[Sombro]

(01-09-2018 04:59 PM)BlackLusterSoldier Wrote:  

I'm seeing hella red flags with her and my friends keep going in on me for still dealing with her but I feel like she deserves the benfit of the doubt you know?

So your "benfit of the doubt" for her outweighs your friends' concern as well as said red flags you've seen yourself?

[Jetset]

(01-09-2018 06:52 PM)Kona Wrote:  

I smell a filthy British gangbang.

Wow, I can smell it in my imagination.

[debeguiled]

(01-05-2018 04:21 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

I'm curious now...What do they call trailer parks in UK?

Peak Pikey.

[BlackLusterSoldier]

(01-09-2018 09:57 PM)Sombro Wrote:  

(01-09-2018 04:59 PM)BlackLusterSoldier Wrote:  

I'm seeing hella red flags with her and my friends keep going in on me for still dealing with her but I feel like she deserves the benfit of the doubt you know?

So your "benfit of the doubt" for her outweighs your friends' concern as well as said red flags you've seen yourself?

I got some new information which changes my perspective on things.

She was still with her ex when I was first sleeping with her.

[BlackLusterSoldier]

(01-05-2018 04:37 PM)Jetset Wrote:  

(01-04-2018 05:58 PM)BlackLusterSoldier Wrote:  

Haha! I didn't think of this, very true she's going to get my ass beat

She'll love it, too. She's playing you both for attention and drama, and one man going to jail and another man going to the hospital fighting over her is every silly bitch's fantasy. Seeing men sacrifice themselves on her altar is probably her only source of self-worth.

I had something like this happen once. The first time she got into a big fight with her "ex" over her sending me nudes and stopping off at my place to suck dick, she texted me in a panic about how he'd looked at her phone and they'd had a big fight, begging me to tell him she'd said they were together the whole time if he contacted me to ask.

Bullshit. She'd told me about a breakup, but didn't warn me about their reconciliation. I warned her that I'm not getting involved and don't care about her boyfriend but to start locking her phone properly if she's going to fuck around. She says all this stuff about how she can't jeopardize her relationship and needs to make it work, then is texting me and back on her knees a month later.

Sure enough, he gets into her phone again. At this point, it was obvious she liked it and was letting it happen to mess with him, and that he's just as messed up for trying to be her boyfriend as she is for running around behind his back. Stopped responding to her before he starts blaming me for his life. Older and wiser, I wouldn't even bother with a second chance over stupidity like that. If you want to cheat, get organized.

So she's a bit dumb, I don't think she'd actually cheat on my once she's my girl. She just created some earthquakes of disrespect beforehand, I think she was partially hurt that I told her so coldly that I was fucking other girls + her ex also treated her like shit. I thni she was lashing out.


Or am I still being a pussy..

I mean we have good chemistry

I've gotten rid of her atm but we could work it out if I wanted to I guess.

I sound a bit like a naive guy who's girl is a whore... It's crazy. But she's not satan and she wasn't that much of a whore before hand (I'm not dumb when it comes to whore spotting, she just slipped through the radar and let off a couple bombshells.)

She also buys me stuff and helps me make money?

[Jetset]

(01-19-2018 10:04 AM)BlackLusterSoldier Wrote:  

So she's a bit dumb, I don't think she'd actually cheat on my once she's my girl. She just created some earthquakes of disrespect beforehand, I think she was partially hurt that I told her so coldly that I was fucking other girls + her ex also treated her like shit. I thni she was lashing out.

You've gotten confirmation that she was cheating on her ex with you. She hangs out in hotel rooms with multiple dudes. She'll cheat on you. They all will, under the right circumstances. It sounds like her personal circumstances are basically "this is fun".

Quote:

I sound a bit like a naive guy who's girl is a whore... It's crazy.

A bit.

Beyond "she passes my boner test", you don't need to justify fucking her. I get it. Do what you want. Just don't confuse yourself into thinking "she's your girl". Leonard's right: she barely even deserves to be anthropomorphized. "Plate #7, responds to canned cider and the word 'Sugartits'" is about as much investment as you should make in getting to know more about her.

