[the-dream]

If I feel like I am going to cum sooner than I'd like, I can do things like think of something not sexy to distract myself and it works but is a bit counterproductive and defeats the point of having sex in the first place.

Does anyone have any tips or experience of ways to last longer in bed without reducing your sensitivity or enjoyment?

[kinjutsu]

Take your time with the girl(s).
Sex isn't a sprint.
If you feel yourself getting close and you don't want to cum yet, pull your dick out and rub the head on her clit/pussy lips.
Or just slow down your tempo and grab her breasts.
Or Go balls deep and stop. wrap your hand around her throat and talk dirty into her ear.

If you still want to pound away you NEED to control your breathing and your prostate muscles and fight the urge to cum.
It's possible to continue to pound away through a male orgasm and not blow your load, but it take a lot of practice.
Easier said than done though, because the girl will contract her vagina and squeeze the cum out of you hahahahah

[Suits]

If I want to last longer in bed, I just put the girl on top midway through. I'm not going to come in that position unless I really work for it.

[Banna]

You have to live a active lifestyle to last longer sexually. No way around it.

I personally can't answer for anyone else but for myself it depends 2 things:

A) on how attracted I am to the girl

B) Whether it's raw or condoms.

Especially B!

I am in my 40s and I notice if I wear condoms it's hard to get up for a 2nd round. It can be embarrassing seeing her wait for me to get it up and it not responding lol. I've started lately to ask myself if I gotta get on the dick pills.

But on the other hand the past weekend I had a raw romp with this very young girl half my age and to my surprise I was able to go 3 rounds lasting a good 25-30 minutes before blowing my load.

[not_dead_yet]

(04-23-2018 06:51 AM)Banna Wrote:  

I am in my 40s and I notice if I wear condoms it's hard to get up for a 2nd round. It can be embarrassing seeing her wait for me to get it up and it not responding lol. I've started lately to ask myself if I gotta get on the dick pills.

But on the other hand the past weekend I had a raw romp with this very young girl half my age and to my surprise I was able to go 3 rounds lasting a good 25-30 minutes before blowing my load.

I'm in my 40s too. It helps to have a girl that likes to make out and use her hands to get me going. Visual stimulation alone most times isn't enough. Cialis is your friend.

I could always last for a decent time when I was younger. Now it's at the point where I can go for hours unless I really make an effort to finish. Chafing is a problem. Any recommendations for lube?

[realologist]

(04-23-2018 07:03 AM)not_dead_yet Wrote:  

(04-23-2018 06:51 AM)Banna Wrote:  

I am in my 40s and I notice if I wear condoms it's hard to get up for a 2nd round. It can be embarrassing seeing her wait for me to get it up and it not responding lol. I've started lately to ask myself if I gotta get on the dick pills.

But on the other hand the past weekend I had a raw romp with this very young girl half my age and to my surprise I was able to go 3 rounds lasting a good 25-30 minutes before blowing my load.

I'm in my 40s too. It helps to have a girl that likes to make out and use her hands to get me going. Visual stimulation alone most times isn't enough. Cialis is your friend.

I could always last for a decent time when I was younger. Now it's at the point where I can go for hours unless I really make an effort to finish. Chafing is a problem. Any recommendations for lube?

[Repo]

Teach her to give better blowjobs, that way the feeling of sex isn't as powerful

[Oz.]

For me anyways, having sex in a very sensual way leads to earlier ejaculation. After getting all the foreplay and slowness out of the way, I go to town on all girls, I bang them like I'm about to go on a desert expedition for the next 6 months. The harder I go the longer it takes to ejaculate, it's only when I start to slow down that it happens.

I enjoy leaving them flabbergasted, most stay in bed in a corpse like state and usually only the hardcore cock lovers want me to go for round two.

[Steelex]

I think how long you last is genetic.

Nothing on earth is going to turn a five minute guy into a 45 minute guy. Not a supplement, pill, exercise, ect. Nothing.

If you don't have mental control over when you bust your nut, and it just sort of "happens" to you during sex then you are at a disadvantage.

