To stop starting random threads, I'm going to start a log.
Quick summary about me: Currently 22. Lost my virginity pretty much exactly a year ago. Since then I've had a total of 4 bangs. 2 From tinder, 2 from friends of friends.
Still trying to calibrate my social skills which tend to cycle between being boring and crazy wild. Definitely much better than when I started uni at 18 and wish I had started reading relevant material back then.
One Day Two Dates
Today was a weird day.
Had a date planned from a girl I matched on bumble at 8pm. She had sent me a long first msg about some of my travelling pics and was really easy to set up a date with her.
In the mean time, I tried to set up a date with a tinder girl who I have been talking for a while (I'd put way too much effort into this one and should have left it ages ago but she kept giving just enough for me to get lured in).
Tinder girl told me she didn't want to get a drink tomorrow but would be happy for me to drive her around tonight and said she was free from 10pm.
I decided I could do both dates, if the first one went well, then I could cancel on the 2nd.
First girl from bumble was really hot, but innocent looking. I couldn't figure out if she was nervous at the start or immediately did not like me when we met for drinks. After 50 mins of okaish kino and okaish talk, I used my plausible deniability to ask her to come back to mine. She agreed but said she could only stay an hour as she has to go to work.
At mine, we both sat on my bed, I played my chill playlist. She was slightly more open and fun in the convo but still couldn't figure out if she actually wanted to be here or not.
At one point I tried to go for the kiss, but she said cheek only and then told me she has rules that she won't even kiss anyone early on. I think while she may think she has those rules, it was more a case of me not being able to attract her enough.
Anyway she did leave at 10pm on the dot but did seem accepting to a 2nd date as she told me she wasnt free the next day but could do the day after. Will msg her tomorrow to try and set it up though I'm not sure she will tbh.
2nd girl from tinder herself had suggested to meet her at 10 30pm rather than 10 so worked well. I have self breathalise kits to check my alcohol level and I was fine to drive (I bought myself just 1 weak cocktail at the bar and only had bit of wine at mine for over 2hrs).
Picked her up from hers (turns out she lives 4 mins walk away from me, or 1 min drive...) and went towards this village thats quite famous in movies etc as she does film studies.
We had great chat, like I rarely have fun speaking to a girl on the first date but I genuinely do think we both enjoyed the convo. I may have been a bit too forward with kino though. She was wearing shorts, and instead of my usual tap on the shoulder when I tease a girl, I did it on her leg as it was just easier when driving. I don't think she felt awkward but I think I may have initiated her ASD and had her set up her boundaries.
At the village, we walked around, and then sat on a bench that had a great 'romantic' view kinda thing. We spoke a bit more and I was sure she wanted to kiss me so I went for it. Nope, she got a bit shy and told me she likes to get to know people better first. (This confused me a little because on msg she told me she didn't want a relationship and was only looking for some fun).
Anyway after that I drove her back home and tried to get her to come back to mine but my plausabile deniability was a bit shit so nuff happened.
She knows I'm leaving town for summer on Sat but didn't seem open to seeing me again as she is busy with exams. She gave me a kiss on the cheek and told me she likes me but obv actions speak louder than words.
Two very different dates, two very different personalities came out from me but both ended the same way. It's somewhat frustrating because while they weren't my best performances, I genuinely don't know how I could have been significantly better. I wish I had someone that could tell me where I could make the most improvement in as I can't seem to figure it out myself.
I think I may have scared off the 2nd girl as she was totally suprised by how I was in real life. She thought I was very nerdy and quite from my msging while I was very open, possibly too much in person. But she had also told me that all her exes were guys that were confident and spoke a lot so I just don't know.
Quick summary about me: Currently 22. Lost my virginity pretty much exactly a year ago. Since then I've had a total of 4 bangs. 2 From tinder, 2 from friends of friends.
Still trying to calibrate my social skills which tend to cycle between being boring and crazy wild. Definitely much better than when I started uni at 18 and wish I had started reading relevant material back then.
One Day Two Dates
Today was a weird day.
Had a date planned from a girl I matched on bumble at 8pm. She had sent me a long first msg about some of my travelling pics and was really easy to set up a date with her.
In the mean time, I tried to set up a date with a tinder girl who I have been talking for a while (I'd put way too much effort into this one and should have left it ages ago but she kept giving just enough for me to get lured in).
Tinder girl told me she didn't want to get a drink tomorrow but would be happy for me to drive her around tonight and said she was free from 10pm.
I decided I could do both dates, if the first one went well, then I could cancel on the 2nd.
First girl from bumble was really hot, but innocent looking. I couldn't figure out if she was nervous at the start or immediately did not like me when we met for drinks. After 50 mins of okaish kino and okaish talk, I used my plausible deniability to ask her to come back to mine. She agreed but said she could only stay an hour as she has to go to work.
At mine, we both sat on my bed, I played my chill playlist. She was slightly more open and fun in the convo but still couldn't figure out if she actually wanted to be here or not.
At one point I tried to go for the kiss, but she said cheek only and then told me she has rules that she won't even kiss anyone early on. I think while she may think she has those rules, it was more a case of me not being able to attract her enough.
Anyway she did leave at 10pm on the dot but did seem accepting to a 2nd date as she told me she wasnt free the next day but could do the day after. Will msg her tomorrow to try and set it up though I'm not sure she will tbh.
2nd girl from tinder herself had suggested to meet her at 10 30pm rather than 10 so worked well. I have self breathalise kits to check my alcohol level and I was fine to drive (I bought myself just 1 weak cocktail at the bar and only had bit of wine at mine for over 2hrs).
Picked her up from hers (turns out she lives 4 mins walk away from me, or 1 min drive...) and went towards this village thats quite famous in movies etc as she does film studies.
We had great chat, like I rarely have fun speaking to a girl on the first date but I genuinely do think we both enjoyed the convo. I may have been a bit too forward with kino though. She was wearing shorts, and instead of my usual tap on the shoulder when I tease a girl, I did it on her leg as it was just easier when driving. I don't think she felt awkward but I think I may have initiated her ASD and had her set up her boundaries.
At the village, we walked around, and then sat on a bench that had a great 'romantic' view kinda thing. We spoke a bit more and I was sure she wanted to kiss me so I went for it. Nope, she got a bit shy and told me she likes to get to know people better first. (This confused me a little because on msg she told me she didn't want a relationship and was only looking for some fun).
Anyway after that I drove her back home and tried to get her to come back to mine but my plausabile deniability was a bit shit so nuff happened.
She knows I'm leaving town for summer on Sat but didn't seem open to seeing me again as she is busy with exams. She gave me a kiss on the cheek and told me she likes me but obv actions speak louder than words.
Two very different dates, two very different personalities came out from me but both ended the same way. It's somewhat frustrating because while they weren't my best performances, I genuinely don't know how I could have been significantly better. I wish I had someone that could tell me where I could make the most improvement in as I can't seem to figure it out myself.
I think I may have scared off the 2nd girl as she was totally suprised by how I was in real life. She thought I was very nerdy and quite from my msging while I was very open, possibly too much in person. But she had also told me that all her exes were guys that were confident and spoke a lot so I just don't know.