, being more social with the opposite sex is difficult, especially if you were those nerdy, introverted, Newton-like kind of kid while growing up. It can be hassle to reframe your mindset to being outgoing with women because you're outcome dependent. And who can blame you? You were taught to solve equations correctly without errors. Making mistakes or being carefree with the result wasn't part of your formal education. And while the PUA community can toss phrases like NLP, affirmations, managing expectations, these things don't always translate to social outgoingness.
But there's a better way
Getting good with kids.
Yes, I know. Kids are annoying, petulant little creatures. But so are women
1. Conversations with kids are meandering and almost useless banter
Kids talk about the most mundane things because that's all the know. They went to the park? They're going to tell you all about it. They lent their pencil to a friend in class and hr didn't give it back? They're going to hash it out with you.
And what are you going to do? You're going to follow them up. You're going to ask all these penetrating questions like "What was the shape of the pencil", " How did he make you feel", "Did you see your friends at the park?, what were they wearing?" You're literally going to dumb it down and converse with them on a playful level.
2. Because of their useless banter, you're outcome independent
You're not trying to bang them or con them. You're just enjoying a long winded conversation. So there's no pressure on you to do anything. You're enjoying the moment. And this is the ideal frame for conversing with women. You're not worried about impressing the kid, so you're just having a fun conversation with a kid.
3. You become more expressive and colorful
Most kids have a limited diction. So most of their communication is nonverbal. Interacting with them makes you more acute in observing moods, expressions and tonality. You been to inflect your voice when you're excited with them, develop what I term 'a sparkling eye' that is fun-filled and jovial, gesticulating better and use of colorful speech. These things iron themselves out more as you begin to interact more with children.
At the end of the day, these traits will segue into your everyday conversational frame with people.
While PUAs talk about the alpha, Don Corleone kinda frame, I don't think its suitable for everyone. If you're physically intimidating this might suit you, but for small, nonthreatening guys, better to adopt the playful frame.
As Château Heartiste once said... Best to play into your strengths.
Its no surprise that women are often attracted to men who are very good with kids.
The danger of this playful frame is that it lacks the sexusl undertone needed to bang her and a certain level of seriousness.
With frequent interactions with the opposite sex, you'll calibrate your playful vibe from a more social plane to a more sexual plane.
You see, being more social with the opposite sex is difficult, especially if you were those nerdy, introverted, Newton-like kind of kid while growing up. It can be hassle to reframe your mindset to being outgoing with women because you're outcome dependent. And who can blame you? You were taught to solve equations correctly without errors. Making mistakes or being carefree with the result wasn't part of your formal education. And while the PUA community can toss phrases like NLP, affirmations, managing expectations, these things don't always translate to social outgoingness.
But there's a better way
Getting good with kids.
Yes, I know. Kids are annoying, petulant little creatures. But so are women
1. Conversations with kids are meandering and almost useless banter
Kids talk about the most mundane things because that's all the know. They went to the park? They're going to tell you all about it. They lent their pencil to a friend in class and hr didn't give it back? They're going to hash it out with you.
And what are you going to do? You're going to follow them up. You're going to ask all these penetrating questions like "What was the shape of the pencil", " How did he make you feel", "Did you see your friends at the park?, what were they wearing?" You're literally going to dumb it down and converse with them on a playful level.
2. Because of their useless banter, you're outcome independent
You're not trying to bang them or con them. You're just enjoying a long winded conversation. So there's no pressure on you to do anything. You're enjoying the moment. And this is the ideal frame for conversing with women. You're not worried about impressing the kid, so you're just having a fun conversation with a kid.
3. You become more expressive and colorful
Most kids have a limited diction. So most of their communication is nonverbal. Interacting with them makes you more acute in observing moods, expressions and tonality. You been to inflect your voice when you're excited with them, develop what I term 'a sparkling eye' that is fun-filled and jovial, gesticulating better and use of colorful speech. These things iron themselves out more as you begin to interact more with children.
At the end of the day, these traits will segue into your everyday conversational frame with people.
While PUAs talk about the alpha, Don Corleone kinda frame, I don't think its suitable for everyone. If you're physically intimidating this might suit you, but for small, nonthreatening guys, better to adopt the playful frame.
As Château Heartiste once said... Best to play into your strengths.
Its no surprise that women are often attracted to men who are very good with kids.
The danger of this playful frame is that it lacks the sexusl undertone needed to bang her and a certain level of seriousness.
With frequent interactions with the opposite sex, you'll calibrate your playful vibe from a more social plane to a more sexual plane.