My situation is somewhat specific, but hopefully this can be a thread for any Designated Driver as well.
TL-DR at the end...
I don't drink, I've been sober for over 15 years.
Usually when I go out with a few friends ("The Locals"), I'm the DD. I don't mind driving. They cover my sodas for the night, but I always buy the first round for everyone. The people I go out bar hopping with don't start any drama or trouble. They're "fun drunks".
A few times, the friends have brought friends of theirs ("The Out Of Towners", or OOT's), and we've all piled into their SUV (again, with me driving). Same deal, they're "fun drunks" as well.
The Locals live about half an hour away from me. On the shopping nights, they have not only had a place/guest room for me to crash at the end of the night, but they haven't had a problem with me closing a chick and smashing her in the guest room.
All of the above works fine for me, I haven't had any issues as the group is relatively small.
A couple of weeks ago, the Locals and OOTs invited me to barhop with them/be DD in their neighborhood (about an hour away from my house). The
Initially there were only a handful of us going, but the barhopping party was posted on social media, and now there are enough people meeting at one location and going to warrant using a much larger vehicle.
The OOTs have access to a vehicle (passenger bus) large enough to accommodate the 30+ people in the barhopping group, and based on the time they expect to finish the rounds, they've also made arrangements for me to stay at a local hotel.
I'm all right with being the wheelman for the group, and the OOTs putting me up in a hotel is a class move in my opinion (versus them not taking the distance home for me that late into consideration).
Between dialogue with the OOTs and the "going" posts on social media, there's expected to be an abundance of single women either riding in the vehicle or meeting up with the group en route. And with the hotel, the logistics are 'there'.
My only concern is, with the number of people in the bus group, is that my SMV (?) will be devalued because I might be perceived as "just the driver". While I wouldn't necessarily lead with "I'm driving everyone around", at some point when we get back in the bus to go to the next bar, it'll be me in the driver's seat, which may not get (or keep) a chick's panties wet.
TL-DR
I'm driving about 30 people around to barhop, and don't want to be labeled or perceived as an employee or "the bus driver".
Any ideas on how to overcome this, via a sentence or two (or some other way) would be appreciated.
TL-DR at the end...
I don't drink, I've been sober for over 15 years.
Usually when I go out with a few friends ("The Locals"), I'm the DD. I don't mind driving. They cover my sodas for the night, but I always buy the first round for everyone. The people I go out bar hopping with don't start any drama or trouble. They're "fun drunks".
A few times, the friends have brought friends of theirs ("The Out Of Towners", or OOT's), and we've all piled into their SUV (again, with me driving). Same deal, they're "fun drunks" as well.
The Locals live about half an hour away from me. On the shopping nights, they have not only had a place/guest room for me to crash at the end of the night, but they haven't had a problem with me closing a chick and smashing her in the guest room.
All of the above works fine for me, I haven't had any issues as the group is relatively small.
A couple of weeks ago, the Locals and OOTs invited me to barhop with them/be DD in their neighborhood (about an hour away from my house). The
Initially there were only a handful of us going, but the barhopping party was posted on social media, and now there are enough people meeting at one location and going to warrant using a much larger vehicle.
The OOTs have access to a vehicle (passenger bus) large enough to accommodate the 30+ people in the barhopping group, and based on the time they expect to finish the rounds, they've also made arrangements for me to stay at a local hotel.
I'm all right with being the wheelman for the group, and the OOTs putting me up in a hotel is a class move in my opinion (versus them not taking the distance home for me that late into consideration).
Between dialogue with the OOTs and the "going" posts on social media, there's expected to be an abundance of single women either riding in the vehicle or meeting up with the group en route. And with the hotel, the logistics are 'there'.
My only concern is, with the number of people in the bus group, is that my SMV (?) will be devalued because I might be perceived as "just the driver". While I wouldn't necessarily lead with "I'm driving everyone around", at some point when we get back in the bus to go to the next bar, it'll be me in the driver's seat, which may not get (or keep) a chick's panties wet.
TL-DR
I'm driving about 30 people around to barhop, and don't want to be labeled or perceived as an employee or "the bus driver".
Any ideas on how to overcome this, via a sentence or two (or some other way) would be appreciated.