Quote: (03-13-2019 09:15 PM)BlastbeatCasanova Wrote:
Enough hamstering. TL;DR
-I'm young (28)
-I still have a lot of growing and figuring things out to do
-I've found a cute girl that has the qualities of a solid long term partner
-I'm divided on staying in this relationship and potentially building something with it vs. being on my own and banging sluts. I enjoy gaming girls and have a lot of potential to pull quality for a while as long as I take care of myself. I have turned down opportunities for sex because I don't want to deal with the guilt of cheating and mostly the paranoia of getting caught
-she told me she loved me a few days ago which got me thinking harder about this duality I am feeling.
Figured I'd post it here to see if any older chaps or anyone else could offer any perspective. Thanks in advance
I would say knock her up and lock her down if she is such a good hearted positive woman, but It doesn't sound like you're ready to leave the Game and settle down to me. Everyone could advise you to delete all the whores from your phone and settle down with this good girl, but if you still believe you are leaving whores on the table and haven't had your fill of playing the field, then it would be pointless for you to settle down.
Your options are
1.) Commit to this woman. Though you will be plagued with regrets of all the other women you are missing out on constantly, like when you're in the gym, at the grocery store, or out with her and still scanning the local talent behind her back begrudgingly.
2.) Tell her you're committed to her, while banging whores on the sly. The riskiest option, and almost certainly will fuck up your relationship with her. Either she will catch you cheating, or you will slip up spinning plates, or the relationship will just wither and die because you are divided internally.
3.) Be honest with her, and say you're not ready to settle down right now and are still not sure if you want kids/marriage...and see how she responds. If she tries to pressure you into it, it will certainly push you away. Most likely she will say she wants to keep things casual, and become increasingly controlling, curious or crazy that you won't submit to her, and it will probably keep increasing incrementally until the Wall approaches or until you decide to wife her or dump her.
Keep in mind, this duality you are feeling, is felt by pretty much every man alive who is married or in a LTR. It's the eternal question, is the grass greener on the other side of the fence or not? Is a bird in the hand worth two in the bush? And as your value grows into your 30s you will constantly be re-evaluating yourself and wondering...is this chick the best I can do? You will eventually get to a point where a low-drama, cool woman with average 7-8 looks is worth a lot more than any HB9 club slut of the day who will make your life a nightmare, but I don't know if you are at that point yet or when that might happen. Or who knows, maybe that perfect 10 unicorn is still out there waiting to be discovered. That's only something you can decide for yourself based on the value this woman brings and your own self-perceived value.