Not to toot my own horn, but I have always been able to fuck for as long as my hips will move me. It doesn't matter if I've been fucking in a threesome for two hours. I don't cum until I mentally flip that switch to allow myself to have that build up and release. That's just an innate ability and I don't think you can gain that.

[the-dream]

I agree with all the notions here - I can stop myself from cumming by doing the things suggested such as going into a position that isn't as nice, using a condom or mentally distracting myself but what I want to know is if anyone here has any experience of still being 100% in the moment, turned on and passionate but holding it off.

Occasionally if I am going to cum quickly, I keep holding it off by doing the kinds of things previously mentioned then after a few minutes, my dick basically gives up on the idea of cumming then I can fuck as long and hard as I like then cum when I like. Has anyone else experienced that and has any tips on how to reach that state?

[kinjutsu]

Whether or not you have your foreskin is a factor as well.
Having your foreskin into adulthood allows you to be sensitive longer in life.

For the guys that can go longer, does being uncut/cut factor in for you?

[mikado]

(04-23-2018 02:45 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  

Whether or not you have your foreskin is a factor as well.
Having your foreskin into adulthood allows you to be sensitive longer in life.

For the guys that can go longer, does being uncut/cut factor in for you?

I am cut, and I can last long. However these past months, I sometimes find myself unable to bust even though I want to.

I think fapping is responsible a lot for that.

[torridon747]

I'm cut and I've always been able to last forever. I've spent my whole life with this dick so I can't comment on sensativity or whatever but for me it's 90% mental and controllable. Every once in a while when I'm really comfortable and into the sex I'll feel an almost involuntary ejaculation coming on and I'll just pull out for a second but i can usually only come in a couple different positions - Anvil and the pic attached.

http://sexpositions.club/wp-content/uplo...00x230.png

I spent a while with a couple girls that I could just not cum with. It was really frustrating. Don't have that issue anymore and it was a combination of mastrubating to porn too much and I think on some weird subconcios level I know those bitches were trash and didn't deserve my seed.

[LeBaron]

IMO it's not about your physical shape but only about the girl's hotness, if your dick is uncut, if your are wearing a condom and more so the tightness of her pussy.
I don't understand why you guys are trying to hold it to last longer, when I fuck a hot very tight girl I fuck her many times even if I can't last for more than 5 minutes the first times.
I'd rather come 5 times during a night than once!

[questor70]

(04-23-2018 11:39 AM)Steelex Wrote:  

Nothing on earth is going to turn a five minute guy into a 45 minute guy. Not a supplement, pill, exercise, ect. Nothing.

You don't think edging techniques could work for anybody?

I will say that the worst position for a guy as far as control goes is woman on top because while women are terrible at slowing down or stopping to prevent a guy from going over the edge.

Missionary is by far the easiest because there are all sorts of "covering" moves a guy can do to compensate for having to slow down or stop moving that she'll still enjoy, anything from just sitting up and thumbing her clit (without thrusting) or just kissing her for a while (without thrusting). She's going to think you mixing it up is just your own creativity rather than an edging technique.

Also, guys tend to feel more stimulated from the friction of thrusting whereas women get off more on grinding (pelvis on pelvis like you see lesbians do). I think women urge men to thrust hard and fast because they want the pelvic contact, not for the thrusting. So slowing down and grinding is a win win. It makes you last longer and should please her more, although it will take her some time to get used to it.

YMMV.

[Hannibal]

Yeah, it's called "kegels".

Do them.

[astro]

Maybe I am in the minority, but the MORE times I have fucked a girl the FASTER I can come. It’s almost like nature is telling me “been there, done that, get it over with”.

I always, always, ALWAYS last longer the first several times I am with the same girl. I could say it’s psychological (“I have something to prove”), but it seems a lot more about exploration than anything. Once I figure out how to get the girl off, it’s like my dick wants to go right to the finish line. If I think about it from a strategic nature, it does seem like something that would be tied to evolution.

