Quote: (03-11-2018 04:31 AM)Running Turtles Wrote:
Quote: (03-11-2018 02:52 AM)TooFineAPoint Wrote:
"hey... aren't you TooFine, that guy who does the stuff? Yeah... here's my random, uninformed opinion on that"...
That would be my own personal definition of hell.
Everyone has an opinion, but nobody really has any knowledge to back it up. Imagine that in your career every day.
My personal career skills development journey has gone like this.
- Had no fucking idea what I was doing, but convinced myself that I was naturally skilled and above average because it was too painful to admit to myself had badly I sucked.
- Improved my basic workplace skills to reach a level of respectable competence over a period of more than a year. Eventually recogized for being uniquely skilled by way of raises that I didn't ask for and opportunities that had not previously been available to me.
- Acknowledged that I could be more effective if I had approaches that worked better than the approaches I was currently familiar with, namely approaches that got the job done in the short term, but rarely lead to meaningful results in the long term. Changed jobs to free myself to experiment more on my own terms and discover more effective techniques for doing work in my industry.
- After flounder for a while at doing this, eventually became passionate and motivated enough to put serious effort into innovating new approaches that resulted in meaningful and measurable short term and long term results. Got down to business and spent 3 years doing research and engaging in product testing.
- After the several years at this, emerged with newly innovated products with proven results during the testing phase. I also acquired a significant amount industry knowledge, much of it cutting edge.
- Discovered that when I shared value, I quickly gained the respect of many people, including prospective clients and employers.
- Acknowledged to myself that I had become something of an expert in my field.
- Quickly noted that most people still felt that their opinion on the subject were on an equal level as mine. This was despite the fact that clients were now paying me as much as $100 an hour for my opinions and the folks who clearly believed their opinions to be just as valuable as mine had never been paid a cent for their opinions.
From what I've experienced (in my industry) this has a lot more to do with people's personal fears than anything else. I have the knowledge and experience to sit down with someone who has the goal of learning a specific foreign language and in ten minutes give them an extremely precise roadmap to becoming communicative in a foreign language. I've sold products to schools that are based on this road map. And yet, they respond dismissively, not because they have a real need to be smarter than me, but because the actionable steps I'm describing sound terrifying to them.
They are forced to disagree with me, because agreeing with me would mean confronting very real fears and they'd rather risk failing to achieve their goal than confronting those fears.
I've repeatedly had people tell me that they'd need a year of "building a good foundation first" to be ready to try extremely actionable activities that would require them to memorize only 15 vocabulary words to get started and would allow them to achieve significant results in a mere week.
Then you have opinions borne out of a need for significance. I'm a pretty opinionated guy. When I was younger, I annoyed the fuck out of a lot of people by acting like an expert on topics that I had no fucking clue about.
I'm glad I've grown since then.
Perhaps even those type of opinions (and the need to shove them down people's throats) are motivated by fear too -- the fear of being insignificant.
I don't want to be the guy who wants to tell others what to do. I want to be the guy who keeps his opinions to himself unless he is asked for them (or better yet, paid for them).
I've come a long way, but I'm still working on being better at being that guy. It's definitely become easy to not shove my opinions down other people's throat as I've grown as a man and actually achieved some meaningful things, but the temptation remains.
I am getting very good at not commenting on matters that I'm completely clueless about.