[BlackLusterSoldier]

Tbf I'm actually mean as fuck to her for the reasons listed. It's just a bit long because I know a few of her friends and us being 'together' is slowly becoming more of a thing.

Also her ex had a load of other girls by this point (details are a bit sketchy but it seems like at the beginning he was actually nice to her, although she's probably covering up the fact she's a whore. -- red flag 56 he recently had a baby with another girl) and from the sounds of it was a more stone faced liar than me (read there phone convos) , I'll literally tell her I can't be bothered with this whereas he'll tell her she's his girl and then treat her like nothing, the way he treated her probably lead to her acting the way she did, especially when I'd fuck her and refuse to even lie to her to make her feel better lol.

red flag 57; she wants my child

[orythedog]

(01-04-2018 05:17 PM)BlackLusterSoldier Wrote:  

Ok so.

Basically, I started fucking a girl last february. I was fucking a bunch of girls then and I let her know this.

She didn't say anything, I'd go back to uni and deal with other girls and too my knowledge everything was cool with her.

In the summer I'm back home and banging her... she lets me know she went back to her ex for sex twice while I was at university. (During the time she didn't mention it)

She also told me I was the 3rd guy she slept with.

Me thinking she was real hot and being naive took this at semi face value but my gut told me she way probably lying since I fucked her on the second date, I did kind of put in work in hindsight I guess...

Then a couple months pass since I come back form uni

August, it's her birthday, the week earlier I told her I fucked two girls between the period of time I saw her and that day (about a week). She was pissed,

A few days later I see a bunch of guy friends on her snap in her flat messing about, apparently she didn't do anything, I believe her. Because on her birthday a few days after that she fucked someone... another ;ex' that actually went to the party when I didn't bother, I was actually busy tbf.

The whole time she was asking me what are we and I was like chill I don't trust you (body count of 3? Lol)

Then she came clean about this I stopped fucking her for like a week then got bored but also found out her real body count. 7. 7 including me.... or so she says up till this point.

This whole time she's aware I'm fucking other girls (probably a dumb move in hindsight)

Then I start to catch feelings and a month later made her my girlfriend

in hindsight I should have manned up when it was time and ended things for good.

But now at the stage I'm at it's difficult? I blocked her from social media for a week and her number but left my key at her house, went around there and she was telling me how her sister suggested she come to my house to look for me (lol)

What should I do?

She went to a hotel with some guys last week. I have no evidence anything happened... She also brought me to the hotel the second night... Can I break up with her for this?

Am I being a pussy, should I just break up with her anyway?

Edit: her ex also treated her like shit and had other girls, although while i was treating her like shit he kept trying to poach her back, he's also older then me and has been to jail

ASK YOURSELF: Could the amount of time I am thinking about this be better spent meeting other women? TELL YOURSELF: There are better women out there for me. GOOGLE: the term "opportunity cost."

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Sometimes I take notes, sometimes I take hostages. It all depends on the day.

[kaotic]

Dude, she isn't girlfriend material, knock that shit off.

You see all these signs and you're still writing about her like she's something special.

She's a fucking lying whore and should be treated as such.

[Jetset]

(01-19-2018 02:11 PM)BlackLusterSoldier Wrote:  

Tbf I'm actually mean as fuck to her for the reasons listed. It's just a bit long because I know a few of her friends and us being 'together' is slowly becoming more of a thing.

Also her ex had a load of other girls by this point (details are a bit sketchy but it seems like at the beginning he was actually nice to her, although she's probably covering up the fact she's a whore. -- red flag 56 he recently had a baby with another girl) and from the sounds of it was a more stone faced liar than me (read there phone convos) , I'll literally tell her I can't be bothered with this whereas he'll tell her she's his girl and then treat her like nothing, the way he treated her probably lead to her acting the way she did, especially when I'd fuck her and refuse to even lie to her to make her feel better lol.

red flag 57; she wants my child

Wasn't this an episode of Shameless?