How do I cope with a girl I have been with numerous times where all my dick wants to do is finish? Obviously fight the urge, but through switching positions... alternating between oral and vaginal sex, taking breaks, whatever the fuck works. Sometimes I just say fuck it and come right as she does. I guess that’s the moral... if you’re getting her off, no problem. If you’re not getting her off, you should be straight up asking her what does it for her. Establishing that right away is key, but don’t be worried to ask. Knowing that you’re able to please her will in turn relax both your body and mind and you will enter a state of not giving too many fucks about how long you last.

[JackinMelbourne]

...reverse kegels too (like trying to push instead of holding in). That one is important because some blokes have an overly tight pelvic floor muscle for whatever reasons, (like heavy squats maybe?)... and they need to do the reverse kegels to get it into balance.

Apart from the penis workouts, get on the dick pills and blow your first load down her throat. Just get it out of the way. After that, it would be surprising if you kept blowing quick because it's only the first round build up. The dick pills at your age will help you get back in the game much quicker and give you the rock hard edge

Some people jack off before hand, during the day or whatever but that's a huge waste of a good load that can be impressively shot across the room, onto and into places.

[Swell]

Fuck more, Going several rounds in a night. Each round will last longer.

[Matrixdude]

When you're stroking it and feel like you're going to cum soon, pull out and recoup for like 2 minutes tops, kiss and caress her, whisper in her ear, dominate her mind. Sex shouldn't last long either bro, you don't have to pump for 30 minutes. 15 minutes is gold

[Truth Tiger]

Cut, have had several girlfriends and lovers where I could last a long time. Finding a rhythm with them and your arousal happen with time and attention. I usually like to mix tempos and take my time unless it's a "slip into the party host's bedroom for a quickie."

Getting control of your breathing is really important to slowing down and delaying orgasm. You probably want to practice alone first and then with a lover. Co-sign of more sensual can be more stimulating and lead to cumming faster, but sometimes intense pounding can. A lot depends on you, how you feel emotionally and mentally about the girl and how she's grooving on you. Some girls like marathon sex, others like faster and more intense sessions, and it can depend on where they are in their cycle.

Check out some tantric practices / videos, advice from David Deida. The 'Spirit Sex Love' video by him on YT is good viewing though not specific to sex techniques. You could incorporate meditation into your life to better regulate your state. Wim Hof Fire breathing may help - I was about to cum after only a few minutes raw with a crazy German redhead. It was our second time and I wanted to enjoy her longer so I breathed in and out more forcefully and deliberately. I was surprised and pleased. As a masculine man, tuning in to your breathing is a key element to your performance - whatever stage you're on.

[RatInTheWoods]

USe all that time wanking to your advantage.

Take yourself as close as you can and edge it for hours.

You will gain mastery of your cum reflex this way.

[DonnyGately]

Have a drink first, condoms of course, and cum down her throat on first go-round as someone mentioned. I like to do that while using fingers/vibrator on her if you can get her to cum right when you're about to bust she's gonna love you for it.

And pills if you need them.

but if I'm 100% into it esp with a long-term partner it does tend to go faster the majority of the time. Co-sign it takes me longer with a new girl even if she's really hot.

[Konstantin]

Something that works for me, is to masturbate in the morning. In the evening you're golden.

Also, like other users have mentioned, tap out if you need to. When you're close, pull out, finger her or go down on her. Once you feel like you're up for it again, jump in.

[WalterBlack]

(04-23-2018 05:21 AM)Suits Wrote:  

If I want to last longer in bed, I just put the girl on top midway through. I'm not going to come in that position unless I really work for it.

Also rub her clit or play with her tits whilst she's riding you...

If you want to be lazy make the woman make herself cum before you stick your dick in her. I am currently banging a woman who loves rubbing my dick against her clit, she cums and then I stick my dick in her. This makes her go crazy and gives you less to do.

I find that it's easier to control my speed if I bang her doggy style. One way I pace myself is by looking at the clock next to my bed. I can force myself to last 15, 20 minutes or longer if need be. If you feel you're about to nut, pull your dick almost all the way out, then push it back in slowly. Women love this because they can sense the thickness of the dick as it's going into her.