Quote: (07-04-2018 02:28 AM)a beer is enough Wrote:
Since we are referring other threads now, on that race thread I said I hit a peak right after college when I was in NYC where due to being around the right people and right crowds, I ended up getting laid more than I ever have in my entire life. The notch count I gave was below average for this forum when I was asked about it though. In fact, things have gone downhill for me since then even though the dating apps are friendly.
What I was saying on that thread is actually similar to this thread and there is that carry over too, it is the complaining aspect of it. Like in that thread, countless guys were crying about how unfair game is because of race and how American women who are hot are so racist. I was trying to make the case that it isn't really true but obviously I was wrong for pointing out the victim mentality of guys crying that life is so unfair because they are not white.
Now look, that same complaining mentality that solves nothing comes to this thread. I have a pet peeve for that sort of stuff, if it isn't answering the question or solving the issue, why are we even talking about it?
I don't care how awesome college was or was supposed to be but storming into this thread saying all men should be monogamous in their twenties and practically give up after college, that isn't solving anything. Then we get endless worshiping of the college experience while complaining of life after college, it doesn't solve shit and just creates a depressed atmosphere on the thread and forum.
Whether it is crying about race or crying about a phase of life that has passed, it really doesn't solve a thing so why not talk solutions?
I don't mean for this to come off harsh, but it might.
OP, I don't think you're able to distinguish between victim mentality and reality for a lot of guys. Not everyone is complaining. I've seen your posts in the Indian Guy/Game Thread. Those posts are all over the place. You also seem to have a hell of a lot of time on your hands double posting and posting every 5 minutes. Holy Shit!
There is a peculiar thing about your posts as I read them all. You want to come across in that other thread and this thread as the guy that has no confidence issues. Yet, in this thread, instead of paying more attention to the posts that are offering you alternative advice, you are trying to justify your decision by only paying attention to the answers that sound good to you, not necessarily the effective ones. Rudebwoy has been there and done that. If you care, I would heed his advice. I told you this may sound harsh, but I'm just telling you what I see.
Me and doc holliday had a great conversation about this over text yesterday.
I went backwards. I got married and started having kids and only afterwards upon some frustrating experiences did I learn game, approached women etc. Doc mentioned it was FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). I agreed. Throughout this entire time, I was just wondering how much easier it would have been had I been better calibrated socially growing up, banged more girls earlier etc. However, after a few years in the "game," I realized that what I had earlier was significantly better than what I lost by chasing tail/poon. It would have done nothing significant for me except for this realization alone. However, the career I built and family I raised means a whole lot more to me and is a better return on emotional and social investment than some women, poon or having some nightclub on lock. Why is this? I'll tell you. I'm 40 years old. If I wanted to, I know I could attract women half my age into my later years. However, I could be doing this with more resources and confidence if I wanted to.
I'm just very surprised, OP, that you don't have a social circle of friends or family that wouldn't advise you similarly as I am or some others like Slickyboy and Rudebwoy have. Not everyone on the forum has broad experiences like these guys do. There is a social deficiency there that some may not be noticing. You need more healthy relationships in your life, my friend. It's great to turn to the forum for big decisions like this, but you also need to surround yourself physically with more capable male friends. I have found that a core of these friends came from the forum as I built relationships with them over time but my family is a big part of my support system as well.
If you have the potential to get into a good STEM career for example, it's an absolutely horrible idea to go into bartending or car washing or whatever. I advise people on careers for a living. Every day you waste is another day some other dude gains on you in a certain field. Don't brand yourself a loser early. Best suggestion I can provide is to forget notch counts, find women as you will. Short term or Long Term relationships are fine too with the right women and concentrate the fuck out of your academics and career.
Poon will not go away because you took a break to improve yourself. Poon never adds value to you as a man. You as a man add value to poon.