018 Game Goals
12-23-2017, 01:30 AM
1) Get out of my head. I blew some solid chances this year by letting my inner voice be louder than reality. I've got an extraordinarily strong interior life. I read philosophy, journal extensively in long hand, and reflect a lot. Girls say I seem very strong and dark, which can be mysterious and good. But the imbalance of exteriority and interiority is weighing me down.
2) Stop texting. Girls will reply non-stop if you give them the chance. I'm going to be the chased one this year, not the chaser.
3) No porn. Fap rarely. I went to a European spa this past year, where hundreds of women were walking around nude. Old, young, all shapes, without inhibition. It saddened me to see how messed up my mind was, how harshly I mentally judged the "imperfect" ones. Yet I was so conditioned to "click on the next video" that I found myself unable to even appreciate the truly gorgeous women. It isn't healthy to have an endless supply of perfect, digital flesh. Life is real. Porn is not.
4) Grow a full head of healthy hair. It may seem trivial, but I've intensely missed the mane of my teens, and come to associate it with sexual vitality and strength. The biblical story of Samson comes to mind. This year I'm letting it grow, and largely chemical-free.
5) Get to sub-10% body fat and muscle up. This actually is for me, regardless of its effect on my love life. I need to be and feel lean.
6) Rid myself of everything I don't love. By the end of the year, I want my life to fit into a duffel, a backpack, and a box (for the best books).
7) Be as articulate externally as I am internally. I often think of the perfect wording for a professional, political, social, or romantic moment...after it is over. Bashfulness and verbal laziness inhibit too much. Speak clearly, confidently, and with eye contact.
8) Date within my league. Too often I let the affirmation of lesser women supplant my better instincts. If she's acting like she's out of my league (constant blushing, throwing herself, self-deprecation), she probably is. It's time I have a commensurate love life.
9) Make more genuine friends. This is my greatest weakness. A solid love life is built on solid social networks, and I am lacking good friendships. Work less, game less, spend more time out developing bonds of friendship.
10) Plant some roots in SEA and Europe. My travels thus far have been frenetic, with no restraint on the impulse to jump on the rail every three days and see a new city. This year I want to slow down on my trips, rent a flat for 2 weeks in one location, develop a routine, adopt that perfect seat in the café, make friends, read much, and find beauty in daily life.
11) Live honestly. I want to be more straightforward this year, and not hide my intentions behind clever lines. 'I'd like you to come over, where it's quiet and we can enjoy each other's company' is beautifully simple, and goes well with a gentleman's smile and a disarming calm. I don't need an excuse to get her home. I should be reason enough.
2) Stop texting. Girls will reply non-stop if you give them the chance. I'm going to be the chased one this year, not the chaser.
3) No porn. Fap rarely. I went to a European spa this past year, where hundreds of women were walking around nude. Old, young, all shapes, without inhibition. It saddened me to see how messed up my mind was, how harshly I mentally judged the "imperfect" ones. Yet I was so conditioned to "click on the next video" that I found myself unable to even appreciate the truly gorgeous women. It isn't healthy to have an endless supply of perfect, digital flesh. Life is real. Porn is not.
4) Grow a full head of healthy hair. It may seem trivial, but I've intensely missed the mane of my teens, and come to associate it with sexual vitality and strength. The biblical story of Samson comes to mind. This year I'm letting it grow, and largely chemical-free.
5) Get to sub-10% body fat and muscle up. This actually is for me, regardless of its effect on my love life. I need to be and feel lean.
6) Rid myself of everything I don't love. By the end of the year, I want my life to fit into a duffel, a backpack, and a box (for the best books).
7) Be as articulate externally as I am internally. I often think of the perfect wording for a professional, political, social, or romantic moment...after it is over. Bashfulness and verbal laziness inhibit too much. Speak clearly, confidently, and with eye contact.
8) Date within my league. Too often I let the affirmation of lesser women supplant my better instincts. If she's acting like she's out of my league (constant blushing, throwing herself, self-deprecation), she probably is. It's time I have a commensurate love life.
9) Make more genuine friends. This is my greatest weakness. A solid love life is built on solid social networks, and I am lacking good friendships. Work less, game less, spend more time out developing bonds of friendship.
10) Plant some roots in SEA and Europe. My travels thus far have been frenetic, with no restraint on the impulse to jump on the rail every three days and see a new city. This year I want to slow down on my trips, rent a flat for 2 weeks in one location, develop a routine, adopt that perfect seat in the café, make friends, read much, and find beauty in daily life.
11) Live honestly. I want to be more straightforward this year, and not hide my intentions behind clever lines. 'I'd like you to come over, where it's quiet and we can enjoy each other's company' is beautifully simple, and goes well with a gentleman's smile and a disarming calm. I don't need an excuse to get her home. I should be reason enough.