[BlackLusterSoldier]

(01-19-2018 02:24 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

Dude, she isn't girlfriend material, knock that shit off.

You see all these signs and you're still writing about her like she's something special.

She's a fucking lying whore and should be treated as such.

hmmmmmm, she's borderline for me you know. like just outside the threshold

[kaotic]

The fact that you see as even a borderline girlfriend means you aren't understanding a thing here

It's obvious you don't understand game, basic principles, and how a woman you're entertaining should act.

You're clouded by some female pussy, which is a dime a dozen, this hoe isn't special.

She's probably fucked more than a few dudes since you've been in the picture, you just can't accept and won't admit it.

Not your girl, she's "different", she'll definitely turn around and be a "good" girl for you.

She's probably laughed behind your back reading your texts in some other dudes bed.

[BlackLusterSoldier]

(01-19-2018 04:47 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

The fact that you see as even a borderline girlfriend means you aren't understanding a thing here

It's obvious you don't understand game, basic principles, and how a woman you're entertaining should act.

You're clouded by some female pussy, which is a dime a dozen, this hoe isn't special.

She's probably fucked more than a few dudes since you've been in the picture, you just can't accept and won't admit it.

Not your girl, she's "different", she'll definitely turn around and be a "good" girl for you.

She's probably laughed behind your back reading your texts in some other dudes bed.

I think the problem here is I've allowed myself to become overinvested. I know deep down you're right but i'd rather believe it's not true.

[kaotic]

You've bought ALL of your stock in this girl.

The point with me describing her above was telling you, she's not innocent, she's shady, she's proved that already.

You see the stock lowering in value and a very rapid rate - as in about to crash.

Your best best is to DIVEST from this shitty stock, and not lose anymore.


Men don't hangout or entertain loser women.

[BlackLusterSoldier]

She appears to love me deeply though... even though she cannot be trust for shit. She seems like the type of girl that could be good in a relationship but out of a relationship is an idiot.

[Jetset]

(01-19-2018 05:00 PM)BlackLusterSoldier Wrote:  

she appears to love me deeply though

That shit comes and goes. She's got your head all turned around showing you phone conversations with her "ex" while she continues to bang him.

It doesn't matter how she feels about you. She's still of no use as a girlfriend. Enjoy her for what she is, or later in life you'll regret wasting time on her.

[kaotic]

Good luck with that bro, you're playing with fire, you're already getting burned.

You just don't see it yet.

You're so sprung on this one chick it's sad, after all you literally joined RVF to post this one thread.

She's got you under her thumb, she's got all the power in your guys's "relationship"

You're on the losing end and you have a shitty hand to play.


I'm done giving you advice, at this point you're acting like a troll.

[BlackLusterSoldier]

I feel like if i get through this i'll be a stronger man tbh but to be fair the times where I was at uni I point blank told her I was fucking other girls when I go back (I fucked up so many times to lead to this point)

In her defence she's been introducing me to her relatives (against my will) which shows investment on her part and the fact she wants to harvest my genes atleast indicates some value (or she puts no value on herself, life in general as well as me)#

basically I made mistakes that enabled her bullshit as well which is what bothers me the most

don't get me wrong I wouldn't say ALL my stock is in her, I'm cultivating some other bitches as we speak got a few dates for the next couple days and I still can't allow myself to be sprung, I'm 'attached' being with her has costed me atleast 3 other fucks in the last month but she's hotter so...

Still get rid of her?

[BlackLusterSoldier]

(01-19-2018 05:04 PM)Jetset Wrote:  

(01-19-2018 05:00 PM)BlackLusterSoldier Wrote:  

she appears to love me deeply though

That shit comes and goes. She's got your head all turned around showing you phone conversations with her "ex" while she continues to bang him.

It doesn't matter how she feels about you. She's still of no use as a girlfriend. Enjoy her for what she is, or later in life you'll regret wasting time on her.

Very true and hahaa I went on her phone, if she had gone out of her way to show me that's just another red flag lol.